THE ONE THREAD - June 15-22 - Page 20

[Geigerin]

MI

Best wishes for your TTC and may you get a BFP as soon as possible.

[MaerynPearl]

I'm going to be stressed out for the next few days. I just asked XDH to give up all rights to the kids and let DF adopt them when we get married.

He said (omfg) he would actually THINK about it rather than an outright NO.

I mean, I'm sure I put up a fair argument about how this way they can get medical through DF and we wont go after him at all for child support.

Its not like he ever sees them (a weekend every 6 months or so, at his mothers request) and hes really not well off right now... jobless and living with his mother who is losing her home. No need to pay child support probably looks like a really good idea.

SO he should let me know on Friday (DDs birthday) whether or not he will agree to it.

[Geigerin]

My mom asked for this of my birth father. He declined and still didn't pay child support. However, we just moved out of state and I never really saw him. When I was 21, I had my dad who raised me adopt me as a father's day gift.

I guess the point here is that no matter what XDH says, your kids will know who their real father is...the one who holds their hair when they're sick and meets BFs at the door. It may be easier if it's all legal for insurance purposes (and I can soooo understand that). But, since you're stressed about it, try to think about the positives, no matter what happens.

[MaerynPearl]

DF is already their daddy... and I've heard DS tell DD that he wishes DF were their 'real daddy' because he wants his chin. LOL

I only want it to be legal for the medical/pay raise/not needing to fight the ex in court to let me move out of state with the kids even though he never sees them reason.

That and the day after DF proposed to me DS signed his homework with DFs last name and we had to explain he could only get DFs last name if he adopted him... and his response was 'well why don't you?'

[HappiLeigh]

Just checking in to see how Skeeter's 2WW is going...

Geigerin, congrats!

MP, would it hurt your children's feelings if their dad actually gave up rights? They are going to be lucky either way to have your DF.

[MaerynPearl]

Originally Posted by HappiLeigh

Just checking in to see how Skeeter's 2WW is going...

Geigerin, congrats!

MP, would it hurt your children's feelings if their dad actually gave up rights? They are going to be lucky either way to have your DF.

Well DS has already voiced to me that he wants DF as his dad and not his step dad...

and I know DD loves him too...

and the thing is (it may seem odd) I would still let their bio dad see them, about as often as he does now... once or twice a year. He hasn't really been active in their lives... even when we were together he would pretty much just go to work, come home and ignore us, sleep... then start over.

[MaerynPearl]

I just asked DS since hes awake now. I explained it all and told him I asked his bio dad to make a choice... and DS said he should let DF be his dad. (He didn't even seem to care that I said he would still see his bio dad... he just shrugged)

[LZP]

Originally Posted by MaerynPearl

Yeah, I have quite a while to start looking But since I need them before I can get fitted... I figure why not buy them soon and start breaking them in little by little...

I guess red is a good idea, especially with me... Im not known to downplay much. If any of you enjoy looking at shoes and see any with small or no heels that you think would look good with that dress, feel free to show me them I really don't do good with the shoes... I prefer to stick to being barefoot!

OT: I found a CUTE pair of MJ style with a flower on the top, Red, from Urban Outfitters.... no heel. /OT

[skeeter30]

Hey guys! just checking in quick....my son is really sick. I love his doctor. He has a cell phone # that he give out to his parents so they can call him when ever they need him. He opened up his office and saw us last night at 10:30. What a amazing man!! Anyway, he thinks my son has pneumonia. He is going to see him again today and swab his nose to check for any kinds of flu too. DS is running a fever that i couldn't ge down and he was taking tylenol and motrin. The temp was 102.5 even with both of those in him. He has thrown up a few times but, both times were when I gave him meds and he hates the taste so I think they just aren't sitting right with him and he is gaggin on them. I just feel so bad. I hate it when he is sick.

AFM I am fine...still spotting and pretty much resigned myself to the fact that I'm out this month. I was a little upset yesterday but, I am better today with it. My temp went up a little today but, that could be to lack of sleep and sleeping somewhere other than my own bed b/c I had to keep getting up to check on DS and give him nebulizer treatments. I am pretty much not even concerned with myself now that he is sick so...

Happi that is so sweet of you to check in in me!! I feel special!! Thank you!! How are you doing BTW??? Feeling ok??

Mae Your little deal sounds pretty promising!! That would be nice and I understand your needs with medical and what not. Luckily my DH has awesome insurance and he can put my son on it too w/o him being his. Just b/c we are married my son can be on his insurance. Which makes things a lot easier and cheaper for us. My son has asthma and allergies. He always seems to need something. I hope things work out for you and your kids!! Good luck!!

Welcome MI_Dawn I am so sorry about your loss....I hope your stay here is short and you get a BFP very soon. Good luck and lots of

Lucy Thanks so much for the encouragement!! You have been awesome for me these past few days!! I really appreciate it too!!

Well....I better go now...I hope you all have great days!! TTY all soon!!

[GrapesBunch]

Temp took a nose-dive but still no AF as of yet... Weird thing is that I have no spotting, cramps or anything pointing to AF yet. I do feel very hot which is weird since my temp is so low...and I definitely feel like I have to puke and can't stay out of the bathroom. Maybe the maca has at least got me back to pre-BC shape...less cramps, no spotting, etc... Any opinions?

[lucy_v]

skeeter... I'm so sorry about your son. That's awful to be that sick, poor kid. I hope he gets better soon.

Grapes... that temp drop stinks. I don't know anything about maca though.. I have had cycles where AF showed no signs until she snuck up at the last minute, but I hope it's just a late implantation dip for you!

[LZP]

skeeter- I didnt mean to ignore you yesterday in your angst - meant to say somethng and forgot (surprise). I know you're not likely here today since DS is so sick... but i wanted to let you know i can understand feeling discouraged.
If AF comes, allow yourself to be grumpy, sad and generally upset for a few days. It is normal and totally "allowed!" be gentle with yourself. Maybe this is just spotting, as we've heard lots of stories of people spotting and sometimes getting full on AF andbeing BFP. not that i am trying to placate you.....
just thinking of you. maybe in taking such good care of DS this weekend, your body will get the hint and kick start those baby making/mommy-making hormones, and you'll be knocked up before you know it!!


Update:
blood work from this morning confirms ovulation, and level is consistent with 5DPO. YAY! makes me feel better about going the natural route for a few cycles, and (for now at least) saying no way to the ART. its just too stressful. Now I feel like even if AF comes, which I sincerely hope it doesnt, then I will have a good plan to help my body be as natural as possible.

could implantation twinges happen over 2 days? just got the same slight pain in the same spot as yesterday... SAME everything. but way shorter.

[lucy_v]

lzp... great news about your blood work!! I checked my chart notes, and I had what I described as an "anxious uterus" from 8dpo (pm) to 10 dpo. So, if that was related to implantation, then it did last for a few days. :

I'm still hanging around here (obviously!) because I want to see you girls get your BFPs, and also because I'm trying (unsuccessfully) not to get too excited just yet. I'm only 17dpo, still earlier than I had even taken my first test last time. I had an appt. today & they checked my hcg levels. They're doing a 2nd in a week, so we'll see... I've still got almost no symptoms, except for an awful & vacillating mood.

[LZP]

Originally Posted by lucy_v

lzp... great news about your blood work!! I checked my chart notes, and I had what I described as an "anxious uterus" from 8dpo (pm) to 10 dpo. So, if that was related to implantation, then it did last for a few days. :

I'm still hanging around here (obviously!) because I want to see you girls get your BFPs, and also because I'm trying (unsuccessfully) not to get too excited just yet. I'm only 17dpo, still earlier than I had even taken my first test last time. I had an appt. today & they checked my hcg levels. They're doing a 2nd in a week, so we'll see... I've still got almost no symptoms, except for an awful & vacillating mood.

Oh Lucy, dont wory about no symps... they really might not come on full throttle for another few weeks, if at all. I know plenty of mamas who have gone the full pgncy without any of the typical symptoms, except fatigue and/or moodiness. it is totally normal. your levels will make you feel more at east next week, I bet, but i can totally understand your desire not to get "too attached. Be very gentle with yourself these next few weeks and months. It's hard to understand within ourselves being so excited and scared at the same time.

[Danielle13]

Originally Posted by LZP

Update:
blood work from this morning confirms ovulation, and level is consistent with 5DPO. YAY! makes me feel better about going the natural route for a few cycles, and (for now at least) saying no way to the ART. its just too stressful. Now I feel like even if AF comes, which I sincerely hope it doesnt, then I will have a good plan to help my body be as natural as possible.

could implantation twinges happen over 2 days? just got the same slight pain in the same spot as yesterday... SAME everything. but way shorter.

with my implantation I had one VERY shart stabbing double over pain and then panging sensations that I still have in the same spot and now on the left side too. I hope this is it for you!!! :

[Geigerin]

Originally Posted by MaerynPearl

DF is already their daddy... and I've heard DS tell DD that he wishes DF were their 'real daddy' because he wants his chin. LOL

I only want it to be legal for the medical/pay raise/not needing to fight the ex in court to let me move out of state with the kids even though he never sees them reason.

That and the day after DF proposed to me DS signed his homework with DFs last name and we had to explain he could only get DFs last name if he adopted him... and his response was 'well why don't you?'

That's cool. I'll be thinking of you and hoping you get the answer you need.

Originally Posted by HappiLeigh

Geigerin, congrats!

Thank you!

LZP- I'm here with you. I am so excited and already told Mom, Grandma, BFFs...oh, well. I feel pretty crappy, so I'm taking it as a good sign.

[HappiLeigh]

Originally Posted by skeeter30

Happi that is so sweet of you to check in in me!! I feel special!! Thank you!! How are you doing BTW??? Feeling ok??

I'm sorry you've got the beginnings of AF.
Yeah, I feel good--which is sort of bad, actually, but just the way you want to feel. KWIM? Like a little bit tired and a little bit nauseated, but in this one particular case that actually seems like a good thing. I'm still a little dazed and amazed and happy to be pregnant, and hoping the rest of you get yours soon!

[MaerynPearl]

You know... Im in shock from the current news on tv... I wasnt a huge fan but man thats a big name to lose.

[MI_Dawn]

Okay, I'd just like to ask my body, HOW are DH and I supposed to BD when I get debilitating hormonal migraines during O, huh!? I forgot about these horrible things... I was given a 9 month reprieve when I was pregnant (thank you, William : ) and now the hormonal migraines are back with a vengeance. :

Well, they say orgasm is supposed to help... we'll see.

[ivymae]

Originally Posted by MI_Dawn

Okay, I'd just like to ask my body, HOW are DH and I supposed to BD when I get debilitating hormonal migraines during O, huh!? I forgot about these horrible things... I was given a 9 month reprieve when I was pregnant (thank you, William : ) and now the hormonal migraines are back with a vengeance. :

Well, they say orgasm is supposed to help... we'll see.

Have you ever considered acupuncture for migraines? I can attest to how much it has helped mine!