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OT: 16 and pregnant on MTV

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I'm not sure if this is the right place to post this. Has anyone seen this show? I have to admit, I don't watch MTV but last night I was flipping channels because I couldn't sleep and ofcourse I saw a baby and stopped. I always stop to see what is on if I see someone with a baby. That's when I saw the show and I got sucked in and watched it for a bit.

I used to volunteer at an agency long ago that helped first-time teen mothers, ages 12-18. It was a group of women that was started in order to help first-timers to avoid having a second unplanned pregnancy. It was a great organization, and this show brought back memories. I didn't enjoy the show and I feel it probably won't sway any teens from getting pregnant by watching this show, but maybe it will, who knows.

A major thing that stuck out was that the mom on this show was using formula to feed her baby. I've noticed in other places and in my family especially that the teen moms and younger moms usually use formula. I was sucked in to it with my first child as well. So that part was sad to me. Well, that and the fact that these kids didn't seem at all ready to be parents. I felt bad for them that they didn't get to do the extracurricular things that they wanted to do. Well the boy seemed to still be doing whatever he wanted but the girl wasn't. It's sad that they had to have so much responsibility so young. It's just one of those situations that you don't know how hard it really is until you are thrust in to it.
post #2 of 116
I saw it - it was sad, baby crying in the room and father just sleeping (pretending) there, waiting for his girlfriend to come in...
I don't remember seeing her(girlfriend) smile once...

Baby Bentley was adorable... but I switched channel fast, it was soo annoying.

Another show from last night: "I Did Not Know I Was Pregnant" (Discovery Health).
TMI follows:
I was shocked by reaction of this first time moms, esp. the one who gave birth in the bathroom of the fast food restaurant where she worked -> she was in there with 3 co-workers, gave birth and baby ended up in the toilet bowl, and granted, mom was in shock (she had no idea she was pregnant), but the rest of them were just looking at the baby, standing there...

Arghhhh!
post #3 of 116
I admit MTV is my junkfood...I watched it and actually think it is a more accurate portryal of "real life" than some of these other campy teenage draumas. I think the intention was to show HOW HARD IT IS....having that be said I think some of the parenting skills could be improved (IMO). I'll be tuning in next week too LOL
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Originally Posted by KikaKika View Post
Another show from last night: "I Did Not Know I Was Pregnant" (Discovery Health).
TMI follows:
I was shocked by reaction of this first time moms, esp. the one who gave birth in the bathroom of the fast food restaurant where she worked -> she was in there with 3 co-workers, gave birth and baby ended up in the toilet bowl, and granted, mom was in shock (she had no idea she was pregnant), but the rest of them were just looking at the baby, standing there...
I saw that a couple of months ago. The mom who gave birth at the camp site was quite alarming. I kept thinking what if she had dropped the baby in the toilet. eww.
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Originally Posted by mamamia10
I admit MTV is my junkfood...I watched it and actually think it is a more accurate portryal of "real life" than some of these other campy teenage draumas. I think the intention was to show HOW HARD IT IS....having that be said I think some of the parenting skills could be improved (IMO). I'll be tuning in next week too LOL
I agree. I can't believe I watched that station, let alone for almost 30 min. But I agree that it was definitely a realistic portrayal of how it really is with a baby.
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Moving to the television forum.
post #6 of 116
I watched the episode too and felt sooo badly for the girl - and the baby. I wish she would have left him and gone back home to her parents. Though I was sucked in, it was really hard to watch.

This week's episode seems just as rough. I am glad that they are showing how truly difficult it is to raise a child as a teen, though I admire the young girls's attempts to make it work. I just wish they also had better role models for parenting.
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I know it's way too much to ask but I wish for once they'd show teen parents who do make it work like my DH and I. For once I would like teen parents to be supported and not put up on the screen as an example of how one's life is ruined I know I know, the fear then is that more teens will get pregnant but you know being a teen parent is hard enough it's even harder when shows like this further the assumption that it's all bad all the time. Then NO ONE is willing to be supportive of mom or dad. That's tough at any age.

I was a teen mom and I formula fed. My babe was born 5 weeks early and spent a week in the hospital. The nurses convinced me I needed to FF and I was so afraid of them calling CPS that I complied with whatever they said. There is more of a sway over teen moms because of the lack of support they get. We know that people are waiting for us to fail and that hangs over us constantly.

http://www.girlmom.com pretty much sums it up for me.
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: maggie and i are both young moms, who are with the fathers of our children, raising our families very successfully. hey why don't we get a TV show?

i bf for a few weeks and struggled the whole time then switched to formula b/c meds were contraindicated for BFing. the next one will be BF. the next one will also (hopefully) be and HBAC. currently we co sleep, baby wear, selective vax, no circ, GD...

oh wait.. we don't have a tv show b/c we are boring admittedly most places warm against almost all of those things...
post #9 of 116
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: maggie and i are both young moms, who are with the fathers of our children, raising our families very successfully. hey why don't we get a TV show?

i bf for a few weeks and struggled the whole time then switched to formula b/c meds were contraindicated for BFing. the next one will be BF. the next one will also (hopefully) be and HBAC. currently we co sleep, baby wear, selective vax, no circ, GD...

oh wait.. we don't have a tv show b/c we are boring admittedly most places warm against almost all of those things...
I say we pitch the idea to TLC. They seem to be airing anything these days.

I remember when I brought Lilith home we had been told not to sleep with them so I stayed up all night with her because I just could not put her in her cradle. Everything was screaming at me not to. But I was so afraid of being caught doing it wrong and having CPS on us (we had been threatened before about it because I had hyper emesis and they swore I was actually bulimic and upset about the pregnancy weight . Finally my wonderful husband told me just to do what I felt was right. And that is how we got into co-sleeping, answering her cries, and babywearing. Then we discovered Dr. Sears and didn't feel so nuts. We just referred to him when others would try and school us.

Why did I just share that? I think I had a point but it's 10:30 and has been a long day.
post #10 of 116
young mothers who are in committed relationships with the father of their children doing things like co sleeping, bfing, baby wearing, selective vaxing and goodness knows what else.

if you aren't looking really closely at how old they are they might fool you into thinking they are normal moms and dads who have a healthy relationship, love their children tremendously, and try to do what is best for their family.

i'm a sahm too.. but i think as a young mom the proper term in unemployed.
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i'm a sahm too.. but i think as a young mom the proper term in unemployed.
: No flipping kidding!

BTW I do all the NFL stuff because I am just trying to be trendy, doncha know. Just ask anyone. Never mind that Lilith was born in '03 before most of this became hip and you know like everyone I know thinks we're nuts. It's all about following Hollywood when you're young! Just wait- I'm sure I will be told I got preggers with my first to join the JaimeLynn Spears/Bristol Palin club. I'm so cool I did it over 5 years in advance!
post #12 of 116
i do it because the people on the other side of the computer screen told me too

i sell out big time when i am talking to other young moms though. i can make natural birth, breast feeding, co sleeping, baby wearing, and not spanking seem like the coolest trend since high school musical.
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I was 19 when I had DS1, was unable to establish breastfeeding but knew breastmilk was best and was able to EP and give him breastmilk exclusively for almost 10 months before having to use formula due to loss of supply. I co-slept (safely of course), wore my baby, never CIO, etc.. I also had NO support, in fact my mom told me on a daily basis I needed to just give him formula, that EPing was ridiculous and inconvenient for everyone, etc. So yeah, it bothers me when I see young mother feeding formula by choice, CIO, never holding their babies, etc.. most young mother made the choice to have sex and I wish more of them would step up to their responsibilities when that choice results in a baby.
post #14 of 116
: i'm no moron i knew darn well what i was doing. and i knew that i was going to be a good mom too.. admittedly it was unexpectedly soon... but that didn't really change anything.. i just did what i would have done if i were 35 and had been married for 10 yrs.
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i bf for a few weeks and struggled the whole time then switched to formula b/c meds were contraindicated for BFing. the next one will be BF. the next one will also (hopefully) be and HBAC. currently we co sleep, baby wear, selective vax, no circ, GD...

oh wait.. we don't have a tv show b/c we are boring admittedly most places warm against almost all of those things...
I wish there was a show like that on TLC.
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There is more of a sway over teen moms because of the lack of support they get. We know that people are waiting for us to fail and that hangs over us constantly.

http://www.girlmom.com pretty much sums it up for me.
You are so right. I remember when I worked at the agency that helped with teen mothers how a few of the mothers in my age range and older would constantly talk down about the girls. I often wondered "why" they were there if they didn't truly want to help those girls. A lot of the girls made mistakes. Some did get pregnant on purpose to get the cute baby but not all did that. I always gave them the benefit of the doubt. No matter why the baby was conceived - it was there and it was reality for them all. I learned a lot back then from those girls and it has stuck with me for many years.
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A lot of the girls made mistakes. Some did get pregnant on purpose to get the cute baby but not all did that.
Yup - and I've even known a couple who did it to hold onto the boyfriend (not the greatest idea, ime). And...I've also known some who were just ready to have a baby. And, I've known much older moms (30s, even) who had babies to...have a cute baby or hold onto a boyfriend. So...whatever.

The way my life has played out, I sincerely wish I hadn't done the "smart" thing, and had started my family earlier than I did. (I was 24, almost 25, when ds1 was born...and I still had people dismissing my parenting and my views with "but, you're very young", so whatever, yk?

I haven't seen the show. I don't even know if we get MTV, and I have no idea what channel it's on, if we do. They may run the show on MuchMusic, though...our channels definitely purchase US shows for broadcast.
post #18 of 116
I want to sign up for the hypothetical natural young mama show on TLC! Let's write a letter

I just watched this "16 and Pregnant" show on MTV.com because I read about it here and we don't have a television. I then saw the online "exclusive scenes" and one was Maci, pregnant and talking about why she didn't want to nurse her baby. It was sad and disheartening for me to be reminded of all those misconceptions that people have. I try sometimes to just not let myself acknowledge that the ignorance exists and though I know it's not healthy to live in a fantasy bubble, it makes life easier sometimes.

Anyway, I think this show is a terrible idea. I don't really see any good coming of it.

Ryan was... a UAV. I liked Ryan's dad though, he wanted things to work out with Maci so badly and he was constantly trying to get Ryan to spend some time with Bentley.

There were some scenes in which the treatment of Bentley left me crying and running to kiss my own babe. Such a sad situation.

I have to say though that Maci showed a lot of maturity in her life. A lot of her decisions I don't agree with at all, but no one could say that she isn't working her butt off.
post #19 of 116
Hi Mamas,
Ok.... so I saw the 16 and pregnant show with Maci and Ryan and Baby B a few days ago, well I actually caught it when she was riding the quad and then went into labor.... I was so saddened by R's actions.... and by Maci saying (I don't remember it word for word) that she didn't want to tell him to stay at home, but she wanted him to not workout so much, go out so much, etc.... IMHO, she should have just told him. Guys aren't mindreaders, and if she wanted him to do these things, she needed to TELL him directly.
I was also saddened bc she was saying that she didn't have alot of support, but from my point of view she had tons. Her mom was watching B while she went to school and worked and did the dance thing. That is WAAAYYY more support than any person I know in real life gets.
~maddymama
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I just watched the latest episode- Farrah. I really really wanted to SCREAM at the screen. It was so so so sad.
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