anyone said your lo was too big to carry?!?

[taramoon13]

my ds is 22 mo and i still carry him in the beco on occasion. it never even entered my mind that people would think he was too big until a relative commented on it, then dh said he was talking to a lady at work about it and she was surprised we still used a carrier at his age. i am really surprised by this! ds still likes the carrier & now that he's a toddler & into everything it's perfect when we are in certain places where he can't be grabbing everything & we need to keep him near us, he still likes to nap in it too. i don't know why i'm defending myself to you guys, i know you are on the same page as me! i'm sure if i were pushing him around in a stroller people wouldn't think twice, it always makes me crazy to see a 5 year old or older in a stroller!

[MamaDona]

I never get why people care. It's not like I am making them carry my kids! I'm happy, and they are happy, so why are you all bent out of shape about it?

[taramoon13]

agreed! if people don't understand something they act like it's wrong.

[Yippy!]

my son is older and has medical issues, so he is that big kid in a stroller Anyways, I always had people tell me he was too big to be in a carrier when he was a toddler, and this was always made me laugh when he was a baby-Mamas would be carrying their baby all akward in an infant carseat and tell me they are too big for a sling when they saw my same sized baby in one.

[mama_daba]

they are to big to carry when you can't carry them anymore. there are ladies at the local baby wearers group who carry their 5 year olds still!i sure hope i will be able to do that when dmitri is 5!

[taramoon13]

Originally Posted by Yippy!

my son is older and has medical issues, so he is that big kid in a stroller .

didn't mean to offend with my comment about big kids in strollers, i know there are exceptions that are riding for a reason.

[almadianna]

I wear my 2 and a half year old and I have gotten comments about it before... but really.. so what? I dont get what the big deal is about carrying older babies. I think it goes along with that whole "make them independent" mindset. LIke if we carry our kids for too long they will be spoiled or something... I dont get it at all.

[justice'smom]

My lo is only 8 wks old and I get those comments. I just don't get it either.

[Lunaria]

Weirdly I've never gotten a comment and my ds is 2.5 and 35lbs! I even wrapped him in a back carry the day before I gave birth and walked all over town. Maybe Canadians are too polite:P

Jenny

[maymorales]

It's funny even in my parent's neighborhood, a predominantly Chinese-American neighborhood, people used to make subtle but snide comments about my ds on my back at 18 months - 2 yo.

We went to Disneyland 2 days ago and brought a SSC in case my now big and tall 3 1/2 yo gets tired of walking, which he did. I got a couple of double-take glances with a hint of disapproval. But I chuckle because I'm wasn't the one pushing a big old SUV stroller through the crowd and I managed to meander through sea of people with ease. I just folded up the carrier and wore it on my hip like a fanny pack. no stroller parking.

I do believe the more people see us babywearers out and about, the more it gives them something to think about. From time to time, people do ask me about wearing my ds on my back as they see the convenience of babywearing.

sorry for the novel.

Tell your relative that bwing is your way to simplify parenthood.

[yarngoddess]

I have 4 kids...so I get all the crazy comments and looks anyway lol. Well, the other night DD#3 had a MAJOR accident in the store (diharreah(sp)!) and we had to put her in a diaper and shirt, well I'm NOT about to let my 3yr old daughter be in the store in just A diaper (she is potty trained, just sick)!!! SO- I put her on my back in a babyhawk. Normally it's #4 on my back and he's 2, well a lady saw me wearing Jenny on my back and said "My, that's a big load you've got." not rude or anything, and I said "Well, she's sick so she needs all the mommy time she can get" and the lady stopped and thought for a moment and ACTUALLY appologized (which NEVER happens) and said "You know, I judged you just based on her size and I'm sorry- it never occured to me that there may have been a problem. Good for you for taking such great care of your kids." and sheepishly smiled and walked away before I could comment further. I was also holding DS#4 in my arms.

I agree, the more people that see babywearing the better- from newborn to "big kids" especially special needs kids!

I used to just make a polite answer back to those probing questions, but now? Now I answer them either as honestly as I can or as bold (not rude) and direct as possible when it comes to my kids. I want them to see that I believe in my decisions and my lifestyle and that I AM NOT ashamed of them or the way we are, it helps that I have 6 little eyes and ears that are learning and recording EVERYTHING I say and do. My DD told a stranger today at the county fair that "Babies shouldn't be in strollers very often- they need to be worn in Chunei's and MeiTai's" something to think about