|Now I live in a city with a smaller number of Mexicans and I live on the "white" side of town. Mexicans here are assimilated into the American culture which I'm trying to do myself. When the subject came up at work a couple people agreed so I wondered if it was common. Where I come from kids aren't dropped off for "me" time. I was taken care of after school and summers by my grandparents but mom picked me up right after work. I went everywhere Dr appointments, haircuts, shopping, worksites with my grandparents.|
I can only speak from my own experience and perhaps that of my parents, but I have seen a lot of resistance to the presence of kids in a wide variety of places. I live in a big city, so maybe it is different in more rural areas, but generally, parents are discouraged from bringing their kids to the doctor's or dentist's office, hair cutting places, certain restaurants, etc. Not saying that there are rules posted outside the offices, just saying that I have that perception. I'm not particularly excited about having my child in the doctor's office while I'm having a GYN exam, and the last time I was at the dentist, I was in so much pain that there was no way I could have watched my child whilst getting an extraction. People who work in many doctor's offices and the like tend to get annoyed in having to watch someone else's kid while they are doing their own job. I can understand that to an extent...it's not what they are paid to do.
When I do see people bring their kids to doctor's offices, etc., they are almost always accompanied by a spouse or a grandparent or a friend...someone who can watch the children during the exam or meeting. I have zero family in this city, so if DH can't assist with these issues, I have to find someone else. This is rare, as I try to do everything like this during my work hours. My parents have their own lives, and their attitude is that they raised their kids and now they can do what they want to do. Nothing wrong with that, but the concept of extended family, grandparents, etc. is almost non-existant in my life. That makes me pretty sad.
Now knowing a teeny, tiny little bit more about where you are coming from culturally-wise, I assume that a lot of emphasis is placed on extended family. And, I think that perhaps in Mexican culture and other non-US-type cultures, kids are more valued as part of the community. All you have to do is go on other non-MDC forums (parental and non-parental) and hear the complaining and whining about other peoples' kids. There is an overwhelming sense of self-entitlement in this society...as in...get your kid out of my face! It's like, if someone can hear a crying baby over the music on their I-Pod, then you've invaded their imagined "constitutional right" to space and silence in public settings. I'm saying this tongue and cheek (partially) but living around a lot of people day in and day out has led me to a lot of such conclusions!