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post #81 of 844
6/22/09 at 10:06am
Yes, my dear when you move to Charm City (nickname) you'll have no problem getting me to come visit. I think we are going to go for the 4th of July. There will be lots of stuff jumping off.
Baltimore has the most amazing aquarium, lots of outdoor concerts, museums, and shopping. At one point, they had a very high crime rate but I think it has gone down. Again, folks who live there could share specifics.

On another note, an intelligent man is a major turn on. My dh's level of intelligence was a major attractive feature for me

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post #82 of 844
6/22/09 at 10:35am
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Hello ladies!

I'm back after having DD2, Terra (Bug) 3/30/09. She's doing well...on my shoulder now, so this will be a short one...

I don't know how to put text behind a cut...is there a way? I wanted to post my homebirth story here but it's sorta lengthy. If not I'll just link you to my online journal...

She's wonderful, and chubbier now Big sis is awesome too, and she turns 2 on July2nd. I cannot believe my girls are growing up so fast!

Just to give you an update...I've decided on a grad school. I got in to Emerson, but they wouldn't allow me to defer, so I choose Univeristy of Baltimore (going for an MFA in Creative Writing and Publishing) and I defered until Fall 2010.

Do any of you ladies live in Baltimore? I know NOTHING of the place...besides were it sits on the map...I need to do research. It would help if my brain wasn't dead from having two young children, and it didn't take all of my energy to keep the house clean, and all of my sanity to be an attached parent, and all of my will power to remain compassionate, lol.

Anywho, things are back to peachy with hubby. I'm glad we separated...horrible as that sounds, but we came back together so much stronger and understanding. I love him just like I used to now...but stronger...if you can feel me on that one.

Well, there's tons to do. How do I post pictures here? I'd like to show yo uall the fam!

~B

Congratulations on the birth of your daughter and your reconciliation with your husband!!

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post #83 of 844
6/22/09 at 12:04pm
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Would you all indulge me? How long did you know your DP before marrying him? I had an interesting discussion with a friend about this and thus, I am curious to see what others experiences have been. Thanks!
Met him in 2000, engaged in 2001, married him in 2004. We planned on getting married in 2003, though.
post #84 of 844
6/22/09 at 12:35pm
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I am a child and adolescent therapist with a private practice!

OMG, I've been on this thread for so long and I didn't know that. Wow, you must have strong shoulders
post #85 of 844
6/22/09 at 12:42pm
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Originally Posted by purplegirl View Post
Yes, my dear when you move to Charm City (nickname) you'll have no problem getting me to come visit. I think we are going to go for the 4th of July. There will be lots of stuff jumping off.
Baltimore has the most amazing aquarium, lots of outdoor concerts, museums, and shopping. At one point, they had a very high crime rate but I think it has gone down. Again, folks who live there could share specifics.

We've been to Baltimore a few times. The most recent was for my BIL wedding, his wife is from there. They are living in NYC, but plan to move to Baltimore in the future.

One of the places that I visited when I was there was the Black museum. I also enjoyed the inner harbor and the childrens museum that is there.
post #86 of 844
6/22/09 at 1:22pm
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On another note, an intelligent man is a major turn on. My dh's level of intelligence was a major attractive feature for me
Isn't it? He has taught me so much and I am still amazed at how many things he's got stored in that big head of his!

I'm so excited about Baltimore. Sounds like "my kind of town"

I'm really BIG on aquariums and science centers and zoos and such...and bodies of water, culture, art, music, and FOOD...I need to live in a city...cannot beat a charming one *giggles* How did it get that name, do you know?
post #87 of 844
6/22/09 at 1:26pm
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Congratulations on the birth of your daughter and your reconciliation with your husband!!

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TY, and I will!
post #88 of 844
6/22/09 at 1:27pm
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We've been to Baltimore a few times. The most recent was for my BIL wedding, his wife is from there. They are living in NYC, but plan to move to Baltimore in the future.

One of the places that I visited when I was there was the Black museum. I also enjoyed the inner harbor and the childrens museum that is there.
ooooh! Everything I hear about it makes me so excited to get there! I do believe my school is located near the harbor
post #89 of 844
6/22/09 at 1:30pm
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Originally Posted by wiksty View Post
Isn't it? He has taught me so much and I am still amazed at how many things he's got stored in that big head of his!

I'm so excited about Baltimore. Sounds like "my kind of town"

I'm really BIG on aquariums and science centers and zoos and such...and bodies of water, culture, art, music, and FOOD...I need to live in a city...cannot beat a charming one *giggles* How did it get that name, do you know?

This is what I found, "Located on the East Coast of the United States, between New York City and Washington, D.C., Baltimore has been nicknamed "Charm City" for its many attractions and friendly residents. One of America's oldest cities, Baltimore is known for its rich ethnic and maritime heritage, sense of history and fine food."
post #90 of 844
6/22/09 at 1:53pm
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Originally Posted by wiksty View Post
Isn't it? He has taught me so much and I am still amazed at how many things he's got stored in that big head of his!

I'm so excited about Baltimore. Sounds like "my kind of town"

I'm really BIG on aquariums and science centers and zoos and such...and bodies of water, culture, art, music, and FOOD...I need to live in a city...cannot beat a charming one *giggles* How did it get that name, do you know?

Omg, girl. I am excited talking to you about it. I think you will love it. The inner harbor is a happening place. There are always street vendors, nice places to eat and interesting things to purchase. The last time I was there (3wks ago), I took the water taxi to Fells Point which is a trendy section offering ethnic restaurants and such.
Johns Hopkins is there so you will have access to the state of the art medicine and research. BMore is close to DC and not far from Philly. Notice I skipped right over Delaware I find it to be an easy city to navigate as well. I saw some very charming row homes and lots of condos on the water.
My family is hosting a reunion there in late August, so I will be able to check out more stuff for ya!
post #91 of 844
6/22/09 at 1:58pm
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Originally Posted by Jannah6 View Post
This is what I found, "Located on the East Coast of the United States, between New York City and Washington, D.C., Baltimore has been nicknamed "Charm City" for its many attractions and friendly residents. One of America's oldest cities, Baltimore is known for its rich ethnic and maritime heritage, sense of history and fine food."
Thank you! I'm getting all giddy about the move and it's not going to happen for around a year, but still...the city sounds awesome, and the grad school program was MADE for me! It's a good thing the program is three years (they only want students to take 6 credit hours/semester and I'm used to 12-18) and that the classes are all at night; I'll have plenty of time to enjoy the city!
post #92 of 844
6/22/09 at 3:05pm
Witsky, I'm totally jealous. I'd love to go to school in Baltimore. I haven't visited in ages (money sucks) but I need to get back out there. At some point, I'll probably collect tHRH and a kid or three and spend the day out at Inner Harbor, the aquarium, all that good stuff. It's a fun trip.
post #93 of 844
6/22/09 at 6:47pm

seriously

What exactly is child abuse? Please give me a few scenarios. Nothing sexual.
post #94 of 844
6/22/09 at 9:47pm
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What exactly is child abuse? Please give me a few scenarios. Nothing sexual.
I see child abuse as clear neglect or neglect. While MDC does not stand behind things such as CIO or spanking, I can't say that those are considered abuse in many cases though clearly beating your kid with a 2 by 4 is clearly abuse even in places that legally allow for spanking.

I don't know but working with the families that I do, I see things that would be considred abuse and as a mandated reporter I have reported.

Is there something more specific you are looking for as far as something you think is abuse but are not sure of?
post #95 of 844
6/22/09 at 11:14pm
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Originally Posted by wiksty View Post
Hello ladies!

I'm back after having DD2, Terra (Bug) 3/30/09. She's doing well...on my shoulder now, so this will be a short one...

I don't know how to put text behind a cut...is there a way? I wanted to post my homebirth story here but it's sorta lengthy. If not I'll just link you to my online journal...

She's wonderful, and chubbier now Big sis is awesome too, and she turns 2 on July2nd. I cannot believe my girls are growing up so fast!

Just to give you an update...I've decided on a grad school. I got in to Emerson, but they wouldn't allow me to defer, so I choose Univeristy of Baltimore (going for an MFA in Creative Writing and Publishing) and I defered until Fall 2010.

Do any of you ladies live in Baltimore? I know NOTHING of the place...besides were it sits on the map...I need to do research. It would help if my brain wasn't dead from having two young children, and it didn't take all of my energy to keep the house clean, and all of my sanity to be an attached parent, and all of my will power to remain compassionate, lol.

Anywho, things are back to peachy with hubby. I'm glad we separated...horrible as that sounds, but we came back together so much stronger and understanding. I love him just like I used to now...but stronger...if you can feel me on that one.

Well, there's tons to do. How do I post pictures here? I'd like to show yo uall the fam!

~B
Congrats!!! You will absolutley LOVE the inner harbor of Baltimore! That is like THE spot to BE in B-more!
post #96 of 844
6/22/09 at 11:21pm

Baltimore

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Originally Posted by purplegirl View Post
Omg, girl. I am excited talking to you about it. I think you will love it. The inner harbor is a happening place. There are always street vendors, nice places to eat and interesting things to purchase. The last time I was there (3wks ago), I took the water taxi to Fells Point which is a trendy section offering ethnic restaurants and such.
Johns Hopkins is there so you will have access to the state of the art medicine and research. BMore is close to DC and not far from Philly. Notice I skipped right over Delaware I find it to be an easy city to navigate as well. I saw some very charming row homes and lots of condos on the water.
My family is hosting a reunion there in late August, so I will be able to check out more stuff for ya!
I finally figured out the multi quote, lol, go me! Anywho...this place just gets better and better! IDK if you remember or not...but awhile back i was asking about my daughter's hair (she's got an interesting set of curls...daddy is white and i'm black). Someone here told me about Oyin...isn't that out of Baltimore too? I'll have to recheck...

Fells Point? I'll make a note of that. Maybe we'll pay a visit on the house hunting trip?! I've never been to Philly or DC...there's so much more to DO and see on the East coast than in the midwest! How close are the mountains? Know of any good hiking places or places with waterfalls and such?

The day my family reunites hell will freeze over...or fill up, lol.

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Witsky, I'm totally jealous. I'd love to go to school in Baltimore. I haven't visited in ages (money sucks) but I need to get back out there. At some point, I'll probably collect tHRH and a kid or three and spend the day out at Inner Harbor, the aquarium, all that good stuff. It's a fun trip.
Aww! You can come visit! Lol. (But leave the kids! J/k...what's THRH?) I nearly cried when turning down the school in Boston, but that was before I found out just how awesome Baltimore would be! I keep saying that we won't buy a house...won't settle, because I'd surely leave for NYC after grad school...but I dunno anymore. The city just may win me over and make me call it home! I do love NYC too though. and Chicago. Maybe I was just made for the city.
post #97 of 844
6/22/09 at 11:22pm
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Originally Posted by Brown Lioness View Post
Congrats!!! You will absolutley LOVE the inner harbor of Baltimore! That is like THE spot to BE in B-more!
Aaugh! Is it?!

Do you live there?!
post #98 of 844
6/22/09 at 11:30pm
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Is there something more specific you are looking for as far as something you think is abuse but are not sure of?
Yes. I have to pick up DH, but I will post later.
post #99 of 844
6/23/09 at 12:36am
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Originally Posted by AndrewsMother View Post
What exactly is child abuse? Please give me a few scenarios. Nothing sexual.
I can give you a few personal experiences .

1. My brother and I were 4 maybe 5 and he was really sick, like flu sick, and wasn't hungry at all. Our stepfather made him eat and told him if he threw up, he would beat his butt. So my brother scarfed down 2 cheese coney's and tried to tell my mom he wanted to throw up. Well...he did, all over the floor and started crying because he knew what was coming. My then stepfather took off his belt and beat him until he stopped crying and just laid there and his mother(stepfather's mother) told him that was enough. He beat him for about 3 mins straight with a lot of anger for no absolute reason. My mother never interjected and we both felt very betrayed but she knew if she did she would also get beat but it is still no excuse.

2. One early morning when I was about 6 or 7 I fell asleep waiting for my mom to come home as she worked 3rd shift. She came home and woke me up and gave me a present..The Lion King!!! I was so excited so at 7 am I immediately watched it. So an hour later my stepfather came downstairs to sit down. I was so engrossed in the movie, that he actually yelled my name and said, "Rianne!! come over here and bend over my knee, you gone get it". I knew what was happening and just started crying and he proceeded to hit me for about 2 mins and told me to sit down. I have no memory of doing anything as I tried my hardest to avoid him and his anger.

Now verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical and I seriously think that is why my brother is so messed up now. He was constantly called retarded and stupid and my stepfather never showed him any affection or attention unless it was negative.

I hoped that helped AM.
post #100 of 844
6/23/09 at 1:02am
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Originally Posted by futurmama8 View Post
Now verbal abuse can be just as damaging as physical and I seriously think that is why my brother is so messed up now. He was constantly called retarded and stupid and my stepfather never showed him any affection or attention unless it was negative.
My stepfather was very similair...and my mother didn't do anything about it. I'm still getting over the effects of those years in hell.

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