This is all so good to talk about. My birth went pretty well, but it was still scary as hell and ended up with a 3rd degree tear. I feel like many of you do, that we have convinced ourselves it shouldn't be scary and are waiting for the rainbows and unicorns. F that noise. It hurts, it's primal, and it's traumatic.
I'm having real concerns about whether and why I should consider a homebirth for my second. I was convinced I didn't want to be in a hospital for my first, and things went well in the birth center, but I am having misgivings about whether it's really the safest, wisest choice. We have a hospital that is very natural birth friendly, and I'm thinking about looking at it a bit closer. Funny part is, I'm nervous about telling my DH I'm feeling this way!