I love this book, and I detest most parenting books.
It completely changed my outlook on parenting (MDC helped with this as well though).
I definitely tend to re-enact the way I was parented as a child. Rather than being autocratic, I tend to be passive aggressive and I withdraw when I'm frustrated or mad (which my DS definitely interprets as withdrawing my love).
I've let go of many of the unhealthy ideals about obedience and such. What I really struggle with is:
1. Dealing with conflict in a healthy way, not being passive aggressive.
2. Requiring that other people (including DS) act respectfully toward me and not allowing abusive or disrespectful behaviors (this is more than just a parenting style, it's a problem in my relationships)
3. Being consistent with how I deal with things
Those are my challenges and would love to hear from other mamas who might be facing similar things.
We have worked with a play therapist and I have learned about reflecting feelings back, really listening, how to let DS know that I'm listening, etc.
In the mama's situation with the radio above, I might have said something like, "You want me to know that you're really mad right now because you had to come inside. You wanted to keep playing with your rocket. You want me to leave you alone right now." or something along those lines. I think children feel that they aren't listened to, and aren't understood a lot of the time.