Originally Posted by 1littlebit
plus as i said up thread i wish someone had said something more then "theres no right choice and its up to you" when i was struggling with bfing .. no one wanted to be politically incorrect and actually have an opinion.. but i could have used some information, opinions, and support.
Saying that there's no right choice and it's up to you IS an opinion. And someone could have just as easily told you, "Breastfeeding is low class and gross and inferior, you should just give it up."
That's the problem with claiming that people should offer more challenges to other's parenting. It doesn't mean that they're going to be challenges from the "right" side.
Information, opinons, and support don't have to be mutually exclusive, but in my experience information and support vs. opinions often are.
When someone asks me if they should get a sling or a stroller, and I say, "You know, it's really up to you and your kid's preference", I am NOT being politically correct. That is my opinion. When someone asks, for a very high oral needs older baby if it's "okay" if they try a pacifier, when I say, "Hey, it's up to you," that is my sincerely held opinion, because I think pacifiers (so long as they don't interfere with breastfeeding) are neutral.
Some of us who hold the belief (VERY STRONGLY in my case) that the vast majority of parenting does NOT have One Right Way and thus it's important to direct people to follow the needs of their family and not mine. That is not a "PC" belief, in fact you will get crap from both sides if you hold that belief (though hey, no matter what "side" you're on, you're going to get crap as a parent, I'm not sure that anyone catches more or less than anyone else).
You're dismissing the above as a non-opinion, when in fact it IS an opinon.
That's why I feel that a lot of times framing parenting discussions as "challenging" and "debating" is a waste of time because it tends to draw people to think of two oppositional stances (which isn't the case in parenting), and it becomes very easy for people to dismiss people in the grey/more neutral areas as being non-opinionated or "PC" when that's not the case at all.