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post #1 of 7
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Has anyone been diagnosed and treated for PPD and then decided to have another child? I had PPD with my second, but we had been hoping to have more than two children. My ds is only 6 months and we are definitely going to wait a while to try, but I am worried that this may be an irresponsible decision. I went into therapy when DS was 6 weeks and started on zoloft when he was 8 weeks. I am still on the zoloft but doing really well and considering coming off of it in a few months.
I have heard that PPD gets worse and worse with each pregnancy. If I take meds during the pregnancy will that lessen the chances? It is just such a dark place that I am scared to go back there. And I am scared that if it is more severe I might not respond so well to meds next time.
Has anyone done this?
post #2 of 7
I'm surprised that no one has responded to your post. I'm sorry, I've been busy this weekend or I would have gotten here sooner.

I began experiencing depression about a year after the birth of my second child. It went on for a year and got worse and worse, despite my pleas for help to my internist who ignored me and called me a hypochondriac. I had lots of physical symptoms like heart palpitations, racing heart, nausea, fatigue, etc the last few months because my depression begins manifesting in anxiety about my health.

I was finally admitted to the hospital for six days nearly a year after it all began and got help from a wonderful psychiatrist. I went on Lexapro for 8 months. Dh and I wanted another child so I talked to my shrink and decided to switch to Zoloft for a month to make sure it would work for me because if I was going to need to be medicated through a pregnancy, I wanted it to be a drug that wasn't so new and had some experience with pregnant moms. The Zoloft worked fine and I weaned off a month later.

I got pregnant right away, actually about the time I weaned off, and I have had a wonderful pregnancy. I haven't needed the meds at all and this pregnancy has been pretty protective for me. I have about seven weeks to go and I had originally thought I would go back on med the last month to prevent any sort of crash, but I now think, and my psychiatrist is with me, that I will wait and see how it goes after the baby arrives. Yes, my chances of it recurring is pretty high, but I just read an article (wish I could remember where) that said that although it is more common if you've had it once, it typically isn't as bad in subsequent pregnancies. I don't know if that is true, or if we simply know what to look for and are treated sooner. Either way, it was a risk I was willing to take. I have about three weeks of Zoloft at home so if I feel that I need it I can start it again without having to make an appointment with my shrink first.

When I was in the place in my recovery that you are now, I was just as scared as you are. It is still so fresh in your mind and it is hard to imagine a normal life again. You feel like you are always on the edge. I was resentful that I had to take a med to be "normal." As I got about 7 months into treatment I was able to see things a little more clearly and with less fear. I had been healthy for a while and that fear of slipping over the edge was gone. Six months is sort of a minimum time to be on the meds before stopping. Many people need 9 or 12 months to fully correct their brain chemistry. Unfortunately, how you are feeling isn't really a good indicator of whether the meds have "finished" their work. If I were you, I would stay on them for at least nine months before attempting to go off, expecially since you will still be dealing with the stresses of a baby. Then keep an eye on yourself and be honest in how you are feeling. There is no shame in going back on if it is too soon. It just means that the meds need a bit more time to work.

There are many of us here who have gone from PPD to have one or more children. Many have chosen to stay on meds through pregnancies, and many, many of us have breastfed. Give yourself time to heal emotionally from the trauma that PPD/depression can cause. It will be much easier in a few months when everything is further behind you.

Best of luck
post #3 of 7
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Jish
Thanks for you reply. I am going to stay on Zoloft for at least 9 months. Probably 12 just to be safe. Then I will try and wean off of it. Unfortunately I am working with a psychologist, not a psychiatrist, and though she is wonderful she has no training in meds. My Family doctor prescribed the zoloft, but he doesn't really have any training with PPD. So....I am out hunting for answers. It is good to hear that it doesn't necesarily get worse with each pregnancy. I will definitely be on the lookout and willing to seek treatment much sooner than I did last time. This decision toget pregnant again is months away, I am just concerned with finding out everything I can first.
post #4 of 7
Well, I am just pregnant with my second now. It took me 18 months to get help for my PPD and it was a full two years post-partum before it was fully gone, but I am going ahead for the second kid anyway! (My ds is 2.5)

I dealt with my PPD without drugs last time, but it took a longer time to go away as a result (I think) and so I have decided that if I get PPD again this time, I will go on an anti-depressant. I am also in therapy, so my therapist and I are both watching out for symptoms, and she has made me promise to come in to see her after the baby is born no matter how I feel!!


I wasn't ready to have another for a long time after my son was born. He will be almost 3.5 when this baby is born, and I think that I am finally ready to have another.
post #5 of 7
I am currently pg with my second. I weaned off of my meds before I got pregnant and I was doing great. Then I got pregnant and I developed antepartum depression. It got very bad and I had to go back on the medicine in the second trimester.

My doctor recommended that I go on the meds during the 8th month to help with the hormone shock of delivery, but this was before I was put on the meds again.

I think as long as you continue working with people, warn your mw/ob and have people watching you, you'll be ok.
post #6 of 7
I had raging but not officially diagnosed PPD after the birth of my second child. Four months of pure hell. As I started to get more rest, and dd's colic started to subside, I started to come out of it. No meds. Dh begged me to take some - or talk to a professional. I did neither.
Eight months ago, we had dd3. Not an ounce of PPD. Also no colic or sleep deprivation though and I really believe that going without sleep AND being forced to listen to your child scream 24/7 will make anyone crazy (no offense to that word please - just how I felt - actually, not true - I felt numb, didn't bond or care about anyone or anything.)
If you have a supportive husband and you are open to getting help if you need it, I would go ahead (giving yourself some space between kids - just to make life easier - I just think stress can help bring this on in some people). You may not get PPD with the third kid!
Good luck deciding.
Kirsten
post #7 of 7
I experienced PPD with both of my children. My oldest it was classic PPD started right after baby was born and I tried different meds and nothing helped it seemed to fade after about a year and a half. With my son who is 3 years younger than my oldest... the signs started to present themselves EARLY (9weeks or so)in my pregnancy and got worse and worse until the end of pregnancy, then worse yet after he was born. I finally found a medication that *HELPED* no wonder drug, but it did help... and recovery was longer and harder. I am now pregnant with my 3rd child and am still taking my medication I was prescibed after my 2nd child was born. It is not listed as being "safe" but my doctor (I see a postpartum specalist for medication managment) feels the danger of me being untreated is worse than the risk the medication poses to the baby. I was involved in a Post Partum Support group at a hospital here in Illinois and most of the women in the group all saw the same doctor for medication managment. A few woman were told by her to get their tubes tied. I asked her flat out when I started thinking about #3 "should I get my tubes tied and have no more children because of this illness" and she said she thought with medication and a close watch I might do ok one last time.... so here I am. I dont feel nearly as bad as I did at this point in my 2nd pregnancy, and its hard to know if my depression and moods I am feeling now are normal pregnancy stuff or the illness seeping back in. I just try to keep myself in check.

Pam
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