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Hello Sisterfriends!

I have so much to say, but not a lot of time to say it! So here it goes...
Lisa,
You, your Dad and your entire family are in my daily thoughts and prayers! I know how hard it can be to see your "rock" suffering and not being able to do anything to help. But I am sure that just your presence provides your Dad great solace. Keep the faith my sister and know that your cyber sisterfriends have your back!♥
Oyinmama,
Congratulations! I am so happy for you!!!
Rootzdawta,
Congratulations to you too! I hope to get on the weight loss band wagon in the next few weeks myself and your post is an inspiration to me!
Rynna,
Some of the most difficult decisions that I had to make as a parent revolved around schooling choices. Please feel free to PM me if you want/need to talk more specifically about your choices.
And Shay,
Speaking as another mom of adults(Welcome to the club, by the way!), I may have a different perspective about your son's decision to take a year off.
While it is true that it is hard to go back to school after taking off a large block of time, I think that he would gain so much by knowing early on that he is the one who is in charge of making those decisions for himself and that you would support him in whatever he decides to do.
Believe me when I say that it is so hard to watch your child make choices that you know will make it harder for them in the long run, but I firmly believe that it is so important that the choices that they make be their own and that they know that they can always come to you for advice and support should they need it.(This is especially true for the first born child!)
I also think that the lesson that he learned by watching you go back to school as a wife and mother years later is that it can be done and done well!
What you saw as pressure and struggle as an older student, he might have seen it as perseverance, accomplishment and the ability to go to college anytime. Some great lessons learned in my opinion.
So I hope that you take this opportunity to sit down and talk to your son about where he sees himself in the next couple of years and encourage him to explore as many options for his gap year as possible.
Well, that's all I have time for now. I hope that you all continue to keep this thread active and I hope to come back here and post again soon.
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((¸¸.·´ ..·´ Peace, Love & Light!-:¦:-
-:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!)
post #742 of 845
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While it is true that it is hard to go back to school after taking off a large block of time, I think that he would gain so much by knowing early on that he is the one who is in charge of making those decisions for himself and that you would support him in whatever he decides to do.
Thanks Erika!

Shay, as the child of parents who tried to control every facet of my life down to what I believed, I think this advice is so solid. It builds such confidence to know that your parents trust you enough to make your own decisions and love you enough to help you make those decisions work out the best.
post #743 of 845

quick update

Sadly, my dad's eye will not regain the vision. The specialist performed a second surgery during which he discovered the retina has been destroyed. It's been a hellish month and we continue to ride a roller coaster. At this point, it is a wait and see game as to whether or not the eye will have to be removed. My dad is trying to be strong and accept 'whatever will be', but he has his moments.

It's clear that this infection came from doctor error so my parents will be seeking some type of remedy.

Thanks for your thoughts, kind words and love. It's been extraordinarily comforting.
post #744 of 845
s I'm so sorry to hear that, Lisa.
post #745 of 845
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Sadly, my dad's eye will not regain the vision. The specialist performed a second surgery during which he discovered the retina has been destroyed. It's been a hellish month and we continue to ride a roller coaster. At this point, it is a wait and see game as to whether or not the eye will have to be removed. My dad is trying to be strong and accept 'whatever will be', but he has his moments.

It's clear that this infection came from doctor error so my parents will be seeking some type of remedy.

Thanks for your thoughts, kind words and love. It's been extraordinarily comforting.
Oh no. I will continue to pray for him, my thoughts are with your family.
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Originally Posted by purplegirl View Post
Sadly, my dad's eye will not regain the vision. The specialist performed a second surgery during which he discovered the retina has been destroyed. It's been a hellish month and we continue to ride a roller coaster. At this point, it is a wait and see game as to whether or not the eye will have to be removed. My dad is trying to be strong and accept 'whatever will be', but he has his moments.

It's clear that this infection came from doctor error so my parents will be seeking some type of remedy.

Thanks for your thoughts, kind words and love. It's been extraordinarily comforting.
and more . Your father is in my thoughts and prayers.
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Thread Starter 
So sorry to hear that! I'm thinking of you and your family . . .
post #748 of 845
to you purplegirl.
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Quote:
Originally Posted by purplegirl View Post
Sadly, my dad's eye will not regain the vision. The specialist performed a second surgery during which he discovered the retina has been destroyed. It's been a hellish month and we continue to ride a roller coaster. At this point, it is a wait and see game as to whether or not the eye will have to be removed. My dad is trying to be strong and accept 'whatever will be', but he has his moments.

It's clear that this infection came from doctor error so my parents will be seeking some type of remedy.

Thanks for your thoughts, kind words and love. It's been extraordinarily comforting.
post #750 of 845
Lisa,

Your family is in my daily thoughts and prayers!
*..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:-
¸.·´ .·´¨¨))
((¸¸.·´ ..·´ Peace, Love & Light!-:¦:-
-:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!):
post #751 of 845
I'm new to MDC and just thought I would say hi.
post #752 of 845
Welcome virgo! Congrats on your pregnancy.
post #753 of 845
Virgo:
!WELCOME TO THE TRIBE!
I hope to see many more posts from you!

Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!):
post #754 of 845
Thank you bajamergrrl and ErikaDP!
post #755 of 845
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I'm new to MDC and just thought I would say hi.

Welcome and congrats on your pregnancy!
post #756 of 845
Lisa, I'm sorry to hear the update about your Dad.
post #757 of 845
Hi ladies! May I join? I'm Chelci, I'm black, I am married and we have 2 kids.
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Welcome Chelci!
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Thank you!
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Thank you!
Welcome!!
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