Different stories, different experiences from different people. There's much research to be done. 
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Originally Posted by AndrewsMother
 DH and I are afraid of hormones, and latex and I don't get along well so we use the tried and true withdrawl method. It has worked for us for 5 years. Andrew was not planned, but he was definetly not an "ooops".
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Originally Posted by wiksty
We tried that. And the one time we didn't...we got Amara.
We tried it with Terra too, and we never slipped, but got preg anyway. ? |
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
I know this one! What do you call people who use the 'withdrawl' method? Parents!
The deal is simple-- sperm can start leaking out of your body before your man has his big blowout, so to speak. It's considered entirely unreliable as birth control for that reason-- you have no idea how much of the gooey gooey is seeping out before the main event. On the other hand, if you're using withdrawl in conjunction with charting and you're abstaining during fertile periods, you've got a good shot. You can always go back to condoms when you're fertile... but if you're like me (hyperfertile and paranoid) then you'll just want to stick with non-intercourse activities while you're fertile. |
I *believe* that you'll want to count "day one" as the day your child was born and then just fast forward, but I could be mistaken about that. In any case, if you haven't had any fertility signs it probably won't hurt for you to call today "day one" and to just move from there.|
Originally Posted by eilonwy
I know this one! What do you call people who use the 'withdrawl' method? Parents!
The deal is simple-- sperm can start leaking out of your body before your man has his big blowout, so to speak. It's considered entirely unreliable as birth control for that reason-- you have no idea how much of the gooey gooey is seeping out before the main event. On the other hand, if you're using withdrawl in conjunction with charting and you're abstaining during fertile periods, you've got a good shot. You can always go back to condoms when you're fertile... but if you're like me (hyperfertile and paranoid) then you'll just want to stick with non-intercourse activities while you're fertile. |
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
I know this one! What do you call people who use the 'withdrawl' method? Parents!
The deal is simple-- sperm can start leaking out of your body before your man has his big blowout, so to speak. It's considered entirely unreliable as birth control for that reason-- you have no idea how much of the gooey gooey is seeping out before the main event. On the other hand, if you're using withdrawl in conjunction with charting and you're abstaining during fertile periods, you've got a good shot. You can always go back to condoms when you're fertile... but if you're like me (hyperfertile and paranoid) then you'll just want to stick with non-intercourse activities while you're fertile. |
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Originally Posted by eilonwy
I know this one! What do you call people who use the 'withdrawl' method? Parents!
The deal is simple-- sperm can start leaking out of your body before your man has his big blowout, so to speak. It's considered entirely unreliable as birth control for that reason-- you have no idea how much of the gooey gooey is seeping out before the main event. On the other hand, if you're using withdrawl in conjunction with charting and you're abstaining during fertile periods, you've got a good shot. You can always go back to condoms when you're fertile... but if you're like me (hyperfertile and paranoid) then you'll just want to stick with non-intercourse activities while you're fertile. |
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Originally Posted by wiksty
NON INTERCOURSE????!!!
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Originally Posted by Brown Lioness
*whimpers* I hate when people point out that stuff leaks out before the "arrival" because while it freaks me out (hubby's not been condom friendly lately) cause i could get pregnant unexpectedly, it also frightens me that if he's been pulling out, HOW COME i AINT get pregnant yet? OmgIsSomethingWrongWithMe?WhatIfImInfertileAndDont KnowIt?
If I sound irrational, its cause i am, lol. Deep breaths. *back to lurk mode* |
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Originally Posted by rootzdawta
I'm pretty sure DS2 is the result of "let's start then I'll put on the condom".
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Yeah that's always a good one. 
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Originally Posted by rootzdawta
Hey Mamas . . . what's your policy on walking with your older children (ages 4 and up) in the street? DS1 now refuses to be in the stroller but also refuses to hold my hand. I'm fine with it if he follows my rules (stop on the dime, stay in front of me, hold my hand in busy areas) but I feel like I meet a lot of critical eyes in the street.
Do you think it's an unnecessary risk and he should be forced to hold my hand at all times? Or am i just being hypersensitive to people's looks/criticism? Right now, I just think it's an unreasonable expectation on a 4 year old boy to hold my hand as we walk all over town. |
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Originally Posted by rootzdawta
Hey Mamas . . . what's your policy on walking with your older children (ages 4 and up) in the street? DS1 now refuses to be in the stroller but also refuses to hold my hand. I'm fine with it if he follows my rules (stop on the dime, stay in front of me, hold my hand in busy areas) but I feel like I meet a lot of critical eyes in the street.
Do you think it's an unnecessary risk and he should be forced to hold my hand at all times? Or am i just being hypersensitive to people's looks/criticism? Right now, I just think it's an unreasonable expectation on a 4 year old boy to hold my hand as we walk all over town. |
I still have to hold her hand 8 out of 10 times.
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Originally Posted by AndrewsMother
DH and I are afraid of hormones, and latex and I don't get along well so we use the tried and true withdrawl method. It has worked for us for 5 years. Andrew was not planned, but he was definetly not an "ooops".
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Originally Posted by rootzdawta
Hey Mamas . . . what's your policy on walking with your older children (ages 4 and up) in the street? DS1 now refuses to be in the stroller but also refuses to hold my hand. I'm fine with it if he follows my rules (stop on the dime, stay in front of me, hold my hand in busy areas) but I feel like I meet a lot of critical eyes in the street.
Do you think it's an unnecessary risk and he should be forced to hold my hand at all times? Or am i just being hypersensitive to people's looks/criticism? Right now, I just think it's an unreasonable expectation on a 4 year old boy to hold my hand as we walk all over town. |
I suspect I have a tendency to be hypersensitive sometimes, and I want to see if others have had the same reaction.......|
Originally Posted by Draupadi
We also did withdrawal for years before I got pregnant. William wasn't exactly an oops but he was not exactly planned either.
Now that I'm actually trying to get pregnant, it's just not happening. : |
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