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post #42 of 69
So sorry you are going through this.
post #43 of 69
Thread Starter 
Thank you all. I am still bleeding, but not really cramping this morning. I was really hoping that things would move along.
post #44 of 69
With my first pregnancy I bled a lot, passed some big clots early on and did not receive a hopeful prognosis from the OB. I decided to just hang on for a natural miscarriage but my hcg kept rising. I kept bleeding and they did an u/s when I was 6 weeks 5 days and there was no heartbeat, just a yolk sac and gest. sac visible. I was told blighted ovum and encouraged to schedule a D&C. I decided to keep waiting because my hcg had risen normally. The OB insisted the pregnancy was not viable because my hcg was over 25,000 and there is generally a visible heartbeat around 2500 hcg and I was at 10 times that amount. I went back 4 or 5 days later, still bleeding for another u/s check to see if any progress had been made and there was my DD, measuring perfectly per my O date with a great heartbeat. I was still bleeding at that time and continued to spot and bleed throughout the rest of the first trimester and a bit in the second and third as well.

So, from my own experience, I would hang on a little longer before consenting to a D&C. I know that my experience is probably more rare but it did happen and not all babies show up per the hcg guidelines and u/s technology that the OBs rely so heavily on. Giving it time isn't going to change the outcome either way, it will just give you confirmation about what is really going on.

Big hugs, I know the waiting is so hard.
post #45 of 69
Thread Starter 
Thank you so much for sharing that. And stories like yours is the very reason I decided to wait. I do want this to be over if its really a done deal, but I don't want to live with *any* regrets.

What I don't understand is this...

Why did I contract so very hard on Wednesday night, and my cervix never dilate. It perplexes me. And I am trying to not cling to hope, but still be patient.

Thank you very much. I really appreciate the support, hugs, and prayers.
post #46 of 69
You are in my thoughts and prayers...I would wait a little while longer if possible. With my miscarriage I am glad I let it run its course. It was added confirmation and time that I needed to accept the loss. In your case, it might be the same outcome as mine, but you do not know for sure. This just my thoughts and I hope the very best for you. Lots of hugs!
post #47 of 69
post #48 of 69
Oh, Rebecca, I really feel for you! The waiting and wondering - while trying to get on with normal life - I'm sure is just terrible! At least in my situation things are very clear, and I know I am no longer pregnant.

Do you have any preg tests at home? If you got a negative or a very very faint line, that might give you some peace to go ahead with the D&C. On the other hand, if you get a good, strong positive it would be worth waiting - or going for another u/s to check things again.

I'm so very sorry you're going through this. You are in my thoughts.
-Becca
post #49 of 69
post #50 of 69
Rebecca - your feelings are very valid (and common) to just want it to be over. I promise you that. Believe me, I know how much the waiting game sucks (I was told at +/-7 weeks that it wasn't a viable pregnancy and didn't miscarry until 12 weeks - it was a looong time). For me, I *needed* that second ultrasound to mentally prepare myself that the miscarriage was going to happen.

If you're ready for a D&C there is NO harm in that. No guilt. Just feelings of closure, hopefully.

No matter what, we're here for you.
post #51 of 69
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by tinynyota View Post
Oh, Rebecca, I really feel for you! The waiting and wondering - while trying to get on with normal life - I'm sure is just terrible! At least in my situation things are very clear, and I know I am no longer pregnant.

Do you have any preg tests at home? If you got a negative or a very very faint line, that might give you some peace to go ahead with the D&C. On the other hand, if you get a good, strong positive it would be worth waiting - or going for another u/s to check things again.

I'm so very sorry you're going through this. You are in my thoughts.
-Becca
The pregnancy test at the doctor's office yesterday was positive. I wanted to know my Hcg levels, but the office closed at noon today. :

I know that I just need to be patient, but like Angela said...it is hard.

Plus, I have an out of town doctor appointment for my daughter, which we will need to leave on Thursday. I am wondering how this is going to factor in!?!

Again, I really appreciate your sincere words and understanding support.

Blessings to each of you,

Rebecca
post #52 of 69
Thread Starter 
Update in the OP!
post #53 of 69
so sorry for your loss.

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post #54 of 69
really sad to here that its def a loss for you
but im also glad that the physical pain and discomfort is over and that you can move on

good luck in the future
((((((((((hugs)))))))))))))))))

Jools
post #55 of 69
So sorry for your loss. I wish you peace.
post #56 of 69
I'm glad it's over, and I'm just so sorry.
post #57 of 69
I am so very sorry.
post #58 of 69
Rebecca, I am sorry for your loss. Your family will be in my prayers.
post #59 of 69
i am happy to hear that you are ok, and are not in pain anymore. Don't worry about your MIL. that's ridiculous. Take time to heal mama.
post #60 of 69
I'm so sorry. And I'm sorry that you had some unkind words.
Be kind to yourself.
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