I'd given up on finding mr right, and ended up with mr nextdoor's beautiful baby daughter (just turned three!). But dad is definitely not mr right (though we tried for a while...). I have no regrets, but "if I'd known then what I know now" I would have done things differently like many here and avoided a lot of complications (I would like to move back to Oregon where I have more friends and family, but can't because of his rights...). I think I was looking for a forum like this back then but didn't know it.
(How can we reach more women like me??)
Anyway, I recently got re-acquainted with a guy I used to teach with at an alternative school a few years ago, and he was miffed at my situation because he's given up on finding ms right and wishes he was mr nextdoor.
I told him he should donate, and he says he looked into it already and they won't take him because he's too old (just over 40 I think) and too thin (his whole family are beanpoles). Is that true that he's not even allowed to donate? He's like a supergenius, graduated college at 18, "retired" at 30 (he was tearing up his salary checks the whole time the school was having budget problems) and is just a super nice guy, and wants to donate because he's got great genes except for the beanpole thing. (I've met his nieces and nephews and they're all adorable.) He wanted kids of his own too but has had a run of bad luck (last story was really sad but I shouldn't share it). I told him if I wanted another kid... but he says he gets that a lot, and it never happens.
So, I don't know what to tell him. My baby's daddy got picked because he was nextdoor and good looking, so I can hardly offer him hope, but it sure seems like he should be easy to match. Any thoughts for him?
(Just called him and asked him a little more about what he would want or expect. He says he wouldn't want to be completely anonymous--wants to stay in touch and wants his kids to know who their father is, but wouldn't expect any custody or control. He said he'd even consider offering financial support(!), no strings attached. I wish I had that deal now, but I'm not sure I would have been foresightful enough to take it at the time. :/ Anyway, is there a venue for finding guys like him, or is he just out of luck?)