I said that just a few weeks ago, and felt awful.
I'm very sensitive normally, and I have no idea why I said it. I asked this really sweet mama if her daughter was hers (12 months in age). I'm not sure why I asked, maybe it was cause she looked young, but I doubt it since I am younger a nanny and TTC.
I work as a nanny in a very nanny/caregiver neighbourhood, maybe I was trying to make small talk. I have no idea. I was rude and felt awful. She said yes, and I tried to reverse cycle my way out by saying "well of course she is yours, she has your eyes!".
Anyways, good people say dumb things. I wasn't trying to hurt her feelings and will probably never say that again.
That was probably the first time someone had said that to her, because her baby did really look a lot like her. I was just being weird.
Try not to let it upset you. I've been asked my fair share of insulting questions. Shrug them off and keep smiling.