Originally Posted by MittensKittens
Yeah, I know what you mean. Do you know where your kids will go if you die? My mom and aunt are both happy to care for my children. This would mean an international move for them and a change in language though.
Moms of older kids - do you work outside of the home? Do any of you homeschool? I would love to homeschool, BUT I am unsure whether it is financially feasible as a solo parent.
oh sure, the will is taken care of and my family is wonderful--I just have those morbid thoughts of blowing a blood vessel or heart attacks or those kind of things that leave a person dead fast and having my poor kid alone with my carcass with nobody around right away....
The bank will get the donor out of retirement for 6 grand, then the quarantine, then all the waiting and whatnot. one other mom wants to do another, but even then neither of us wants to do the waiting game or shell out 3 grand, even.
Initially, when the donor contacted me I had to freak out for a few days--I mean "what are your intentions, are you some kind of midlife crisis who wants all the babies" but he was just making himself known for pictures and questions...has a lot of contact with the teens in the sibling group...but then I had to change my "story" for dd just a bit and modify the baby book with all the donor info a bit as well...
One thing that really makes me p.o.ed is when moms of donor kids encourage talk of "biological father" and asking the donor to have some kind of relationship/parenting role with the kid. Won't be that case for us, and the ones who do give all of us SMCs a bad name. DD has asked before about a "daddy" and I simply explained "oh! you don't have one of those! How many grandpas do you have?" (3)