parenting, to each their own or up for debate? - Page 11

[4inMyHeart3inArms]

I said something to someone who was beating a child in public once (well guess what one defines as beating but it was more then a spanking, the person was hitting the child randomly while yelling at them) and I said something. I don't know how it turned out other then I wasn't the only one who noticed, more official people got involved, offer the family parenting support, and it turnd out the person hitting the child was not the parent but a grandparent.

little i agree with this:
i try to remind myself that many people who spank their children were spanked themselves and either don't know another way or do not think that it was harmful to them at all.

thats why I say something, because I really think if people knew there was a way to discipline without hitting that they would choose it. Sure, not everyone would, but I think many less people would spank if they didnt feel like they had to, because I really dont think people enjoy hurting their children.

[KirstenMary]

Originally Posted by 4inMyHeart3inArms

all my posts were most directly related to hitting. It's the ONLY thing I ever approach in person. I will join discussion online about other things though. I did understand the point of view on circ too, but that is not something that I have ever seen someone doing in a grocery store or the mall or anywhere else for that matter. But you are right, I probably would say something if I saw someone circumcising their baby in a parking lot. If its in a doctors office I'm not there to know about it to say anything to begin with.

Even a crying baby I wont say anything because I realize that can be taken out of context (like a baby in a stroller who is crying not because the parent practices CIO or doesn't want to hold the baby, but because she knows her baby gets overstimulated and that she can put the baby down for a minute or two and he'll just fall asleep but holding him would make him cry longer and harder) I don't see how hitting a child (in the ways I have seen it done) could be misinterpreted or taken out of context though, which is why its something I feel comfortable speaking up about.

As or the other issues and online - yeah I'll talk about circ if someone asks, I'll debate about cosleeping, I'll advocate on proper car seat use, I'll advocate for night time parenting instead of CIO, etc. basically yes, in a forum designed for discussing those things I will discuss them.

nak

mine were related to circing.

[FoxintheSnow]

I'll gladly give info or experience if someone asks for it or opened a discussion on a parenting topic I have input on. Otherwise, I pretty much keep it to myself. As I get further along in this parenting journey I realize more and more that everyone's different and has a different way of doing things. I feel like there is this wave you go through when you have kids... when you're pregnant for the first time, you are pretty sure you know what to expect, then you have your baby and you realize you know nothing. You get that under control and think you know everything and eventually you mellow out and settle somewhere in the middle. Well that's my experience anyway.

[newbymom05]

I'm very judgmental but keep my opinions to myself unless asked. Everyone has the right to live and parent as they see fit. Except for spanking--that I can't handle.