Crying--how much?

[goodmomma76]

OK, I know Miss K has reflux and colic, and she cries more than average. But my question is this, if you are holding your lo and they are still crying, so you move and rock, and walk, and try the swing, and try everything that has worked before, do you just sit where you are comfortable and do your best to comfort them, or keep changing positions and trying to think of something else that might work? This is what I have been doing, but sometimes I am to the point of exhaustion. So I just sit and rock her while she cries. Then I feel like I am not trying hard enough to comfort her. Or the walking and swooshing her back and forth is working, but after 30 minutes of it my arms are tired and my back hurts and I need to sit and then she cries again. Would you feel guilty for sitting for a few minutes and talking to her....

[claras_mom]

nak

No, no guilt at all. Because you haven't left her.

[Murph12334]

ds cries a lot. When there is nothing i can do to stop the crying, i might as well do something that is a little more comfortable for me. Becuase trying and trying and trying there are times he then needs placed in a safe area and me walk away for a minute. For my own sanity.

I never understood this with the last kid, but OMG when they cry non stop, just do whatever to get through it. Trying to help them not cry but if they are going to regardless at least help your own sanity

[Sasharna]

No, don't feel guilty. Murph is right.

DS1 cried so much I thought I'd go insane. Sometimes there was just nothing anybody could do. I say... check everything you can think of, hold her for a while, and then check again. If you keep trying new things and don't rest, you'll wear yourself out. You are trying your best.

[racie0417]

If you have read my posts, you know I have been there. If you are not leaving your LO, holding them, and "there" for them, it is fine to just sit and hold them.

For about 2-3 weeks, the only way to get LO to sleep was to hold while he screamed himself to sleep. I could walk, rock, shush, swaddle, etc....but he would fuss annd cry for hours (sometimes as long as 9 hours straight without sleeping), but if I stopped trying and just held him while he screamed (and I mean top of the lungs screaming), he woould fall asleep after 20-40 minutes.

Honestly, I hated it, but knew I was doing everything I could for him, and would hold him and usually cry myself while he did it.

Once we got the right amount of Zantac for his reflux and started allowing him to sleep on his tummy, the screaming has stopped and he cries sooooo much less.

Sending lots of hugs to you and Miss K.

[foreverinbluejeans]

I have a 9 month old grandson that is teething and wants to be held and you have to be standing or he cries. He's heavy and I have a broken foot with a cast! We live in Tucson with no AC and my foot is swollen in my cast and I can't stand long.

Sometimes you can find things other than holding that work. Sometimes you just gotta do what works. Car rides, vibrating seats, swings, ect. You just need to make sure you don't abuse mom substitutes.

[goodmomma76]

thanks for all of the support guys. you are great.