Hi all, (this is going to be long and rambling - just a warning!)
Here is a question. Are their any older second family (for lack of better phrase) dads out there? My DH and I (married 5 years) are planning on trying for a child later this summer. This is a second marriage for my DH - he has a 14yo DS and 12yo DD from his first - firsts for me. If we are lucky baby will arrive right around his 48 birthday and my 35th. As a side note - I have a great relationship with his DS and DD. They're great kids.
Now I have done plenty of research and prep on my end. I have finally reached a stage in my life where I feel I can devote myself to being a mom: mentally, physically and financially. DH position has always been that if I wanted children that was great but if I didn't he had no problem becuase he had children. He is not "passive" about the decision to have children and is very excited. I have a very different bent about birth and child rearing than his ex and he has been enthusiastic about learning about birth methods (water), etc. We have also discussed the "blending" of the families - DH kids are here 3 days/week and EO weekend.
I guess my real question here is: how do we aid the blending of families, especially with such a large age difference? Are there older dads out there? What are your feelings on having a child later? Do you feel your missing anything/gaining anything? Also, anyone out there with large age differences between kids?
I think we have a wonderful opportunity here and want to make the most of it for everyone! Thanks! Any comments are welcome!
Here is a question. Are their any older second family (for lack of better phrase) dads out there? My DH and I (married 5 years) are planning on trying for a child later this summer. This is a second marriage for my DH - he has a 14yo DS and 12yo DD from his first - firsts for me. If we are lucky baby will arrive right around his 48 birthday and my 35th. As a side note - I have a great relationship with his DS and DD. They're great kids.
Now I have done plenty of research and prep on my end. I have finally reached a stage in my life where I feel I can devote myself to being a mom: mentally, physically and financially. DH position has always been that if I wanted children that was great but if I didn't he had no problem becuase he had children. He is not "passive" about the decision to have children and is very excited. I have a very different bent about birth and child rearing than his ex and he has been enthusiastic about learning about birth methods (water), etc. We have also discussed the "blending" of the families - DH kids are here 3 days/week and EO weekend.
I guess my real question here is: how do we aid the blending of families, especially with such a large age difference? Are there older dads out there? What are your feelings on having a child later? Do you feel your missing anything/gaining anything? Also, anyone out there with large age differences between kids?
I think we have a wonderful opportunity here and want to make the most of it for everyone! Thanks! Any comments are welcome!
