Women of Color #13 - Page 6

[purplegirl]

Originally Posted by wiksty

I finally figured out the multi quote, lol, go me! Anywho...this place just gets better and better! IDK if you remember or not...but awhile back i was asking about my daughter's hair (she's got an interesting set of curls...daddy is white and i'm black). Someone here told me about Oyin...isn't that out of Baltimore too? I'll have to recheck...

Fells Point? I'll make a note of that. Maybe we'll pay a visit on the house hunting trip?! I've never been to Philly or DC...there's so much more to DO and see on the East coast than in the midwest! How close are the mountains? Know of any good hiking places or places with waterfalls and such?

The day my family reunites hell will freeze over...or fill up, lol.



Aww! You can come visit! Lol. (But leave the kids! J/k...what's THRH?) I nearly cried when turning down the school in Boston, but that was before I found out just how awesome Baltimore would be! I keep saying that we won't buy a house...won't settle, because I'd surely leave for NYC after grad school...but I dunno anymore. The city just may win me over and make me call it home! I do love NYC too though. and Chicago. Maybe I was just made for the city.

The beautiful Oyin mama is part of our tribe. Yes, they are located in B-More.

The Shenandoah Valley isn't very far from B-More. There are mountains and a hikers playground. I'd say it is about 2 hours from b-more or less.

[Jannah6]

Originally Posted by futurmama8

I can give you a few personal experiences .

1. My brother and I were 4 maybe 5 and he was really sick, like flu sick, and wasn't hungry at all. Our stepfather made him eat and told him if he threw up, he would beat his butt. So my brother scarfed down 2 cheese coney's and tried to tell my mom he wanted to throw up. Well...he did, all over the floor and started crying because he knew what was coming. My then stepfather took off his belt and beat him until he stopped crying and just laid there and his mother(stepfather's mother) told him that was enough. He beat him for about 3 mins straight with a lot of anger for no absolute reason. My mother never interjected and we both felt very betrayed but she knew if she did she would also get beat but it is still no excuse.

2. One early morning when I was about 6 or 7 I fell asleep waiting for my mom to come home as she worked 3rd shift. She came home and woke me up and gave me a present..The Lion King!!! I was so excited so at 7 am I immediately watched it. So an hour later my stepfather came downstairs to sit down. I was so engrossed in the movie, that he actually yelled my name and said, "Rianne!! come over here and bend over my knee, you gone get it". I knew what was happening and just started crying and he proceeded to hit me for about 2 mins and told me to sit down. I have no memory of doing anything as I tried my hardest to avoid him and his anger.

Now verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical and I seriously think that is why my brother is so messed up now. He was constantly called retarded and stupid and my stepfather never showed him any affection or attention unless it was negative.

I hoped that helped AM.

Oh Rianne . I'm so sorry this happened to you and your brother 's. Stories like this break my heart.

's to you too Wiksty

ETA: If you guys can avoid it can you not post anymore horrible stories. It really does make my heart sick and give me the blues. I'm still over here with these images in my head.

[purplegirl]

Originally Posted by Jannah6

Oh Rianne . I'm so sorry this happened to you and your brother 's. Stories like this break my heart.

's to you too Wiksty

ETA: If you guys can avoid it can you not post anymore horrible stories. It really does make my heart sick and give me the blues. I'm still over here with these images in my head.

[AndrewsMother]

I decided to make a report. I know that it is, but I was hesitant all the same.

[Jannah6]

Originally Posted by AndrewsMother

I decided to make a report. I know that it is, but I was hesitant all the same.

Do what you have to do. I once did and I have NO regrets.

[bajamergrrl]

Originally Posted by AndrewsMother

I decided to make a report. I know that it is, but I was hesitant all the same.

Glad you followed your gut. It can be hard.

To futurmama8 and wiksty

[futurmama8]

Thanks guys I have grow a lot since that time and had to learn to trust my mom again but I am a much better person because of it.

Sorry Jannah I really didn't mean to stir up anything in you

AM as long as you feel you did what was best that is all that matters

[wiksty]

Originally Posted by purplegirl

The beautiful Oyin mama is part of our tribe. Yes, they are located in B-More.

The Shenandoah Valley isn't very far from B-More. There are mountains and a hikers playground. I'd say it is about 2 hours from b-more or less.

Aaugh! I thought so! How awesome! People who will know about MY hair and products for ME?! Maybe hairdressers too?! OMG...I haven't had my hair done since...gah, so long ago i cannot recall. I just spent over four hours the other night (exhausted, because I'm a SAHM right now and I'd FINALLY got both kids to sleep) washing and trimming and straightening my own hair.

It was HORRIBLE. I mean, it looks wonderful...though I wish I could manage it without straightening it, and I've debated locks plenty of tiemes...but it took forEVER, and my arms hurt afterward, lol. I need someone I can rely on to do it for me. There is NO ONE in this town who will touch natural black hair. It's insane. I've got no support system and it's tough for meto manage on my own...still chemical free as I can be though! Haven't had a relexer in...5 years now! and my hair is the healthiest I can ever remember it being.

The valley sounds nice as well! I LOVE the outdoors

[Brown Lioness]

Originally Posted by wiksty

Aaugh! Is it?!

Do you live there?!

LOL, no ma'am, i live about 50 mins due southeast from Bmore, but ive been up there enough to know that i love the inner harbor and apparently everyone else does too lol.

[purplegirl]

Originally Posted by wiksty

Aaugh! I thought so! How awesome! People who will know about MY hair and products for ME?! Maybe hairdressers too?! OMG...I haven't had my hair done since...gah, so long ago i cannot recall. I just spent over four hours the other night (exhausted, because I'm a SAHM right now and I'd FINALLY got both kids to sleep) washing and trimming and straightening my own hair.

It was HORRIBLE. I mean, it looks wonderful...though I wish I could manage it without straightening it, and I've debated locks plenty of tiemes...but it took forEVER, and my arms hurt afterward, lol. I need someone I can rely on to do it for me. There is NO ONE in this town who will touch natural black hair. It's insane. I've got no support system and it's tough for meto manage on my own...still chemical free as I can be though! Haven't had a relexer in...5 years now! and my hair is the healthiest I can ever remember it being.

The valley sounds nice as well! I LOVE the outdoors

You won't have any problems finding someone to do your hair. The one funny thing about Baltimore is every time I visit, I always see some *ahem* interesting hairstyles!

[kimiij]

A little OT, but does anyone here live in CT? I'm moving at the beginning of August and I'm wondering if anyone is in the area?

[Sorin]

I'm not from B-More, but I have visited the city and quite like it. My favorite things about it are the seafood and the fact that Edgar Allen Poe died in the street somewhere in that fair city (sorry if that is too morbid, but I'm a literature geek). Plus, did I say they have great seafood?

[shayinme]

Originally Posted by kimiij

A little OT, but does anyone here live in CT? I'm moving at the beginning of August and I'm wondering if anyone is in the area?

Erica who doesn't post often lives there. A good friend of mine just moved back to CT from here in Maine, so I will be trying to visit often. Where in CT are you looking at?

[wiksty]

Originally Posted by Brown Lioness

LOL, no ma'am, i live about 50 mins due southeast from Bmore, but ive been up there enough to know that i love the inner harbor and apparently everyone else does too lol.

Awww Still, that's close enuf to visit and it sounds like you know the city well! I cannot wait for our first visit!

Originally Posted by purplegirl

You won't have any problems finding someone to do your hair. The one funny thing about Baltimore is every time I visit, I always see some *ahem* interesting hairstyles!

Lol. At least I can feel good about being unique with my style and wear my hair the way i really want to soon! Have you got any references?

Originally Posted by Sorin

I'm not from B-More, but I have visited the city and quite like it. My favorite things about it are the seafood and the fact that Edgar Allen Poe died in the street somewhere in that fair city (sorry if that is too morbid, but I'm a literature geek). Plus, did I say they have great seafood?

OMG, talk about loving lit., I got my BA in English just because I loved to read and discover new works I saw online that B-more is doing a year long tribute to Poe...check this out
http://www.nevermore2009.com/events.php

On another note...took a preg test yesterday.

Negative.

But i'm not convinced, yet. I would kill hubby this time! I don't knwo what to do though. I don't believe (or have a body which supports) taking those hormone pills. Even the lowest doses used to make me vomit multiple times/day. (I tried BC for a total of two years before saying I'd never go back). I REALLY don't want to get pregnant again though. Not until I finish grad school at least...any ideas or forums where I can discuss this? I thought about charting my cycle, but as I just had Bug not 3 months ago and I'm nursing I don't expect to start again anytime soon (fingers crossed). Help!

[eilonwy]

Have you thought about Paraguard? It might be a good option for you. I'm CTA for the time being; THRH and I have discussed things and he says he's willing to go the distance and be snipped if it comes to it, that he'd rather do it than leave me to be snipped. Isn't he sweet?

[ErikaDP]

Originally Posted by kimiij

A little OT, but does anyone here live in CT? I'm moving at the beginning of August and I'm wondering if anyone is in the area?

Hi Kimiji,

I live in central CT. But because we are unschoolers, we have friends/activities that take us all over the state.
Where in CT are you moving to?
Please feel free to contact me personally anytime with questions.
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Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!):

[kimiij]

Hi Shay and Erika!

I'm moving to New Haven, CT. Is that considered central CT?

[Valid28]

Hi ladies it's been a while since I've last posted. I just wanted to join you all on the new thread.

[ErikaDP]

Originally Posted by kimiij

Hi Shay and Erika!

I'm moving to New Haven, CT. Is that considered central CT?

Hi Again,

No, New Haven is not considered central CT. But New Haven is in the center of the CT shoreline.
Where I live is almost equal distance from the shoreline and the Massachusetts border north/south and we are at almost the midpoint east/west too.
We are about 30 miles north of New Haven.

Take Care,
Erika (I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!) :

[AndrewsMother]

Just a question.....

Was anyone ever told as a child/adolescent/teen that they were acting common?

Just yesterday I told my DH to stop acting common, and in that instant I knew that I had become my Mom, Grandmother and Aunts all at the same time.

My DH is very accustomed to me, so he just shook his head, but he knew that I meant what I said!

It feels lovely to pass on handed down expressions?

Does anyone else say the very things that their moms/grandmom/aunts said to them.