Am I invisible?

[Geigerin]

I keep trying to talk to people, and I get no response. I'm relatively new, so maybe people just ignore newbies?

I posted responses to two different people over the past couple of days. They specifically responded to posters around me and completely ignored what I wrote.

Thought I was being nice and helpful. Honestly, my feelings are hurt.

What's up with that? Can you see my posts?

Just checking...

[JessicaS]

I think a lot of people get that feeling now and then.

Sometimes if people see someone they "know" or have posted with a lot they might just be more likely to respond to their posts.

[Mimi]

i see you , mama. ( & i hear you,too. it can be so frustrating.)

[Cherie2]

Originally Posted by Geigerin

What's up with that? Can you see my posts?

Just checking...

I see you!! I have felt that way around here especialy at the begining..

[Ruthla]

I see you!

[Cherie2]

hey have you tried the pleased to meet you section? this board is so big it takes some exploring to get used to everything

[Mimi]

or, come join a tribe? (less scary than it sounds )
i'm in the lonely mamas one, we are all really nice!

it's here .

[Geigerin]

Whew! I was actually starting to wonder...lol. Thanks for responding and letting me know I'm not alone.

You know what's funny? I actually joined the Indy tribe, and that's one of the places I don't always get a response. Oh, well.

I'll take your suggestions and try some of the other tribes and the new here section. Maybe I'm just too sensitive, but I like online life to be like real life, where people respond and acknowledge...it's just not like that on the net sometimes.

[Mimi]

i feel that way,too. but i guess it is just easier to ignore people & be rude when you have the anonymity of the internet on your side.
oh well. fingers crossed you find a nice tribe!!
<3

[Talula Fairie]

Used to happen to me all the time until my post count got up into the thousands. Some of the forums are better/chattier than others, though.

[Harmony96]

I know someone w/ over 12,000 posts and over 3 years of membership, and she gets the invisible treatment too, sometimes.

for you, though, b/c it is frustrating when it's you.

[MCatLvrMom2A&X]

BTDT more times than I can count.

[nummies]

mama! I can see you!

I'm near Indy!

[mischievium]

I just do my best to not take it personally. Message boards are not like real life-- or it they were, could you imagine having a conversation with 20 different people while a thousand or so sit around and listen? It just isn't always possible to respond individually to everyone's response to a thread. My post count may not be super high, but I've been around here a long time and sometimes what I post gets a direct response and sometimes it doesn't. I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't and, to have any longevity on a message board like this you have to play the percentages and accept that only maybe 50% of the time will your post illicit a direct response. It's not you , it's just the nature of message boards .

[lovbeingamommy]

Originally Posted by mischievium

I just do my best to not take it personally. Message boards are not like real life-- or it they were, could you imagine having a conversation with 20 different people while a thousand or so sit around and listen? It just isn't always possible to respond individually to everyone's response to a thread. My post count may not be super high, but I've been around here a long time and sometimes what I post gets a direct response and sometimes it doesn't. I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't and, to have any longevity on a message board like this you have to play the percentages and accept that only maybe 50% of the time will your post illicit a direct response. It's not you , it's just the nature of message boards .

I absolutely agree with what you said here. Oh, I've started a few threads that were really hot, iykwim. Others, fizzle out and hardly get any posts. So it really is a gamble. One thing, IMHO I find odd is when you pm or message someone specific and they never answer. I don't get tons of pm's or messages, but when I do, I answer each one. I kinda look at it like if this person cares enough to ask my opinion or provide advice, I'm going to acknowledge it. I guess I just consider that "net etiquette."

[Geigerin]

Yay! I didn't see many of the recent responses. Thank you!

Originally Posted by nummies

mama! I can see you!

I'm near Indy!

Really? Where are you?

Originally Posted by lovbeingamommy

I absolutely agree with what you said here. Oh, I've started a few threads that were really hot, iykwim. Others, fizzle out and hardly get any posts. So it really is a gamble. One thing, IMHO I find odd is when you pm or message someone specific and they never answer. I don't get tons of pm's or messages, but when I do, I answer each one. I kinda look at it like if this person cares enough to ask my opinion or provide advice, I'm going to acknowledge it. I guess I just consider that "net etiquette."

Thanks for the PM and response here. I appreciate the good vibes. I responded to your PM.

Yay for nice MDC-ers! I was just new and am not used to the site yet, I guess. Thanks again! :

[Kirsten]

Originally Posted by mischievium

I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't.

Exactly. I wouldn't expect a direct quote or response even half the time. And even if you don't get a response, don't assume that your support or advice wasn't helpful.

[MoonWillow]

Oh this is not uncommon at all. Don't take it personally. I get ignored lots

[alekslasce]

Mamma, I understand you LOL. But i'm relatively new, just check my post count, so I think that's the reason.

[~Boudicca~]

Don't worry, it's pretty common to feel completely ignored on a board with this many people on it. I think we've all been there. Here, have some chocolate.