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post #1 of 28
Thread Starter 
I keep trying to talk to people, and I get no response. I'm relatively new, so maybe people just ignore newbies?

I posted responses to two different people over the past couple of days. They specifically responded to posters around me and completely ignored what I wrote.

Thought I was being nice and helpful. Honestly, my feelings are hurt.

What's up with that? Can you see my posts?

Just checking...
post #2 of 28
I think a lot of people get that feeling now and then.

Sometimes if people see someone they "know" or have posted with a lot they might just be more likely to respond to their posts.
post #3 of 28
i see you , mama. ( & i hear you,too. it can be so frustrating.)
post #4 of 28
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Originally Posted by Geigerin View Post
What's up with that? Can you see my posts?

Just checking...

I see you!! I have felt that way around here especialy at the begining..
post #5 of 28
I see you!
post #6 of 28
hey have you tried the pleased to meet you section? this board is so big it takes some exploring to get used to everything
post #7 of 28
or, come join a tribe? (less scary than it sounds )
i'm in the lonely mamas one, we are all really nice!

it's here .
post #8 of 28
Thread Starter 
Whew! I was actually starting to wonder...lol. Thanks for responding and letting me know I'm not alone.

You know what's funny? I actually joined the Indy tribe, and that's one of the places I don't always get a response. Oh, well.

I'll take your suggestions and try some of the other tribes and the new here section. Maybe I'm just too sensitive, but I like online life to be like real life, where people respond and acknowledge...it's just not like that on the net sometimes.
post #9 of 28
i feel that way,too. but i guess it is just easier to ignore people & be rude when you have the anonymity of the internet on your side.
oh well. fingers crossed you find a nice tribe!!
<3
post #10 of 28
Used to happen to me all the time until my post count got up into the thousands. Some of the forums are better/chattier than others, though.
post #11 of 28
I know someone w/ over 12,000 posts and over 3 years of membership, and she gets the invisible treatment too, sometimes.

for you, though, b/c it is frustrating when it's you.
post #12 of 28
BTDT more times than I can count.
post #13 of 28
mama! I can see you!

I'm near Indy!
post #14 of 28
I just do my best to not take it personally. Message boards are not like real life-- or it they were, could you imagine having a conversation with 20 different people while a thousand or so sit around and listen? It just isn't always possible to respond individually to everyone's response to a thread. My post count may not be super high, but I've been around here a long time and sometimes what I post gets a direct response and sometimes it doesn't. I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't and, to have any longevity on a message board like this you have to play the percentages and accept that only maybe 50% of the time will your post illicit a direct response. It's not you , it's just the nature of message boards .
post #15 of 28
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Originally Posted by mischievium View Post
I just do my best to not take it personally. Message boards are not like real life-- or it they were, could you imagine having a conversation with 20 different people while a thousand or so sit around and listen? It just isn't always possible to respond individually to everyone's response to a thread. My post count may not be super high, but I've been around here a long time and sometimes what I post gets a direct response and sometimes it doesn't. I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't and, to have any longevity on a message board like this you have to play the percentages and accept that only maybe 50% of the time will your post illicit a direct response. It's not you , it's just the nature of message boards .

I absolutely agree with what you said here. Oh, I've started a few threads that were really hot, iykwim. Others, fizzle out and hardly get any posts. So it really is a gamble. One thing, IMHO I find odd is when you pm or message someone specific and they never answer. I don't get tons of pm's or messages, but when I do, I answer each one. I kinda look at it like if this person cares enough to ask my opinion or provide advice, I'm going to acknowledge it. I guess I just consider that "net etiquette."
post #16 of 28
Thread Starter 
Yay! I didn't see many of the recent responses. Thank you!

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Originally Posted by nummies View Post
mama! I can see you!

I'm near Indy!
Really? Where are you?

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Originally Posted by lovbeingamommy View Post
I absolutely agree with what you said here. Oh, I've started a few threads that were really hot, iykwim. Others, fizzle out and hardly get any posts. So it really is a gamble. One thing, IMHO I find odd is when you pm or message someone specific and they never answer. I don't get tons of pm's or messages, but when I do, I answer each one. I kinda look at it like if this person cares enough to ask my opinion or provide advice, I'm going to acknowledge it. I guess I just consider that "net etiquette."
Thanks for the PM and response here. I appreciate the good vibes. I responded to your PM.

Yay for nice MDC-ers! I was just new and am not used to the site yet, I guess. Thanks again! :
post #17 of 28
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Originally Posted by mischievium View Post
I just try to remember that sometimes things strike a chord in people and provoke a response and sometimes they don't.
Exactly. I wouldn't expect a direct quote or response even half the time. And even if you don't get a response, don't assume that your support or advice wasn't helpful.
post #18 of 28
Oh this is not uncommon at all. Don't take it personally. I get ignored lots
post #19 of 28
Mamma, I understand you LOL. But i'm relatively new, just check my post count, so I think that's the reason.
post #20 of 28
Don't worry, it's pretty common to feel completely ignored on a board with this many people on it. I think we've all been there. Here, have some chocolate.

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