Originally Posted by MittensKittens
REDVEG, where are you!?!
Geigerin, thanks for your support
but sorry to hear you are facing some of the same issues. She actually tries her best to respect and support, but that always shows in the form of a "yeah right", "well, whatever you say" comment that is sarcastically made. This is probably because she knows she should leave it alone, and doesn't know how to respond. And this is never before a bunch of "but what I say is really just the factual truth" (because the TV/web says so??) type remarks. It is also interesting plus kind weird to me what choices she likes and which ones she disagrees with. She had no issues with UCing at all and was Very Interested in the gory details. We do a lot of the same stuff, and she is totally nature-oriented. In that context, it just amazes me how her views on parenting and discipline can be so mainstream, yk? I just don't understand it. She is a big fan of nanny 911. How about your mom? What are the issues you are having difficulty with?
It is funny that she's so in touch with a more gentle approach to life but not when it comes to discipline. It sounds like you have a pretty good handle on it, though. She probably just doesn't know how to respond when you don't follow advice she gives.
My mother is an herbalist and doula, so she's taught me a lot of what I know about natural living. She whole-heartedly supports my search for a midwife and understands decisions we make in that arena. We struggle with little things she doesn't understand or can't relate to (or she finds downright offensive- like my love of Dunkin' Donuts iced coffee). For example, I started running about a year ago to lose weight. This spring, my husband and I trained for a half-marathon, and the day of the race, I called to tell her how we did. Her response: "I guess it's a Hooda-Hooda-Hoosier thing and we just don't understand." It doesn't sound bad, but that's a song on a local radio station that makes fun of hillbilly Indiana people. Is there something wrong with running? I think she just doesn't know how to support it because she can't relate to it, and sarcasm is her best way to handle it.
I know our situations are different, but the response is kind of similar. They want to be supportive but don't know how to without sounding skeptical.