Would you all indulge me? How long did you know your DP before marrying him? I had an interesting discussion with a friend about this and thus, I am curious to see what others experiences have been. Thanks!
Sorin and cocoanib, Ima live vicariously through you two since I am waiting to TTC #1 (hopefully next year this time) and i am an ULTRA planner. I fear that I will totally be a wreck once we start ttc for the lack of control I will have in the process, lol.
As far as the WOC and the "AP" thing, i agree that most black americans are mainstream...to a point. If they pay any attention or listen to their grandmother or great grandmother who will most likely either be or had close ties to the south, they will undoubtedly be practicing some facet of "AP". My husband was cloth diapered....not because it was saving the environment but because its WAY cheaper than buying disposables.
I venture to say that so many black americans are opposed to non-mainstreams ways of parenting and such because we fought so hard to BE mainstream.
We fought HARD to be accepted into those labor and delivery wards, we fought HARD to afford the stroller and the formula and the crib, and i think we railed against breastfeeding anymore because had been breastfeeding everyone ELSE'S babies for so long and now we had the opportunity to get a good education and get a job? Why be "chained" to my baby by breastfeeding or looking "low class" or "savage" doing it, right? There was this status image that we were also trying to achieve, you know? Little did they know that they were shunning a heritage, a legacy and some of the glue that had kept our communities together when the world was trying to pull us apart, imo.