Rude comment time. - Page 2

[mrsrayray]

Originally Posted by Raene

Hmm...as someone on the other end of things (I get a lot of "You're due SO SOON?! You're soooo tiny!!") I actually like to hear comments about how big I am. Hearing the tiny thing makes me feel like I'm starving my baby or something. It's obnoxious.

oh my gosh YES i HATE the "you're so little!" as if i'm not eating or something. arrrrgh.

[Mamabeakley]

So we are going to a family wedding in a couple of weeks, where I will be pg and with my two sons ages 5 and 3. DH's nephews who are 4 and 2 will be there, too. All 4 cousins look like they could be brothers. I am SOOOO tempted to take them all somewhere in public and see if I can get anybody to ask me if they're all mine! It probably wouldn't actually work since they are half-way accross the country and therefore don't actually know me very well, but it would be FUN . . . in a wicked kind of way . . . can you tell that other people's rude comments (at least, people I don't know) don't really bother me?

[Raene]

Another one this morning at the eye doctor!

The tech looked at me carefully and said..."so are you expecting?" and I said yes, and she asked when I was due. When I told her she kept looking at my belly quizzically and said "SO soon?! You're so small!"

I just decided to agree and said "Yeah, tiny." And then I pointed at my DD next to me and said "I was tiny with her too and she was 9 pounds" at which the lady looked shocked.

Hmm...

[Jilian]

I don't think anyone should comment on size period except to say "you are the perfect size and look great". Just because we are pregnant doesn't mean we are no longer sensitive to weight scrutiny. I've been both "too small" and "too big" while pregnant and I've got to say the "too small" comments hurt the most. It is as if people are implying that you are purposely doing something to jeopordize the health of your child for the sake of your own appearance. It especially stings when you are doing all that you can to try to gain weight.

[Talula Fairie]

I think the worst for me was this pregnancy when my MIL mentioned that I looked "sooooooooo BIG already!!!1!!!" I mean, what am I supposed to do with that? Yeah, I was overweight before I got pregnant (thank you, bipolar meds) but at that point I think I'd only gained about 6 lbs.

It's my third baby for crying out loud, I am short with a short torso and it has nowhere to go but out. My midwife always was so reassuring about my size, she said sometimes with subsequent pregnancies your stomach just goes 'oh, I remember this!' and gets big really fast. Then the baby catches up. I was surprised to learn she was right, my belly is about the same size it was a month ago. I mean you know, it has gotten a little bit bigger, but the exponential rate of expansion has slowed.

[babykaoss]

An old friend of mine said that his view of childbirth was, "Thud, oh look a miracle! Thud, oh look another one! The smart people aren't having babies anymore, but at least we have a lot of miracles running around!" This was then reported back to me by a mutual friend, and really, it hurts my feelings deeply.....even though I'm trying not to let it get to me......

[Jadzia]

I was at Whole Foods last week and there was a lady on one of those scooters in the store. We were both headed down the same direction so I offered to let her go ahead ahead of me. She smiled and said I should go first because of the baby and I thanked her and said I was walking slow these days so I didn't want to cut her off.

Anyway, later on when I was almost done with my shopping, I headed back to grab something I forgot and I saw her again. She said hello to me and said "Wow, you haven't gone into labor yet." I said "I hope not, I am not due until the end of August so I have almost 3 months to go still!" And she was like "Three more months?!?" Then she said "Is there just ONE in there?!?" I said yes. And then her friend who was with her said "You're pretty short - is the father of the baby really big?" I was like "Um, no, not really. I am just short-waisted is all so my tummy has no where to go but OUT."

It didn't bother me that much, but I have been laughing about it ever since and telling people. I guess I must be HUGE, lol.

[zebrachick83]

another short pg mama here and someone just told me the other day that i wasn't going to make it 9 more weeks....i guess she was telling me i was too big too. and this is also someone who is quite heavy, even though she's not pg....i don't get it. i told her with both of our kids i was late, so i'm expecting to be late with this one and she said no you're not going to make it. even though i'm on my 3rd baby, i still don't feel like i'm some kind of all-knowing pg expert. i don't understand why some other women do.....:

[leighann79]

Ok, this isn't really rude, but I'm so tired of it. Everyone keeps telling me how miserable I'm going to be since I'm due end of July/early August. They go on and on about how hot it will be and how miserable I will be. Why must they rub it in???
Yes, I know that. I even thought of it before we TTC. I decided that having this baby that we had decided on sooner rather than later was more important than being hot at the end of pregnancy. If we had waited so that we weren't pregnant during the summer I was going to have to wait at least 6 months to TTC!
Of course I don't want to go into all of that with every. single. person. who finds it necessary to bring up the heat. So, I grin and bear it and say, "Yes, I know."
Grrrr!

[Onemagicmummy]

i am actually a bit thankfull its summer. to me it means its warm enought at night that i can sleep with a light cover over me and use out duvet as a support for my bump as well as my v shaped pillow and i can actually get some sleep. dh tends to sleep without the cover all together and it ends up a pile in the middle of the bed, just right for me to stuff under my bump and support my leg, if it was winter it would be too cold to do that and i would be miserible.

having been pregnant 5 times over summer with 1 summer baby, and 3 fall/winter babies it actually doesnt bother me. (mind in saying that british summer time is an oxymoron lol)

Kiz

[Onemagicmummy]

oh i got some more comments yesterday, i got the look : yeah these two. asked if i was crazy to which i replied no but it helps, and told i waas a glutton for punishment (that really bugs me, like having kids is a punishment, how? i dont get it!) and asked about my births. they were also shocked that my longest labour was only 12 hours and my shortest was just over 4, my first was 6.

Kiz