How to "honor" an abusive parent? - Page 2

[Eco_Ma]

Hi

My advice is to read some of alice millers books especially "banished knowledge" she will really help you to heal and see things clearly.

Her books have changed my life so much it has really made me understand my childhood and my adult behaviour. I honestly cant praise her enough.

xxx

[my4littleducks]

Wow! I can't believe so many others have struggled with this! My father was abusive and I've often asked myself this question. We spent many years not talking. Then he found me on facebook. I did make him my "friend" but kept distance. I actually have forgiven him (not necessarily something you need to tell the person) and I've tried to rebuild the relationship a few times but he's not in a place to do that in a healthy way so I just keep my distance. I'm pleasant but I can't get involved.

Unfortunately, my mother-in-law treats me horribly as well. She tried to always back out of it when it comes to talk to my husband & said for years that it was a misunderstanding and never the way it looked, even when she did it to him. She has a tendency to lie about us to other people, make up stories, and just spew whatever evil thought she has whenever she feels like it. We decided that it was best to cut ties with her. If she can't be kind, I can't have that around my children. I've prayed about it and I feel like this is the best I can do. God has blessed our marriage in many ways since that and I feel that we're doing what we're directed to do right now.

It's still hard.

[blessed mommy]

Subbing!
I can relate soo much, that I am over my head deep in this issue at this moment!
Thank you so much,OP, for asking this very important question.
Thanks to all of the pps, so much food for thought.
Off to check out Alice Miller at the library...

[Eco_Ma]

i'm so pleased for you . Please let me know how you find the books :