those of us going from 2 to 3

[darcytrue]

For those of you going from 2 to 3 children, I'm curious as to whether anyone else has had the same thoughts that I have.

For instance, I know what it's like to have 1 boy and 1 girl. I will soon have 2 girls. I never knew how excited I could feel to know I will be the mother to 2 girls. : I wonder how different will they be? How alike will they be? Will they be friends throughout life? I only know what my 7 yr old DD is like so it's hard to imagine another girl with her own personality.

And I never thought I'd have a # 3. DH and I seriously never discussed having another child. So the thought of having a third little one in the house and wondering all the time WHO it will look like and the type of personality it will have is so interesting to me. I only know what it's like to have two children to compare to one another. My DS and DD are total opposites, nothing alike. So I definitely wonder what type of personality this little one will have and watching her personality come out one day and she becomes who she is. I'm weird I know. But I keep thinking of these things.

It's funny, I never thought about this kind of stuff when I went from 1 child to 2, especially since I knew I was having a girl after having had a boy first. I can't believe I get to have two children of the same gender. It just seems so strange to me at this point.

[2boyzmama]

We're going from 2 to 3, but it's another boy, so the gender factor isn't an issue

There are times when I feel up to my neck with just my two, and then I have little panics about how I'll handle a third!!

There are times when I realize just how less mature Connor is than Ian was when Connor was about to be born, and then I panic realizing that even though there will 2.5 years between them, in so many ways Connor isn't close to being that "old" so it's as if they're much closer in age. That panics me sometimes!

Then there are other times when I see Ian and Connor outside playing and having SO MUCH FUN and I think "next summer, BabyBoy3 will be in the mix, won't that be a blast!"

We pulled down all our boxes of baby clothes last night and did a big re-sort of everything and I alternated from excitement to dread to being extremely motivated to tackle this "3 boy" thing!

We visited a bike shop this weekend and looked at trail-a-bikes (link) and I got all excited thinking about family rides with Connor and BabyBoy3 in the bike trailer and Ian on the trail-a-bike...that'll be a blast!

So yeah...my mind is all over the place We re-arranged clothing drawers yesterday to make room for the baby's clothes...things like that are making it seem more "real". I mean, I seem my huge belly every day, I feel the baby moving around in there, but it still doesn't feel "real" sometimes.

[Julia24]

I find the whole thing intriguing as well.

I already have two girls - and they are like yin and yang to me (people out and about will comment that they sure look like sisters - and I just don't GET it! ) Grace is tiny and has curly hair and brown eyes and olive skin, and Maddie is tall, fair, with blue eyes and stick straight hair! They do have similar features, I guess. And, of course, their personalities are like night and day as well - so I always wonder if this third child will have a THIRD totally different personality that I can't even fathom, or will she simply gravitate towards one of her sisters, yk? Plus, this baby will kind of be the tie breaker in looks around here - fair and blue eyed like me? or dark and brown eyed like daddy?

I'm not worried at all about handling them - I run a home daycare and have had far more children than this in my care....and besides, there's ALMOST 4 years between each of my kids - makes it a bit easier. I AM worried bc I'm going to have two tiny babies at all times beginning once my baby arrives, so it's going to be a little like having twins. (except the older baby will be like 3.5m when my baby is born (and that baby's counterpart - one here m,t and the other w,r,f - will be only 2m). Should be a ride - and another reason I'd like to have some help, I think!

My Mom is one of three girls and Trav's Mom is one of three girls, so I have faith that they'll be wonderful partners in life to one another as they grow up....they may hate each other sometimes, but they'll still love one another and KNOW one another better than any other person on this planet. I love that about sisters. (I don't have one). I'm SO happy for them having one another - and I try to facilitate that relationship every day. (She's your sister FOREVER, and you LOVE her - treat her that way).

[confustication]

I'm completely overwhelmed by the thought of three!

Tonight I have a 7 year old with a migraine, and an 11 month old who was up at 3 am, and the thought that there will be another to juggle scares the bejeepers out of me at times...

On the flip side, my kids LOVE each other. DS thinks the sun rises and sets over DD, and DD- an only child for so many years- seems to have found a sense of peace in having another child around, and not having to live in a very adult world alone.

I am not entirely sure I WANT to know the gender before the birth, though DH does want to know... I get 'girl' vibes, but who knows?

[guestmama9922]

yesterday a mum I know made a faux pas, she said, OH going from two to three was SO HARD!!!!

er.... thanks for that.

I'm not that worried. I have 3.5 years between each of my kids, so they are all at different growth levels. I will have an eldest girl & two boys. I think that suits the dynamics of our family perfectly and I was hoping for another boy (not only for the fact hat I find boys much easier).

I just hope my lovely little mama's boy doesn't get too upset at the interloper.

[darcytrue]

Originally Posted by powpow

and I was hoping for another boy (not only for the fact hat I find boys much easier).

I have to admit that I wanted a boy all along too but since finding out we are having a girl I've been equally as excited. My youngest DD (age 7) has a lot of stuff to hand down to her little sister and they can maybe share a room one day, so that's good. DD wouldn't have liked the idea of sharing her room with a boy, lol. Plus, I'm looking forward to having 2 of the same gender, something I've never experienced. How weird I feel that way I guess.

I'm like some of you in that I'm glad my children are spaced out. I can focus on this baby when it arrives and not have to worry what my next oldest is getting in to because my 7 yr old is independent in a lot of ways and what she can't do her older brother will do for her.