I can see why this might be making you a wee bit upset
I have a 7 and a 6 year old who are currently in mainstream school, and honestly, some of the nutty over-sexualized BS that goes on there is beyond the pale. I can remember being very young and thinking Luke Skywalker was dreamy, but I draw the line at a seven year old wanting to wear a bikini and "date". Not happening. No way. There is WAY too high a proportion of pregnant high school girls in our small town of 2000 for me to be comfortable with that kind of stuff.
Same reason I "won't have Hannah Montana in my house"
That girl is no positive role model for A at all.
Anyway I digress. At eleven, yes, you're not a little
child any more, sure. But you're not a grown up either. I do see that if left to his own devices, he might pick the wrong way - sure, that's your job as a mom to make sure he doesn't fall into a negative way of thinking about cops, or women, or drugs.
Already now we have conversations in our house about what drugs do to people and why it's important to be nice to people, and not to hit. A and D are lovely children, but with such amazingly negative outside influences, it can be a challenge sometimes: conversations have to be had at strategic moments.
When I see a serious attitude in A, it usually is an outside influence that has done it. Specifically being allowed to binge-watch the Disney Channel or something at a friend's house. Then, we have to sit down and have a talk about the way things are. Then, we do something together as a family!
We go out in nature a lot; try to listen to a lot of music from around the world; paint together; craft together and bake together as a family. Cutting TV RIGHT back has helped an awful lot
I did once find a CD with totally inappropriate explicit lyrics in A's CD player upstairs one day, which she'd been allowed to buy at a garage sale by a relative who had no idea what she was really buying. I gently removed the offending item and...well, I took it away and now I've no clue if it even exists any more! I said "not this CD, but let's listen to some other interesting music instead!" and we listened to Paul Simon or something.
All in all, it's a totally bizarre world out there nowadays. There are so many "whatever, let's just do drugs and mess about with 101 different women/men" influences out there. It's so not cool with me if my kids go that way - I've seen way too many people fall into that and end up wasted and on drugs, living in car parks. Not cool. So we just kind of redirect, which is a gentle, nonviolent approach. Give them a bunch of other options and lay down some boundaries - which there with always be in our house
(for adults as well as children) - and happy children we have
Anyway there we are. We love to let our children explore, but we wouldn't let them walk along proverbial train tracks - like gangster rap or drug experimentation. We go fishing instead and explore nature and creative stuff. It works for us
*HUGE hugs* and good luck mama! XXX