I'm sorry about the trouble with your mom. I also have a crunchy mom who has always been sweet, gentle, wonderful to everyone...but me (at times). I think moms have a hard time transitioning from the mom role to a more friendly/grandma role and staying a bit more hands-off.
Even if your mom doesn't agree with your method, she should respect your choices. It's hurtful when our moms react like that. I think so, anyway...
It's the middle of the night where you both are now, so hopefully, you are sound asleep.
Talk to you tomorrow!