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My son graduates from high school in 2 mos and well we really don't know where he is going for college. He only applied to 4 schools and well the safety schools said no, and he was waitlisted at University of Vermont. I am scared because he is in love...first love. Guess what honey is taking a year off and I fear this is what made him only apply to 4 schools and not all of the schools we discussed. I have heard getting into schools this year is tough...funny thing is this kid is the frickin senior class president, president of the thespian society and captain of the debate team. He has a solid ACT score but his freshman year he goofed and it brought his gpa down and while taking honors classes was good, getting B's in them was not.

I don't know, he is 18 and a good kid he is here on spring break so we will be talking about his future. I have a few tricks up my sleeve as far as schools we can apply late to, but he needs to decide what he wants.

Right now I think he wants to take a year off...when the babies are young you plan their lives but they reach an age where you have to take the training wheels off and let them decide their course.
Hi Shay,
I wanted to check with you and see where you are with your son's decision?
And I also wanted to know how the healing process is going for you.
I hope that all is well, please come and post an update when you have the time.
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((¸¸.·´ ..·´ Peace, Love & Light!-:¦:-
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Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!)
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Originally Posted by ErikaDP View Post
Hi Shay,
I wanted to check with you and see where you are with your son's decision?
And I also wanted to know how the healing process is going for you.
I hope that all is well, please come and post an update when you have the time.
*..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:-
¸.·´ .·´¨¨))
((¸¸.·´ ..·´ Peace, Love & Light!-:¦:-
-:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!)
We are still in wait and see mode. He has been in touch with UVM several times letting them know he very much wants to attend, they are only just now starting to work on the waitlisted folks. May 1 was the deadline to see how many accepted applicants actually enroll, so he should know by June 1.

He has also applied to 2 other schools that have rolling admissions; he says he very much wants to start college in the fall. So we will see, I must admit I almost would prefer if he just took a gap year at this point. Since at this stage even if he is accepted into UVM the chances of getting any significant financial aid are severely diminished. I cannot afford full freight at 40G's with room and board and I have told him that. So we are facing a quandry since my ex husband is not in a position to make any significant contribution either, at best together we can pay half that bill and it would be a major stressor for me.

As for my health, its slow. It turned out I had not 1 but 2 hernias, one which was pretty large. While the surgeon was able to do the surgery lapriscopically due to the size any benefits as far as recovery time don't apply because of the severity of the hernias .

I just saw him today and go back in 6 weeks and am not able to fully return to most activities due to pain. With a 4 yo around this is a hard process, we eventually asked our church for help and they have been great with meals and childcare but its already been 3 weeks and now its 6 more weeks of me being laid up to some degree. To say I am shocked is an understatment.

I am back at work since there is no way I can afford to take that type of time off but dealing with the kidlet and work wipes me out. As I joked, last night I was at the store and my cart was loaded with convenience foods, cooking home cooked meals from scratch is not happening and while the hubby had been amazing he has to work too.

So all in all I am hanging in there.

Shay
post #763 of 845
Aw, Shay. I'm sorry your recovery is taking so long. That's really unfair.
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Shay, I honestly don't know how folks afford to pay college tuition. Mike's oldest is graduating (well, supposed to be). I was secretly hoping he'd go into the military or do a community college for a few years. In reality, he is way too immature to handle college and what a waste of funds it would be to find out the hard way. Why can't college be universally free???

I am sorry to hear about your ongoing pain. Again, I think because you had a double whammy, you're healing is prolonged. Please take it easy in as much as you can.
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Shay,

I am so sorry to hear about your troubled recovery. I am send healing vibes and light your way! And please know that you are in my daily thoughts and prayers!
*..· ´¨¨)) -:¦:-
¸.·´ .·´¨¨))
((¸¸.·´ ..·´ Peace, Love & Light!-:¦:-
-:¦:- ((¸¸.·´*

Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!):
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Shay s and hoping that your pain decreases with each passing day. Are you still on pain meds?
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Shay. I hope you feel better soon.
My sister did her first two years a community college before going to Grambling State. it does save quite a bit. She's already wracked up $17000 in student loans plus she has summer school and her senior year. To make any real money she will need to get her masters so you know the math. It's crazy how they want America to be an Educated country but can't take the time to make it affordable.
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HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY MAMAS!

Yes! And the same to you, Erika!
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Thanks Lisa!
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My son just got accepted to St. Norbert's in WI, its a decent school that I think will meet his needs and they gave him a pretty good financial package. Main scholarship is 32K over 4 years along with a few smaller one's making my cost $6500 which is doable.

I wish he were coming closer to home and so does he but this is a good school and we can afford it. He is still waitlisted at UVM but unless he gets an offer there that includes an even better financial offer, its St. Norbert's for now.

Just wanted to share since you all knew how stressed I was about this situation. Its a huge load off my back .

I am also finally starting to feel completely healed which at 5 weeks post surgery is a far longer recovery period than I had been expecting.

Hope everyone is well.

Shay
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Shay I'm so happy to hear all this good news!
post #773 of 845
That's fantastic news, Shay. What an exciting time in his life.
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Glad to hear both, Shay!
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Congrats all around, Shay!
post #776 of 845
Great news Shay! Congratulations!

Take Care,
Erika(I don't wear a fro, I'm just a sister who likes this smilie!):
post #777 of 845
thanks for sharing your good news, shay!! how exciting for you and the big boy both! and super glad to hear you are feeling better.
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Racist of the year award goes to.............

My oral surgeon!! So before he begins the procedure, he asks where I went to college. It turns out he went to the same school for medical and dental school and his son is a current student. I mentioned that my cousin went through the dental school as well, yada, yada. He injects me with the Novocaine and props my mouth open. While waiting for the numbness to kick in, he asked if I was from West Philly (where the said college is located). I shook my head but couldn't explain that I was born there but only lived a few years of my young life in the city. He got very quiet and antsy. The bastard goes on to say, "that's why you got into Penn; You're from West Philly and they feel obligated to admit a certain percentage of kids from the local community. I reached for his hand to take it out of my mouth because I was unable to speak. My intent was to get the hell out of his office. He thought I was in pain and quickly yanked out my tooth. He scrambled for the door before his assistant took the mouth guard out. She saw that I was bothered and apologized for him. Needless to say, I won't be returning and have written him a pointed letter.

I was planning to have him put in my implant but I'll be darned if I'm giving that racist another dollar. I'm calling my dentist and letting her know what happened. Incidentally, my dentist warned me that he was 'arrogant' and a 'jerk' but, the best oral surgeon in Northern DE. I can deal with arrogance but racism, no way.
I am in still in shock that he was so blatant.
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Purplegirl, I'm mostly speechless...just, wow.
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Purplegirl, that is so upsetting. Are you okay?
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