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post #181 of 264
Jen! I am hoping wee one is still cooking, hon.

I am so happy to see such high numbered weeks!

AFM: I'm 18 weeks. Anxiety has begun to encroach like a freight train at random moments; I have to make a strong attempt to push it down, the panic kind. My level II is next week Wed., and I feel like I'm going nuts wondering what the hell my cervix is doing. Am I a ticking time bomb? Is it 3? 2? Is it funneling? Is it like with Rowan? Is it longer? Shorter? Did the orgasm I had in my sleep Sunday morning where I was cramping afterwards cause any changes? Is my placenta going to abrupt again?

I watched a Deliver Me because I noticed the subject was about incompetent cervix. It just made me tense.

*breathe*
post #182 of 264
I just noticed this tribe here. My name is Emily. I'm currently at 24 weeks, and I'd been basically limiting activity since the end of June since I had a couple of bleeding scares (really, bleeding or spotting most of June, but two trips to the ER, with the second trip really scary...) and then, two weeks ago, the ultrasound showed no fluid, which thankfully as of yesterday is just really low fluid, so now I'm on modified bedrest. Right now I'm hoping to keep it as modified bedrest at home for most of the fall, but they might want me to check into the hospital before 30 weeks...

It's kind of been a bummer, because I'd been planning on taking the last class I need for my Master's degree this summer, and had to drop that, and then I had to miss a cousin's wedding, and cancel a trip to Europe to see my parents (though we replaced it with a relaxing week at the shore nearby, at least), and I'll be missing another cousin's wedding in October...

On the bright side, it's been a really good summer for getting a lot of reading done.
post #183 of 264
Hi, I'm Mandy, I'm 26 weeks. I haven't read all the posts...but could...what else am I doing?

I have irratible Uterus which didn't complicate last pregnancy but is quite different this time around. I've been having contrax since about 16 weeks and they were not like last pg. They're more like early labor contrax. So last week I told my mw, who checked my cervix and I was 40-50% effaced and "a fingertip" dilated. She told me not to do anything that causes contrax...well, that's everything. So I'm basicly on modified bedrest and taking liquid cal-mag. It's helping a bit, but not enough.

I called her yesterday and she saw me again since the contrax were worse and there was some change, no progression, so that's good, but change is bad. So I'll probably be seeing the high risk OB and I really don't want that. I want whats best for my baby, I just wish I didn't have to deal with this.

So I've been researching my options and my head is spinning. Cerclage sounds aweful and risky, the meds I looked up seemed questionable. What are my options? I'm going to ask mw when she calls me about switching from the cal-mag to just magnesium...any advice there?

Sorry I'm rambling, I feel so...overwhelmed right now.
post #184 of 264
I think cal-mag is better, because you need one to absorb the other. I don't know if a dr will put in a cerclage at 26 weeks, maybe they would do some progesterone shots (17P)? There are meds they can give you at home too to relax your uterus, but they make you feel jittery.

Try to think positively, there are so many of us here that thought for sure we would have preemies and are still pregnant. I've been 3-4 cm and 80% effaced since 31.5 weeks, and I will be 38 weeks on Friday! I hope you are able to rest and that baby cooks at least 10 more weeks.
post #185 of 264
welome mandy!!

pls someone school me on cal-mag.. what is this? and can it be used preventatively or only when you are getting contrax?
post #186 of 264
My midwives have me taking liquid clacium-magnesium all day everyday. It helps, but not always. Before I started taking it when the contrax started, they didn't stop, regardless of my actions (or lack there of). Now if I start having contrax and then lay down, most of the time they'll slow down or stop. Sometimes they don't and still, any activity at all will bring them on.

I take a tablespoon 3 times a day, I found it best with a meal, so breakfast lunch and dinner, but I've also heard of taking it all at once an hour before bed. I think since my contrax are all day, they wanted me to have a steady stream of it. It ends up being 1800 mg calcium and 1200 mg magnesium (I think) and a fair amount of vit D so you need to research and decide how much vit D you're comfortable taking especially if you are taking prenatal vitamins and any other suppliment (I have to cut back on one of my CLO a day to compensate). That much mag can cause diahrea which can complicate matters, so talk to your health care provider before starting such a big dose.

ETA: It can be taken when you are having contrax to relax your uterus but that didn't help me.

Oh, dani...how I hope they don't put me on progesterone. I had to be on it at the beginnning of my pregnancy adn it made me want to burn down buildings. I'll do what ever I have to, but I can't see how putting me under that much stress again will be good for me.
post #187 of 264
Hi Mandy- 17p shots or suppositories might help. I was on them from beginning to 32 weeks. Made me extra moody also, but wanted to avoid stronger interventions.
drink more fluids, dehydration can really irritate the uterus.
It's too late for a cerclage. Too risky at 26 weeks. Cal-Mag is better than just Mag and staying on bed rest. You may need the stronger meds. Procardia or Terb are some of the choices. I felt jittery with the Terb shot. I've heard Procardia is better. Hang in there.


Tellera- Praying your level II goes well.

Zejh/Emily - Welcome Can you take your last class online? I took an online class last quarter and it really helped as a distraction.

Dani- Almost 38 weeks! That's great news

Jen- Hope you and Amelia are doing well. I know your planning on going off the meds soon.

Star*Mora- Hang in there

Precious-How are you doing?

afm- I'm 37 weeks tomorrow. I had dr's appt yesterday. 3 cm dialated, baby had dropped, head down. I'm really crampy, lots of cervical pinching and pressure, low back and hip pain, some strong contractions. My mom had planned to drive here on Friday, but the way I'm feeling, she left today. It's a 12 hour drive for her and she wants to support me during early labor.
I'm having a lot of fears come up about health of baby. I don't know how big he's going to be since he'll probably be 3 weeks early. My first dd was 7lb 3oz, but that was at 39 weeks.
post #188 of 264
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Zejh/Emily - Welcome Can you take your last class online? I took an online class last quarter and it really helped as a distraction.
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Thanks!

Unfortunately, it's not one of the classes they offer online--I checked, since I would have taken it online if that had been an option. I'm just going to have to wait a little longer to get the master's. (and I still need to write a thesis, anyway, which would probably require a good bit of physical library time...)

At any rate, I've managed so far to distract myself reasonably well... I've already started thinking through more distractions since it's looking likely that by the end of October I'll be checked into the hospital, which means I might not have reliable internet... (If only that were the only concern!)
post #189 of 264

Hi everyone! I am 39 weeks today! I had a midwife appointment yesterday and baby is OP, so I need to try to get her to turn. Fun stuff!


Edited by CaliMommie - 7/30/13 at 10:59pm
post #190 of 264
calliemom: congrats on 39 wks! way to go!

amandamarie: thanks for asking. hang in there. you've made it this far!! praying for you that when baby is healthy and ready, he'll make a safe appearance.

justmandy&dani: thanks for the info on cal-mag. good to know!

afm: i'm now 27 wks! went in for my gtt today. not so bad at all. i posted in my ddc to field for why some ppl didn't agree with taking it and after reading all the relevant reasons, i decided I didn't have a real reason not to do it. i think when you're high risk the world of valid reasons for refusing certain things really changes.... well it has for me anyway.

the baby has been moving ALOT. actually, i am not sure if some of this 'movement' is really contrax or bh. Sometimes the movement is REALLY hard and it feels like he's rolling over. very uncomfortable. kept me up all night 2 nights ago and i didn't get any sleep till the following night.. cuz, I spent the whole next day trying to figure out what position to lay in to get the 'movement' to stop. I think my uterus tightens up when its happening .. but honestly, I feel like its always tight. I just dont have a real sense of what's what. I generally feel like i'm wearing a tight girdle.

my next appt is not for another 10 days. at which point i'll be 29 wks. I feel like the weeks are going faster now.
post #191 of 264
tellera- hope the u/s goes well next week
emily and mandy - welcome!!
dani - congrats on 38 wks! wow that seems so impossible to me right now
amandamarie - congrats on 37wks and you will have a healthy baby!
calimommie- wow 39wks huge congrats
preciousstone - glad to hear time is passing quickly for you and you are quickly moving through the micropreemie weeks

and jen,best of luck with birthing amelia -considering everything you've been through i think it's awesome you've made it to 35wks!

afm, on and off cramping all day - just hoping to hold on for another 10 days to get to term and experience what it's like to have a full term baby!

arlene
post #192 of 264
Wow, that's for all the support, I love this thread! I've been reading for 2 days and feel like I know you. I'ts great to read about all you mamas who were where I'm at and have made it to term-there's hope for me yet!

I'm really frustrated with my back up mw..she hasn't returnd my or my mw's multiple phone calls and she is the key to getting into the high risk dr. I'm going to be on the phone all day tomorrow getting some answers.

Okay, so do any of you have kids? I have 3 taht I homeschool and they're getting bored (we all are) and we're only a week into this. What do I do with them besides let them have free reign of the house and play too many video games?
post #193 of 264
Someone just pointed out in PAL that Amelia Rae's here
post #194 of 264
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Someone just pointed out in PAL that Amelia Rae's here
Yay! So good to read her post, glad things are well for them.
post #195 of 264
I notice that some of you are still with midwives... How'd you manage that? I got exactly one appointment with a midwife back in June, and then after what turned out to be the last bleeding episode I had, they switched me over to the OB. Better yet, now she's turned my care over to the maternal-fetal specialist I've been seeing. Now, it's not a new person, at least, but it's still not someone whom I've specifically chosen, since I just went to the specialist they told me to go to.

I'm feeling rather helpless about this right now. Has anyone else here been kind of tossed about in terms of who's officially providing your care? I'd like to regain some feeling of control, especially since, apparently, the specialist told the regular OB that he thought I'd be giving birth by 34 weeks--now, I've known it was a possibility that I'd give birth early for a while, but I really want to know whether he's just talking being prepared if it has to be early, or if he thinks that it absolutely must be early... For one thing, right now as things stand, I'd have to have a c-section because of where my fibroid is, and it would have to be a classical incision, and I've always wanted to have a lot of children, so that makes that a lot harder to do... But besides that, I've read that fibroids can and do often move and even sometimes shrink during the third trimester, so if I can hang on long enough so that vaginal birth becomes possible, I'd really like to.

I know I should only care about what's safest and best, and I try to do that, but it's so much harder when it's just people talking at me and being tossed from one person to another.
post #196 of 264
zejh, in my case, I still have my midwife and she's my main care giver because my pregnancy is not nesicarily high risk unless I go into labor before 36 weeks. She's also helping me wade through all of these decisions.

I feel out of control in lots of ways, my other care givers included. I feel better when I'm making informed decisions...so far it's all in theory but I get to test that out soon.

afm-I'm giong to the hospital for fFn test today. I'm hoping I can get them to do a few more tests while I'm there so I don't have to see and dr's more then I have to. I want them to test for GSB, UTI (I don't think I have either, I just want to rule them out) and do an ultrasound. If all goes well, maybe I can just stick with my mw for a while.
post #197 of 264
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I notice that some of you are still with midwives... How'd you manage that?
i can only speak from my experience living in canada (although my late godmother was a midwife in long island, then near syracuse, and lastly in the poconos). in provinces where midwifery is regulated it is part of our universal health care system which means if you want to be with a midwife it actually takes a fair bit to risk out to an ob. you do have the choice between a midwife (highest demand so you usually only get a choice between one or two midwives), a gp,or an ob.

so i am on complete bedrest because of my history of preterm labour(ds1 was a 34wkr due to unexplained pprom), and because my cervix is super short. and i have made it a full week and a half longer so far. is your major issue fibroids then? one of my girlfriends who just had a vbac with her midwives had a transfer of care at the time of delivery because she had fibroids that impeded a vaginal birth - but she didn't have fibroids this time around!

for me because i have only a few risk factors, i still qualify as low risk enough to stay with my midwife (i needed to make it past 34wks). with my ds1 it was an emergency transfer of care and an emergency c-section but my midwife was with me until they transferred me to a hospital that had a level 2 nicu. because i have more than 2yrs between births my risk for having a preemie is pretty much the same as someone who hasn't had one, and of course i get to go for my vbac - if i make it to 37wks i am allowed to go for a home vbac. the midwives have certain set parameters and beyond that they can refer to specialists etc, if required. midwives here have privileges to specific hospitals (my midwife's is less than a 10min drive away).

perhaps there is a midwife in your area who would look at taking on you as a client. i love my midwife, she is very practical and supportive and i feel like she's helped me feel like this is a normal pregnancy (outside of the bedrest!). she was really positive and optimistic through everything that happened with ds1 and his birth, and i immediately was able to transfer back to her care once my son was out of the nicu. she comes here to my house for appts since i've been on bedrest and we chat once or twice a week on the phone too.

i would have been ok with my gp as well (3 of the drs out of 5 there do deliveries), i had problems very early in the pregnancy and she shared her own vbac story with me, and how she nursed through her pregnancy with her 2nd, so i knew that i had another good option had my midwife not been available this time around.

i think i totally lucked out that i had several good options, but as i said it takes a lot to risk out to an ob if you don't want to go with one. i hope you have a chance to interview other care providers who may be a better fit for you.

btw, as i stated i had a 34wkr (33+6) and there was no time for steroid shots or anything else to ready him for the world and he didn't need any help breathing. he had fairly minor issues - no sucking reflex, tired quickly, heart murmur so he had to be fed by gauvage tube and took a LONG time to latch (i pumped exclusively for 3 months)before he finally latched, but now he is seriously one of the healthiest kids around (he's been sick twice in his 2.5yrs - a stomach flu and ear infection but no other colds or flus, which i am told is unheard of for preemies, and especially since he is in daycare - full time right now - but normally part time). 34wkrs do really well almost 100% of the time - in the nicu 32wks was considered the magic number by the doctors and nurses there as virtually all the preems at that gestation do well and catch up by the time they are around 2 years old.
post #198 of 264
The fibroid is only an issue because (a)it's kind of blocking things where it is now, and (b)it looks like the fibroid might be partly attached to it, which is one of the big reasons I've been taking it super easy for most of the pregnancy.

The other issues, which may or may not be related, is that I was bleeding on and off through most of June (towards the end of my first trimester) and since late July I've had low fluid, which they said was no fluid 2 weeks ago, but now there's fluid again, thankfully! They've gone from thinking it was the placenta to thinking my water broke, and I'm not really sure--the placenta theory was nixed because the growth is in normal range, but I come from two families of people who tend towards 90th percentile and up growth, and plus both the growth and the fluid improved once I got more serious about rest and drinking lots of water.

It's hard to tell for sure on things like leaking fluid right now since the fibroid, in its location, is making my bladder more squished than it would normally be, so there's definitely some dribbling from that, too.

At any rate, yeah... the thing that actually annoyed me was that the OB was doing, really, less than a midwife would have done--she'd take the heartbeat, and then just read from the ultrasound reports, which I'd generally had a day or two before, and the maternal-fetal specialist (who will now be my main caregiver for the pregnancy) had already summed everything up for me. Unlike the midwives (whom several of my friends have used) the non-specialist OB didn't check for any other signs--one of my friends mentioned the midwife had noticed her chapped lips, when she hadn't even realized she might be dehydrated. Nobody noticed my chapped lips, even when I specifically asked if I might be dehydrated! (And before I started my water drinking binge these past few weeks, there were huge chunks of skin coming off regularly!) So, yeah, those little things...

As it is, I can't give birth at the hospital I was going to, since they only have a level 2 nursery and they want me at a hospital with a level 3 nursery to be safe--and I'm fine with that, since if something does happen, I'd rather be at the same hospital as my baby! (And, thankfully, living near Boston, the only thing I can complain about is that the Level 3 hospital requires driving through downtown to get to... but I also have a choice of 3 or 4 hospitals all about the same distance! I know some people have to go literally hundreds of miles from home for that sort of thing, so I'm definitely thankful...)

but, yeah, it would be nice if I could get midwife care for the regular appointments even if I still have to otherwise prep for a likely complicated delivery and birth.

At any rate, I'm feeling a bit better than I was before after talking to my mom for a bit--she pointed out that the specialist I'll now be seeing is the same one I've already been seeing, and that what's been getting me regularly frustrated all summer is the regular OB. So, now, at least, I've got the specialist who can do more than just read reports and take heartbeats.

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Originally Posted by star*mora View Post
i can only speak from my experience living in canada (although my late godmother was a midwife in long island, then near syracuse, and lastly in the poconos). in provinces where midwifery is regulated it is part of our universal health care system which means if you want to be with a midwife it actually takes a fair bit to risk out to an ob. you do have the choice between a midwife (highest demand so you usually only get a choice between one or two midwives), a gp,or an ob.

so i am on complete bedrest because of my history of preterm labour(ds1 was a 34wkr due to unexplained pprom), and because my cervix is super short. and i have made it a full week and a half longer so far. is your major issue fibroids then? one of my girlfriends who just had a vbac with her midwives had a transfer of care at the time of delivery because she had fibroids that impeded a vaginal birth - but she didn't have fibroids this time around!

for me because i have only a few risk factors, i still qualify as low risk enough to stay with my midwife (i needed to make it past 34wks). with my ds1 it was an emergency transfer of care and an emergency c-section but my midwife was with me until they transferred me to a hospital that had a level 2 nicu. because i have more than 2yrs between births my risk for having a preemie is pretty much the same as someone who hasn't had one, and of course i get to go for my vbac - if i make it to 37wks i am allowed to go for a home vbac. the midwives have certain set parameters and beyond that they can refer to specialists etc, if required. midwives here have privileges to specific hospitals (my midwife's is less than a 10min drive away).

perhaps there is a midwife in your area who would look at taking on you as a client. i love my midwife, she is very practical and supportive and i feel like she's helped me feel like this is a normal pregnancy (outside of the bedrest!). she was really positive and optimistic through everything that happened with ds1 and his birth, and i immediately was able to transfer back to her care once my son was out of the nicu. she comes here to my house for appts since i've been on bedrest and we chat once or twice a week on the phone too.

i would have been ok with my gp as well (3 of the drs out of 5 there do deliveries), i had problems very early in the pregnancy and she shared her own vbac story with me, and how she nursed through her pregnancy with her 2nd, so i knew that i had another good option had my midwife not been available this time around.

i think i totally lucked out that i had several good options, but as i said it takes a lot to risk out to an ob if you don't want to go with one. i hope you have a chance to interview other care providers who may be a better fit for you.

btw, as i stated i had a 34wkr (33+6) and there was no time for steroid shots or anything else to ready him for the world and he didn't need any help breathing. he had fairly minor issues - no sucking reflex, tired quickly, heart murmur so he had to be fed by gauvage tube and took a LONG time to latch (i pumped exclusively for 3 months)before he finally latched, but now he is seriously one of the healthiest kids around (he's been sick twice in his 2.5yrs - a stomach flu and ear infection but no other colds or flus, which i am told is unheard of for preemies, and especially since he is in daycare - full time right now - but normally part time). 34wkrs do really well almost 100% of the time - in the nicu 32wks was considered the magic number by the doctors and nurses there as virtually all the preems at that gestation do well and catch up by the time they are around 2 years old.
post #199 of 264
hey bedresting mamas, it's been a bit of a rough day and my usually optimistic self has vacated the premises temporarily.

i am 36wks tomorrow - 2 wks longer than with ds1. am feeling great about that but am exhausted from today

i've had a lot of fluid leaking in small gushes so of course i was anxious (it started getting more frequent last night). so i toughed it out until 10am this morning and then said f-it and called the midwives. so i had to go to the hospital and since they were checking for amniotic fluid and trying to check the cervix the large speculum was used - no gel. i was already stressed and omg it HURT. like more than labour hurt kind of hurt.

so i tested positive then negative...yeah not very reassuring, but was told the "ferning" test was negative for amniotic fluid. because i have so much fluid, there was no way to accurately check my cervix.

so i came home and just kind of lost it for a bit. i've been on strict bedrest for a full month now and it's been very anxious and stressful and i just couldn't hold it together anymore. my midwife said i still do have a shot at my homebirth (7 more days), and will call again each day to check on me until my appt on thursday (she called today a few hours after coming home from the hospital).

being at the hospital definitely made me want this homebirth even more, so i am just scared and stressed and sometimes just wish i could have had a little bit of an easier time with this pregnancy (i've been on restricted activities since 13wks before my strict bedrest started). i am so grateful to have made it this far but man, it has been a challenging time in my life and for my dh and ds.

so i guess hopefully i am in bed jail for another week. sorry for the lack of cheer in this note, i just can't muster up much joy right now.
post #200 of 264
star - i'm soo sorry you're having a bad day.. you know, you're only human.. and what we're doing is by NO means easy!! It's ok to have a non-cheerful day. You're going thru alot. I don't need to tell you it'll all be worth it in the end.. and God never gives you more than you can bear... etc etc etc.. you know all that stuff. ... but don't beat yourself up cuz you happen to be human and the pressure of all this sucks! It's okay.. pp&t to you.
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