I just need a hug and some reassurance.
5 years ago when we had DS, my aunt who I am very close to, and who is a pediatric nurse was essentially my 'doula'. For the birth we had DH, my aunt, and then my brother and SIL there. Brother and SIL were essentially photographers - not really involved in the birth itself. However, my aunt was very involved. She was completely great. I cannot imagine doing it without her.
Fast forward to this pregnancy. The plan has always been that DH and my aunt would be my team again. My brother and mother will likely attend as spectators but the team was to be the same as before. This gave me great comfort and made the prospect of birthing exciting - we did a great job before, we'll do it again!
Here's the thing - my aunt is in the process of moving to another state. Her DH got a job there like 2 years ago and she stayed in this area until their daughter finished high school. The plan was always for her to move down there at the end of this summer when their daughter went to college. This timing worked out perfectly as I'm due Aug 14th so we would surely have her before my aunt needed to move, right?
Welllllllll... She just got a job offer in their new town and they need her there by July 20th. With the market being what it is and the town being tiny, jobs are scarce and she can't just say no and apparently this is not all that negotiable as they've had the position vacant a long time.
CRAP CRAP CRAP!
My DH is wonderful but he is not good with medical things. If I were to have to have a c-section (which is hopefully a non-issue), she was to go in with me cuz he won't be able to handle that. If there were complications and I couldn't speak for myself for some reason, she was to be in charge of seeing to it that our wishes were followed so that DH wouldn't have to try to manage and deal with whatever might be wrong with me. She was really the lynch pin in my plan - and now she won't be there.
Its not her fault, its no one's fault.
: It just sucks. I'm really sad and overwhelmed. I didn't realize how much I had been emotionally relying on her being there but now that she's not, I'm a big teary mess and I truly don't know what to do.
5 years ago when we had DS, my aunt who I am very close to, and who is a pediatric nurse was essentially my 'doula'. For the birth we had DH, my aunt, and then my brother and SIL there. Brother and SIL were essentially photographers - not really involved in the birth itself. However, my aunt was very involved. She was completely great. I cannot imagine doing it without her.
Fast forward to this pregnancy. The plan has always been that DH and my aunt would be my team again. My brother and mother will likely attend as spectators but the team was to be the same as before. This gave me great comfort and made the prospect of birthing exciting - we did a great job before, we'll do it again!
Here's the thing - my aunt is in the process of moving to another state. Her DH got a job there like 2 years ago and she stayed in this area until their daughter finished high school. The plan was always for her to move down there at the end of this summer when their daughter went to college. This timing worked out perfectly as I'm due Aug 14th so we would surely have her before my aunt needed to move, right?
Welllllllll... She just got a job offer in their new town and they need her there by July 20th. With the market being what it is and the town being tiny, jobs are scarce and she can't just say no and apparently this is not all that negotiable as they've had the position vacant a long time.
CRAP CRAP CRAP!
My DH is wonderful but he is not good with medical things. If I were to have to have a c-section (which is hopefully a non-issue), she was to go in with me cuz he won't be able to handle that. If there were complications and I couldn't speak for myself for some reason, she was to be in charge of seeing to it that our wishes were followed so that DH wouldn't have to try to manage and deal with whatever might be wrong with me. She was really the lynch pin in my plan - and now she won't be there.
Its not her fault, its no one's fault.
: It just sucks. I'm really sad and overwhelmed. I didn't realize how much I had been emotionally relying on her being there but now that she's not, I'm a big teary mess and I truly don't know what to do.
No chance they would let her take some time off since it was pre-planned?
) She said she couldn't do that because she is already taking time off to take her daughter to start college. 
