I know there are a few of you here. I know there used to be a thread. Shall we have another go at having a thread?
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6/18/09 at 4:36pm
I am not a single mother by choice yet, but would love to follow a thread on the topic, as I am very seriously considering donor insemination, once I get back on my feet financially. I am a single mother to two amazing young DD's and just feel like I'm not done yet! However, I have absolutely zero interest in ever entering into another relationship. I'd love to hear experiences from the MDC single mothers by choice out there.
Well I would now officially classify myself as a SMC, even though I didn't go the donor route. I might as well have and I'm seriously considering telling DD we just had a donor, but I know who he was. Hopefully I have a few years to figure that one out.
I had some trouble in the beginning with ChoiceMoms and such cuz I didn't feel like I actually fit in there since this was a huge oops and not planned. But I AM planning on terminating his rights (which he agrees to) and probably not having him on the birth certificate, and I chose to have the baby even though it was an oops, so yeah, I'm a SMC.
can i join you ladies?
i might have well have had a donor.. i left ds's dad because he was abusive and we havent seen him for 7 years, he has no parental rights and i had to choose between my partner and the baby i was pg with .... who is now 13 weeks old: he hasnt met her and has no rights
I adopted internationally--from Guatemala. It's closed now with no re-opening in the foreseeable future unfortunately.
There are a seriously dwindling number of countries that singles can adopt from. China closed to singles in the last 2 or 3 yrs.
I think India, Colombia, Russia, Haiti, and Ethiopia are open to single women, but there may be limits on the ages/types of children availabe to them. There are probably other countries, but they don't come to mind. The State Department has a great central repository for other countries' requirements. http://adoption.state.gov/countryinformation.html
I'm going the foster-to-adopt route through my state this time.
That is interesting. So what limits are those, generally?
Good gravy. Just for kicks, I read up on China. Here's who's disqualified from adopting - among many, many others:
-married couples under age 30, or over age 50
-a married couple with <$80,000 assets
-a married couple with <$100,000 annual income (excluding "welfare, pensions, unemployment insurance, Government subsidies and the like")
-a married couple, one of whom is blind (even if just one eye)
-a married couple, one of whom has taken Prozac for two years
-a married couple, one of whom is fat ("Body Mass Index (BMI) of 40 or more")
-a married couple with five children already
http://adoption.state.gov/country/china.html#who1 Because apparently adoption by one of us degnerates is worse than life in an orphanage, or infanticide.