It caused some stress for a little while. He desperately wanted to play with these kids who called him names, tied him up, hit him with sticks and rocks....
if other kids are being big meanies to my children, then i definitely help navigate the situation. not to mention, my kids certainly would not be influenced by bullies to mimic that behavior, but rather it would make them feel upset and probably scared (as the OP stated her dd is being influenced).
i thought we were just talking about kids that are raised different than our comfort level & how we deal with that as it rubs off on our own children. do we keep them from other children altogether? or do we allow exposure and help them learn from such situations? that's what i thought the OP was asking anyway. my dd is friends with one such girl. she is a little mouthy imo & i find she has much more freedom to watch and do things that i feel are inappropriate for a 7 year old. she also isn't a very fair friend imo. my dd and i have had to talk about why our family and rules are different than her's. we've also talked about when this little girl is unkind. it is always an awesome opportunity for us to learn and grow though. my dd likes this little girl a lot, but admittedly, she grates my nerves. i've found balance by keeping playdates at my home only, which allows for more supervision by me - but my dd still gets to enjoy her friendship. plus my dd has learned to be more assertive and can now set personal boundaries for herself. this friendship has been training ground for her to learn that