UPDATE 6/19:IT'S OVER/ I believe I am miscarrying... :( - Page 2

[AfricanQueen99]

Thinking of you, Rebecca.

[JayJay]

I also am thinking very positive vibes for you and have been since yesterday, mama...

*HUGE hugs* XXXXX

[Catubodua]

i'm so sorry

hopefully the babe is stressing you over nothing.

[Twisted Cinderella]

((hugs))

[THBVsMommy]

Thinking of you

[Stealthee]

Praying for you and your babe.

[makeminepink]

You and your baby are in my prayers.

[youngwife]

Thank you all, again, for your precious words of encouragement and support. Your prayers and concerns mean so much to me.

I have increased in bleeding, and passed a very large clot. So, at this point, I believe that if there is a baby living, it will be a clear miracle of God...but, He is capable.

But, if not, then I am at peace. I have six beautiful children, and not a thing to complain about. I would just like to quit hurting, now, and be able to move on.

Blessings to each one of you,

Rebecca

[Oceanone]

Rebecca, that is so hard. Please keep us updated and be very kind to yourself.

[ladyjools]

thinking of you today and hoping that everything is ok
and if not i hope that ur not in too much pain
((((((((hugs)))))))))

Jools

[NCMomworld]

You are in my thoughts and prayers today

[JayJay]

Thinking of you, mama. I do hope all is not as it seems, but if it is what you think it is, that is passes quickly and the pain eases. Sending you the most warm, heartfelt vibes imaginable.

*HUGE hugs* XXXX

[youngwife]

Update 6/18

This is what I learned today:

My cervix is closed.

Baby measured 6w7d, but there was no heartbeat on the abdominal u/s.

Baby was "sitting" on my cervix, so my OB thought it would not be much longer, and gave me the option to go ahead with a d&c, or wait. I chose to wait at this point.

Now, I believe that my lmp date is 4/9. I am still nursing. My first positive was on 5/17.

So, does anyone think that the dates could have been off???

Is there anyway it's too early to see heartbeat??

Is the fact that the baby is sitting on my cervix an indication that it truly has passed??

I don't want to hold out false hope (and I don't), but I do want to be absolutely sure that there is no way possible that things don't just look bad.

Does that sound crazy?? I have just heard of several miscarriages and such that turned out to have healthy babies in the end.

I am cramping a lot, and am VERY sore. If I have a long, hard road ahead of me, I am thinking maybe the D&C is a good idea.


Thank you for any advice and prayers!

[rachel65655]

I am so sorry you have to go through this time.

I personally would wait and let nature take it's course, so to speak, JIC. My LMP was 4/4 with first pos test on 5/7. If you ovulated late in your cycle, especially with you nursing, you could be just about right on with the dates. I don't know if a 6w fetus' heartbeat can be picked up, can it?? I wouldn't risk the D&C with so many questions as to what is actually going on. Is it possible that the baby implanted right near your cervix? That could also be causing the bleeding. I don't know if that is the case if you would eventually end up losing the baby anyway....I just don't know. There too many what if's for me.

I guess I don't want to seem like I am giving you false hope but I am not one that likes a whole lot of medical intervention when it is not necessary either.

[Cativari]

It's possible for your dates to be off especially since your still nursing, however with your u/s dating 6w7d it would be the outer limits of what would be probable since you got your positive on the 17th of May.

That being said I'd prolly wait a week or so before doing a D&C. I've heard some babes HB's aren't detectble until 8 weeks or so. And 6w7d might be too early to see a HB.

(HUGS)

[youngwife]

Thank you all for your honest opinions. I am trying to be patient, but not hold out hope.

But, oh, the cramping!!!! Not fun at all.

When the OB mentioned anesthesia, my first thought was, "finally, sleep!".

Thank you both,

Rebecca

[AfricanQueen99]

When I had my blighted ovum I poked around online and found a whole community of women that were *told* they did not have viable pregnancies and ended up birthing live, healthy children later.

In fact, my OB had me in for my dating U/S and then had me in the week later to just verify there wasn't any growth. There wasn't. And I waited to naturally miscarry.

Do you think you'd be up for one more ultrasound in a week to just see? If there's no growth then you know what's happening and you can go in for a D&C.

[ratrodgrl]

ditto what Angela and the pp's said. My midwife just told me of a mom whose birth she was just at, at 7 weeks or so the doc said no hb on ultrasound and wanted to schedule a d&c. Boy were they wrong!

I had a natural miscarriage, and it was good for me to experience the whole thing. There's good support on the loss board if it comes to that for you, but if you truly are miscarrying, RED WINE worked amazingly with my body for the contractions/cramping. It helped unlike anything else that I tried.

I hope and pray that this is just a bleeding scare and the babe is fine and will join your family in January. Much love.

[youngwife]

Thank you all again for your advice and support. I am trying to give this time, but it is getting harder with the circumstances I have here at home. :

My sick children need me, my other children need me, my house needs me...I just feel so done with this.

[Kidzaplenty]