My aunt died yesterday night. She was like a 2nd mother to me. When my mom left my dad, she supported us. My mom took care of her kids & my sisters & I while she worked. My mom & aunt & middle sister & cousins still live together. Well, not my aunt anymore, she's dead. Gone. My oldest cousin is 21, the youngest a month shy of 18.
The worst part is that it was completely unexpected. She was 52. From the looks of what happened, it looked like a heart attack. It was horrible, because I got the call that she was being rushed to the hospital, so we ran down, but she had already passed. Apparently, her heart stopped just as the paramedics came to pick her up & they couldn't really get it restarted. She & my mom were still living there, along with my sister, & my cousins & uncle. She was the main breadwinner. So, right now, on top of grieving, we have to figure out what to do. There's no life insurance, no major savings that I know of. My aunt traveled a ton for work (self-employed) with my uncle. My uncle is in his 70s. My mom helped her manage her business & properties (not good ones, all in Florida & apparently falling apart), but she can't take over because she's not really knowledgeable in it.
My sister is finishing up this August in nursing, but she's not a permanent resident. Apparently work visas for nursing were recently lowered in priority. According to the lawyer, it can take them 3 years to 'process' the application. My cousins are all still in college--another expense. In fact the youngest has her orientation today at the local University. It's all fucked up. Tomorrow the entire family is getting together to figure things out. And I feel lost.
I couldn't sleep at all tonight. We got home around 2:30am. I couldn't sleep for hours. I woke up at 7:30 this morning & could not get back to sleep. Dh is losing his job. He found out this Friday that the owners of the building he works in are suing the business owners for back taxes & they want to terminate the lease early. They have 5 days to pay up or leave. I don't have a job. My younger sister is in the process of getting her green card, but through some mess-up, her name got screwed up, so it's being delayed 'indefinitely'. BIL has a good job, but it's not enough to support my mom, my uncle, my sister & cousins. Maybe, maybe if through some miracle (please God, are you listening?) Dh & I manage to find good jobs soon, my younger sister gets her papers straightened out quick as lightning so she can find a job, we might make it. My cousins are all looking at finding at least part time jobs. Please, please pray for my family.
Also, if anyone has any advice or something, it would be greatly appreciated.
Ami
The worst part is that it was completely unexpected. She was 52. From the looks of what happened, it looked like a heart attack. It was horrible, because I got the call that she was being rushed to the hospital, so we ran down, but she had already passed. Apparently, her heart stopped just as the paramedics came to pick her up & they couldn't really get it restarted. She & my mom were still living there, along with my sister, & my cousins & uncle. She was the main breadwinner. So, right now, on top of grieving, we have to figure out what to do. There's no life insurance, no major savings that I know of. My aunt traveled a ton for work (self-employed) with my uncle. My uncle is in his 70s. My mom helped her manage her business & properties (not good ones, all in Florida & apparently falling apart), but she can't take over because she's not really knowledgeable in it.
My sister is finishing up this August in nursing, but she's not a permanent resident. Apparently work visas for nursing were recently lowered in priority. According to the lawyer, it can take them 3 years to 'process' the application. My cousins are all still in college--another expense. In fact the youngest has her orientation today at the local University. It's all fucked up. Tomorrow the entire family is getting together to figure things out. And I feel lost.
I couldn't sleep at all tonight. We got home around 2:30am. I couldn't sleep for hours. I woke up at 7:30 this morning & could not get back to sleep. Dh is losing his job. He found out this Friday that the owners of the building he works in are suing the business owners for back taxes & they want to terminate the lease early. They have 5 days to pay up or leave. I don't have a job. My younger sister is in the process of getting her green card, but through some mess-up, her name got screwed up, so it's being delayed 'indefinitely'. BIL has a good job, but it's not enough to support my mom, my uncle, my sister & cousins. Maybe, maybe if through some miracle (please God, are you listening?) Dh & I manage to find good jobs soon, my younger sister gets her papers straightened out quick as lightning so she can find a job, we might make it. My cousins are all looking at finding at least part time jobs. Please, please pray for my family.
Also, if anyone has any advice or something, it would be greatly appreciated.
Ami
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