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post #21 of 57
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Originally Posted by txbikegrrl View Post
So in Canada parents get 12 months of leave combined? Is it paid or unpaid? Either way much better than we have here unfortunately!
Yes, we are really lucky The mom gets 15 weeks of mat leave and then there are 35 weeks of parental leave that can be taken by either parent or split between the two. If you pay into employment insurance (like if you work at a "job" job or if you elect to pay when you're self employed) you get paid EI for the leave. It's less than half what I normally get paid but any money while I'm staying at home is great.
post #22 of 57
With my last baby, I got up at 4:30 in the morning (3 days before my due date), worked an 11 hour day, picked up my 3YO from school and went into labor on the drive home. I got home, made dinner, got to the hospital, and she was born a few minutes later at about 7:30 in the morning.

This was totally not ideal. I struggled with health problems the last few weeks and would have loved a couple weeks off before hand! Here in America though, that would have meant returning to work when my babe was less than 3 months old.
post #23 of 57
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With my last baby, I got up at 4:30 in the morning (3 days before my due date), worked an 11 hour day, picked up my 3YO from school and went into labor on the drive home. I got home, made dinner, got to the hospital, and she was born a few minutes later at about 7:30 in the morning.


I'm crowing you Queen Supermom!
post #24 of 57
I planned to be off about 1 week before due date with both, and they both came early, so no time off. I did choose for it to be that way, to maximize time off after the baby got here, but if I had eleven months total, I would definitely take off at least a month before. Those last few weeks I was constantly frustrated about even having to work at all!
post #25 of 57
I was planning to work up to my due date. I was only getting six weeks paid and then DH would take over with his three months paid paternity. In my seventh month, and as I was waddling around on the subway platforms and steps, I started to get scared about going into labor out in public, but very much alone. But, fate stepped in and DD came six weeks early! I'm glad I had those six weeks with her full-time, post birth.
post #26 of 57
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I LOVE this idea.
Heh. He just has to be able--willing, really--to take direction.

Dh is really good about everyday stuff--dividing household responsibilities, parenting, etc.--but procrastinates on projects. So when it comes to bigger projects (like getting ready for the baby), I break it down into tasks and make the timeline for when stuff gets done.
post #27 of 57
First baby, I was in school full-time when I went into labor. Last day of school was a Friday and I went into labor early Monday morning (5 a.m. or so); baby was born about 1 a.m. on a Tuesday.

Second baby I worked full-time until I went into labor. Last day of work was a Friday, went into labor early Monday morning (2:30 a.m. approx), baby was born Monday evening.

Hmm, guess I like those Mondays, huh?

I would much rather have as much time as possible following the birth to recover and spend with the baby, getting BF well established, etc. than have a week or two off before going into labor.
post #28 of 57
With DD I stopped working at 38 weeks and went 11 days over due, so I was off for nearly a month before I had her. It was too long, and I was a little nutsy. Timing worked well with DS because he was due just a few weeks after Christmas, so I took two weeks vacation at Christmas time, went back for a week, and then went off 5 days before I was due. He was born on his due date. My employer pays for all short term disability leave (my midwife kindly wrote me off for 8 weeks for a un complicated vag. birth) then for 6 weeks of 'parental leave'. I took 4 weeks full time, for a total of 12 weeks full time, followed by a month of part-time (we can split our parental leave to be part-time for a while).
post #29 of 57
Here in Italy you have 5 months MANDATORY maternity leave, paid (by state)at 80% of your regular paycheck. These 5 months CAN start 2 months before due date but MUST start at least 1 month before due date. Which is what I did. After that, there are additional 6 months parental leave that can be split between the parents and used in blocks of any size (days, weeks, months) any time until the child is 8 yo. If they are used before the child is 3 they are paid 30% of regular paycheck, after that they are unpaid. (To incentivate male burden sharing, if the father takes 3 months continous of the parental leave, the couple gets 1 month additional as a bonus. Guess how many fathers I know took advantage of that? None, not even my DH. Added bonus: if you go back to work (FT position) before using up the entire parental leave (which for various reasons I did), the mother gets to do a 6 hour work day at 8 hour pay until the child is 1 yo (they call it "breastfeeding benefit", the only provviso is that you have to agree the location of the 2 hours off with your employer).

OP, everyone has different needs, but I really appreciated having that final month to dedicate to myself, and preparing for the baby, and not stressing, rushing, scheduling etc. If you have no counterindications, you could think of it as a holiday, a recharging of your energies and your spirit, before you enter into a really intense new period of your life.
post #30 of 57
Worked up until the day I delivered - in fact, I had a meeting with the new president of our university the day that I delivered. I did not want to waste any leave time without baby. However, I was pretty useless those last few days at work, ykwim?
post #31 of 57
I worked & attended college classes up until 3 days before I went into labor {water broke 2 days before labor started}, and went back to classes 6 days after DD was born. I did spotty attendance at my college classes for the first month or so with my professor's blessings.

Work made me wait until I was cleared to return to work {at my 6 week PP visit} before I could come back otherwise I would have been back to work much sooner.
post #32 of 57
I worked until 1 week before due date, but then had a medical induction, so I worked friday and ended up going into the hospital monday, so no time off really. I went back to work a few days before the 1st birthday. The second time I took 4 weeks of before, really enjoyed the end of my pregnancy as was more rested, I went over due so ended up being about 5 1/2 weeks before hand, therefore I had to return to work when baby was 10.5 months old, whcih wasn't great. It really is a catch 22 situation. The other thing to consider is that in alberta it is a lot harder to get a daycare spot for a child under 13 months and under 17 or 18 months? those are the months in which the adult to child ratios change so some daycare only take from 17 or 18+ months, and some are only 13+ months, and it is rare to find under 13 months. We ended up with a dayhome, partly for this reason.
post #33 of 57
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Yes, we are really lucky The mom gets 15 weeks of mat leave and then there are 35 weeks of parental leave that can be taken by either parent or split between the two. If you pay into employment insurance (like if you work at a "job" job or if you elect to pay when you're self employed) you get paid EI for the leave. It's less than half what I normally get paid but any money while I'm staying at home is great.
I just wanted to address this as I'm in Canada, albeit, Quebec - which as everyone knows, complicates everything.

Are you sure this is correct? I know that some of this changes from province to province, but I also know that all forms of leave changed around '06/'07 (causing the "baby boom" touted on the CBC). IIRC my DH was able to take a certain portion of paternity leave (5 wks I think?) in addition to having the choice of parental leave that can be taken by either parent, for a combined total of 1 or 2 yrs, provided that you decide at the outset 1) which parent is taking what 2) if you're on the 1 or 2-year plan. In our case it was DH that took the parental leave, I have several female friends (in QC) that took 1 yr., and another that took two (in ON). Taking two years rather than one results in a reduction in the percentage of your original salary vs. one year (which is 80% I think?). Sorry, it was DH that dealt with this.

Maybe it's changed again, but you might want to check this out. If it's like it was when DH and I were going through it, your DH could take the month he wants + 1 wk. as paternity leave since it's 5 wks., and then you could take your full year as the parental leave-taking parent. Both parents can take parental leave but they don't each get the total amount. If you each want to qualify for that, your total time together added up must not exceed the limits - that I am sure about. So, if you picked the 1 yr. leave, you could take 4 mos. and he could take 6 for example for a total of a year.
post #34 of 57
I worked until 40 weeks, 2 days and then it was the weekend and DS was born Sunday morning.
With DD, I worked until 39 weeks, 5 days and went into labor that night after work.

I'm one of those that doesn't see the point in taking time off before the baby comes. I get so little maternity leave that I don't want to waste it waiting. But I also have had pretty good pregnancies and haven't had complications, like swollen feet/ankles etc that would make working more difficult.
post #35 of 57
i had four months maternity leave total. i wanted to use the bulk of it after baby arrived, so i worked until a week before my due date (dd was born two days before my due date).
post #36 of 57
i wanted to work till i went into labor, but my boss really pressured me to set an end date, so i picked 38w, 6d as my last day, and that is when i went into labor (which didn't stop me from working till 8 pm)
post #37 of 57
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In terms of FMLA, I thought you got 12 weeks no matter what so if you needed to leave work before the baby was born then you had less time afterward...
Yep, and that sucks. I worked up until my due date because I didn't want my FMLA to start before the baby game. I did only work 1/2 days the last week I was at work, but since I used vacation time it didn't count as FMLA. I could've worked all day, but I liked being able to sleep in a little and since my leave replacement was trained I didn't have a lot of work to do for 8 hours. My DD didn't show up until 41 weeks, but I had enough accrued vacation time to cover that week so my leave didn't have to start.
post #38 of 57
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The other thing to consider is that in alberta it is a lot harder to get a daycare spot for a child under 13 months and under 17 or 18 months?
We live in Calgary and it's almost impossible to get a daycare spot, period, especially in the inner city where we live. We have a fabulous day home for DD right now and in the fall of 2010 when I'm ready to go back to work, her own child and her sister's child are going into grade one .... so two spaces have my name on them : I am concerned about a day home not providing enough structure for a 4yo so I am planning to send her to a nearby preschool as well. Another dayhome mom did this last year and was able to arrange a carpool for her son so she didn't have to leave work.

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Originally Posted by chs89 View Post
I just wanted to address this as I'm in Canada, albeit, Quebec - which as everyone knows, complicates everything.

Are you sure this is correct? I know that some of this changes from province to province, but I also know that all forms of leave changed around '06/'07 (causing the "baby boom" touted on the CBC). IIRC my DH was able to take a certain portion of paternity leave (5 wks I think?) in addition to having the choice of parental leave that can be taken by either parent, for a combined total of 1 or 2 yrs, provided that you decide at the outset 1) which parent is taking what 2) if you're on the 1 or 2-year plan. In our case it was DH that took the parental leave, I have several female friends (in QC) that took 1 yr., and another that took two (in ON). Taking two years rather than one results in a reduction in the percentage of your original salary vs. one year (which is 80% I think?). Sorry, it was DH that dealt with this.
I just looked at the booklet linked on this site - http://www.albertahumanrights.ab.ca/...parent/477.asp

I don't think there is a 2-year option or a paternity leave option in Alberta. Do you guys really get 80% of salary . We get the regular EI, which is 60% up to a certain salary and it's capped pretty low. For me it works out to about half.
post #39 of 57
I worked until my due date with both. However, I also went late with both.
post #40 of 57
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After reading through this thread I think I am going to reconsider taking a month off before my due date and leave work around 38 weeks.

A lot of the concerns raised about time with the baby and establishing breastfeeding etc. don't apply as much to me as someone dealing with a much shorter leave. Don't get me wrong - time with the baby is still very important to me, but the decision to put a 10.5mo baby vs. 11.5mo baby in daycare is very different than the decision to put a 2mo baby vs. a 3mo baby.

OTOH, I found it very interesting that so many of you worked practically until the day of. That is completely unheard of here and everyone thought I was insane to work until 38weeks. I guess I was feeling kind of entitled to that time beforehand since everybody else gets it. With my last pg there was physically no reason for me to take time any earlier, so hopefully this one will be the same. If I did take extra time beforehand, I don't think I would get to relax anyway ... there will be a 3yo to parent all day!
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