No need for an essay - bullet points are fine.
My family is Caribbean so I admit my view is definitely colored by that.
I sometimes think that in some communites cloth diapering is viewed as old fashioned. Why would one want to wash poop when disposeables are so much easier? or Why would one want to breastfeed and tie themselves down when formula is easy and inexpensive? Or what is the benefit to co-sleeping, other than taking up space in my bed? And AP parenting.....I spank that a**.
No those are not my POV, just some that I have encountered.
Maybe what I am about to say is a stereotype of the Caribbean families that I know, but they all seem to discipline and handle their children on a day to day basis in a mild manner. My parenting role model is from the Caribbean and I love how she has raised her daughters. Her mom is my back up baby sitter, and I can trust that she will be firm, but loving and gentle with my son.
Rarely do I witness these traits in Black Americans when I am out and about.
My American friends seem to favor the belt and spanking over using mistakes as teaching moments.
I have Black friends that breastfed/feed, use disposeables, CIO, eat organic, spank and homeschool. They bf, eat organic because it is healthier, and they homeschool because they school system is not best for their families. And I guess that in their opinions CIO and spankings are best for their children too?
I use to want to find someone just like me, but I have realized that I will never find her!