Sex and newly pregnant

[Snapdragon]

I just got my faint bfp today and a super faint yesterday. Am still cautiously optimistic.

Anyway- how do you all feel about having sex in the very beginning of pregnancy? Honestly I feel like I would rather not risk anything messing with this little bean, I want it to stick. I am sure logically that intercourse can't mess up an early pregnancy but I still have no desire to risk it! How do others fell about this?!

[lilviolet]

I'll be 6 weeks on Wednesday. I've been very hesitant regarding sex but I have had it twice since I found out (2 weeks ago today). My ob said that as long as you don't have any risk factors (which I don't) it's ok. That said, I am still scared and very cautious...

[MeepyCat]

In a normal pregnancy, sex at any time will have no negative effects.

If the pregnancy is not normal and healthy, sex will not tip the balance to make things worse.

If you don't feel like having sex, there is no reason why you should push yourself to do so, but don't feel like you have to abstain either.

[Lauren31]

Geesh, I still feel scared to have sex after finding out I am pregnant... it's like a fear of spotting (I am RH negatiive and have no idea what I should do about spotting) and fear of miscarriage as well as being tired and semi nauseated...

[MeepyCat]

Lauren, I'm Rh- too, and while doctors have offered me rhogam shots for first trimester spotting, they also generally concur that spotting often results from vaginal irritation, and that unless the bleeding turns out to be miscarriage-related, the shot isn't actually necessary. (In the event of miscarriage, you want rhogam w/in 72 hours of the first bleeding.)

Also, check up on your partner's blood type. If he's Rh-, you don't need the shots.

[by-the-lake]

YEAH Katie34!!!!! Been rooting for you!!!!!!

[beccabus]

The first time around I was so nervous about MC that I stopped exercising and didn't want to have sex at all.. this time around, the fears have already really subsided and we've haven't held back at all!

[flavorfull1]

This is something I have been pretty hesitant on. The first time DH and I DTD after my positive test I ended up spotting. It was light but I didn't want to see anything ever that was pink/red! DH said something to some of his father friends and they were all like "oh yeah that happens." Still didn't make me feel better. DH is out of town for work this summer so the opportunities are far between. We have since, more carefully, and everything was fine. Is spotting like that really just something that happens when you are pregnant d/t hormones??

[Perdita_in_Ontario]

I am forbidden to have sex (or do anything very vigorous) until the effects of my IVF cycle are gone (enlarged ovaries, etc), but frankly, I can't imagine wanting to have sex right now - nausea, bloating, exhaustion, etc. I know things will even out in a few weeks, and then I'll be back to normal!

[MeepyCat]

Originally Posted by flavorfull1

This is something I have been pretty hesitant on. The first time DH and I DTD after my positive test I ended up spotting. It was light but I didn't want to see anything ever that was pink/red! ... Is spotting like that really just something that happens when you are pregnant d/t hormones??

There are a bunch of causes of spotting during pregnancy. Blood flow, particularly to the uterus and the surrounding organs, increases when you are pregnant, which makes the capillaries in the vagina and the cervix somewhat more fragile (they're under more pressure). In addition, stuff is changing shape, and getting pressed into new positions (more strain on small blood vessels), and hormonal changes may make the skin more fragile. Some of it's hormones, some of it is physiological. It really is just something that happens when you're pregnant.

[Thandiwe]

Guess I'm in the minority...we just found out less than a week ago and have already dtd. It was FABULOUS!! I usually struggle with sensation and the increased bloodflow really helped increase sensitivity. I suppose every pregnancy is different; definitely watch for any signs/symptoms that your body can't handle it. Where I'm at in my life, I feel like I can't stop living on account of a new baby to be...harsh, I know. I'm forced to be active with three under three, and I've continued other activities as well (such as sex, bike-riding, mild exercising, etc).

When in doubt, definitely trust your gut. If you feel that waiting is best, then wait.

[starshine1001]

DTD in the first trimester is great normally for us. I've been spotting for 4 days though (I have always had a super-sensitive cervix), so we're taking it easy until it subsides.

[Pinoikoi]

We enjoy sex during pregnancy a lot.

One time I was told not to though, but that was because in that particular pregnancy, my placenta was over my cervix? I think? Anyway, it eventually moved on its own, but the OB was concerned for a while..

it was tough avoiding.

[FertileMertel]

At first, I was just too crampy to want to have sex. That has gone away now, but I am really nauseous and tired. During my last pregnancy in the 2nd trimester, you would have thought I was the man and my husband was the woman (faking a headache!) I just couldn't get enough! I'm looking forward to that again!

[basje]

Is anyone else's partner not in the mood?

I've definitely have been horny in the the evenings the past few days, amazing through the morning sickness fog, but for the first time ever my partner has claimed not to be in the mood. Maybe it has something to do with the surprise nature of this pregnancy but I was shocked when he said he was too stressed to even think about sex. Anyone else had this happen? I felt like such a teenage boy saying "Well maybe we could start and if your still not into it..." It's been over a week and I've got to say I'm dying.

[Snapdragon]

Originally Posted by basje

I've definitely have been horny in the the evenings the past few days, amazing through the morning sickness fog, but for the first time ever my partner has claimed not to be in the mood. Maybe it has something to do with the surprise nature of this pregnancy but I was shocked when he said he was too stressed to even think about sex. Anyone else had this happen? I felt like such a teenage boy saying "Well maybe we could start and if your still not into it..." It's been over a week and I've got to say I'm dying.

Do you think he is just concerned about the safety of the baby and wants to play it safe? That would be my guess.

[itsajenism]

With my first, I didn't stop until morning sickness hit (I was sick ALL THE TIME.. even waking to puke).

This time around, I haven't had sex at all. I want to, but the previous miscarriage has me not wanting to do anything that will even possibly cause me to start spotting. Not to mention, my breasts are really sore (and a key part to foreplay for me), and by the time DH is home I'm way.to.tired to even think about it.