Single Mothers by Choice! - Page 25

[writerkater1]

Hi, did you ever get inseminated?

[habitat]

deeweeted.

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[habitat]

deeweeted.

Edited by habitat - 12/31/11 at 12:34pm

[Satori]

Umm Habitat, you do realize the posts your bringing up are over 5 MONTHS old and DEAD and dealt with? Please don't stir the pot to feed the trolls:)

[habitat]

f i x e d. Sorry about that.

[esg]

Sooooo..... I hope everyone is doing well and will have a great new year! Any updates?

[prescottchels]

Thought I'd revive this and see what you gals are up to...I was on here a few years ago... can't believe it's been so long...things just weren't coming together for me in the realm of getting preggers so I kinda put it on the back burner. Since then I went back to college, got engaged, then disengaged-in the span of 1 season, graduated and am finally doing what I've been trying years to do-working for myself! And it's paying the bills! Finally. lol

The only difference is the completion of my degree, which has nothing to do w/what I'm doing so I can only attribute the work success to the completion of that school energy that was hanging over me for 10 years. So I'm hoping that clearer energy will allow it to be easier to get pregnant and stay pregnant when I hopefully try later this year

In the mean time...mildly freaking out that I'm 35 now and still kidless, finishing house remodel projects, getting finances in better order, getting health in better order, and figuring out-again-if I want to go known donor or not. I've been waffling about foster/adopt too, but I really don't think my house would pass in regard to space requirements for bedrooms and such it's SO tiny...

So what's goin on w/you ladies?

[meandk0610]

i'm hoping to be ready by next year. really, i'd rather be ready by this fall because i'm 41 but i'm just not sure that health and finances will be ready yet. health, more importantly. dd6 would REALLY like to have a little sister. not sure how my ex-husband (dd's dad) would feel but since i have sole custody on grounds of cruelty and he only has supervised visitation (supervised by me, unfortunately), i'm not so sure that i should care!

good luck to everyone trying soon!
 

[prescottchels]

Hi Meandk!

Yeah, I wouldn't be taking the ex's thoughts about the matter into consideration, no way! Bummer though that you have to be the one to supervise visits...why not a social worker or CASA volunteer or something?

Have you figured out by what means you'll be attaining your sperm?

Anyone else out there want to check in and say hi? 

[esg]

Hi, ladies. I get the post updates to my email so I'm usually able to check in but not much has been happening here for a while.
Prescott, it sounds like you've been pretty busy lately!
Meandk, it sucks that you have to supervise visits. It doesn't sound like your ex's opinion should hold much water here. Hopefully you'll be ready soon.

AFM, since checking in last, J has turned a year old (15 months this week) and is definitely a toddler. Not much has been going on with me. I'm hoping to try for another baby soon but I have to get health and finances in order. I was hoping to become debt free first but with Endo symptoms coming back in, I'm hoping to just be ready enough, soon enough. All in good time though. Hope everyone else is well.

[esg]

Prescott, I can't edit from my phone but I forgot to add that it's cool you're working for yourself and it's paying the bills. That's been a goal of mine for a while. I'm hoping to at least get started on it all this year. I just need to find a sturdy chair to contain my child for a while!

[prescottchels]

Hi esg!

15 months is such a fun age!! One of my favorites.

I so love being self employed, mostly that I can set my own hours, and so far I've had clients that I think would be ok w/me bringing baby along so that gives me hope that I'll still be able to work some w/o needing to find childcare for a while, plus some of my work I can do from home so that helps too.

What is it that you'd like to do?

[esg]

Originally Posted by prescottchels 

Hi esg!

15 months is such a fun age!! One of my favorites.

I so love being self employed, mostly that I can set my own hours, and so far I've had clients that I think would be ok w/me bringing baby along so that gives me hope that I'll still be able to work some w/o needing to find childcare for a while, plus some of my work I can do from home so that helps too.

What is it that you'd like to do?

He is a good age! Full of energy and funny funny funny.

I have a few ideas rolling around but nothing in particular set in stone just yet. I'm not one to stay in a particular industry for too long but I have a few ideas that I would love to explore. I'm just going through them and seeing which would be better to do with a toddler hanging around. I'll figure it all out soon. I did teach dance for a while and would love to go back to that but that is definitely not toddler friendly!

What type of work do you do?

[prescottchels]

lol well if you taught toddler/preschool dance it could work... especially if it was a mommy & me type thing... just a thought

I am a nutrition coach and I'm gluten free so I really like to help people make the transition to living GF, but I'll help folks w/whatever they need. One of my current clients has removed himself from the 6 or 8 prescription meds the docs put him on after a heart episode he had in Nov/Dec. He was diagnosed as pre-diabetic at that time too. With my help he's eating healthier, sugar free, GF, etc and his blood sugar is normalizing and he's feeling lots better! He likes my work so much he hires me to do executive assistant type stuff for him too. I just planned a trip for he and his caregiver out of state-booked event tics, plane, shuttles, car, hotel, etc for them, also making phone calls since he's hard of hearing and it's tough to communicate and helping him edit/self-publish a small book lol It's a good thing I like variety!

I also do personal organizing. Organizing whatever people need help with in their homes or business. I'm organizing files at a school I used to work at; created a retention schedule for every kind of document they have or could have, destroying out of date stuff, moving files around so it makes more sense-having them closer to the people that work w/them the most, etc.

I've done scary walk-in closets that were so full the door couldn't be opened all the way, bedrooms, home offices, garages, sheds...It's all so fun!!

Just keep at it! You'll find the right fit for you both.

[esg]

I've thought of the mommy and me thing several times over. Planned it out and everything I'm just not sure I won't to go back to those ages. I used to teach children and even though parents would be there, it's a bit of a handful! But I did consider that. I'm thinking of sticking with adults. I'm sure I'd never have to put an adult in time out!

Your work sounds great. I tend to like variety as well which is why I'm indecisive. Organizational work is very cool but the fact that you get to change it up is even more appealing. Hopefully soon I'll get there.

[prescottchels]

Yeah, I totally understand not really wanting to go back to teaching little ones-they are definitely a handful in class settings. I used to teach handwork(knitting, crochet, cross stitch, etc) at a waldorf school, grades 1-8, and it drove me bonkers that I had to try and teach AND keep everyone in line. Classrooms are such ridiculous settings for children to try and learn in, imho

and I learned that I can't stand doing one kind of work 40 hrs/wk so much to the dismay of my family I've quit all my traditional jobs and just taken work as it has come along and been much happier, if not richer but that's coming along now too...

So I'll encourage you, if no one else has to just do what you love doing and the rest will fall in to place You don't have to choose just one thing! You can have AND!! My close circle of friends is big into AND, why limit yourself? It creates so much more flow/joy/opportunity to say I choose this AND that! I dare ya to try it! And keep us posted :)

[prescottchels]

I just had a thought about you teaching dance...I have no idea what type you teach...but what if it was a baby wearing/breastfeeding friendly class? I know I'd be much more inclined to take a class if I knew it was kosher to bring/wear my baby and not be the only one. If it's more relaxed and mamas can take a few minutes to tend to their littles and then jump back in to class when they're ready it could be really great. Another variation could be for it to be ok for babies to be in strollers in the room and or to have in house childcare w/a high school or college girl you can pay inexpensively or do a partial trade with-like half pay and half dance lessons. That way you could have J w/you but if he needs more attention someone else could take him for a bit right in the next room. Orrrrr lol I love brainstorming... what if you started out in someone's home? That person has a kid, doesn't want to leave it w/a sitter, but would love lessons so you go to their house, open it up to other mamas and then rent a space when you have enough clients/$ to do it. Ok, I'm stopping. For now.... lol  I get really excited about all the potential possibilities in a given situation.

Cheerio for now!

[esg]

Thanks for the encouragement. I always need it. I have family members who constantly tell me to get a "real" job rather than exploring money making interests. Of course what I do now keeps us afloat for the most part it's just...well I joined the in unjobbing tribe here a while back if that helps any! I'd just rather explore than do one single thing unless, like you, that one thing includes a variety to keep me interested.

I don't think I could keep a child closed up in a room. Teaching dance showed me that they learn so much better when it's a bit more free and it leads to fewer discipline issues cause they're more likely to be engaged. Unfortunately the director didn't see it that way! I totally get what you mean there.

I do like the idea of a more free adult dance class. A little technique, nice stretching, a lot of imagery, some improv, lyrical, maybe modern dance and of course babies welcome. I like it. My house is definitely not big enough for that though. I guess more brainstorming is order! We'll see how it goes! Thanks.

[prescottchels]

Welcome!!

What's the unjobbing tribe all about? I've not heard of it... Guess I could go find it myself lol

[esg]

Originally Posted by prescottchels 

Welcome!!

What's the unjobbing tribe all about? I've not heard of it... Guess I could go find it myself lol

http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1233090/the-unofficial-unjobbing-tribe