how and when (if at all) is it ok to push a little? - Page 2

[katiesk]

My thoughts are that she knows formula is an option and she will turn to formula if she needs it, so you don't have to talk about that

i did not read many of the responses - but i agree with this. everyone knows that formula is an option, and where to get it, etc. not everyone knows that bf really is the best, what are normal struggles, where to get support and help, etc.

so, i don't know if i would call it 'pushing' really, but i do think it is fine to be honest and provide information. your friend can hopefully be assertive enough to tell you if she does not need your help and support in this area.

[ssantos]

I was absolutely determined to breast feed no matter how hard it was. I had heard horror stories from my sister and a friend - cracked and bleeding nipples the first week of breastfeeding, so I set up an appointment with a lactation consultant a week after my first child was born and the day I left the hospital for my second child. It made a huge difference getting good advice. I think LLL Leaders are just as good (and free). Maybe try to find a consultant or a LLL Leader who will come see her as soon as she comes home from the hospital - if she agrees. Maybe meet with the person before she delivers.

Many women really trust their pediatricians. If she doesn't have one yet, help her find one that really supports breastfeeding - it's shocking how many don't.

My dd1 stopped breastfeeding a month before her 4th birthday and dd2 is about to turn 3 and still going strong.

[sapphire_chan]

Since you've had personal experience with it tell her that because you wish others hadn't given up on you, you're going to be a bit pushy about breastfeeding and you hope she understands. But really, since breastfeeding will work for her it isn't even going to be an issue :

ETA:
And she should go to LLL *now* and have a chance to be around nursing mamas.