Originally Posted by KatWrangler
Well our chances of moving back to STL is about 90% we will move. My ILs are going to look at apartments today and see what renting options are. We can't stay with them because we have a cat and my MIL is allergic to him (they were here this weekend and she swelled up from being around him).
Today, I need to look at what changes would happen to our public assistance. We have SSI being processed for DD1, we already have Food Stamps, WIC, Medicaid for all of us. Short term disability is being processed for my husband too. However, how will that change moving to a new state? What would happen to our benefits if I got a part time job? How much money can we make before its affected? These are questions I need help with and need to find out before we make an official determination of whether we will move.
The other possibility is moving to the KC area. We have looked here in Lawrence for cheaper housing and it just doesn't exist. We drove my some places and they are just plain scarey and dirty.
I will keep you posted.
Good luck with everything. I have been following this thread and find myself thinking of your family fairly often. I have always lived in this area (except for college) and really love most things about it. But I also understand having mixed feelings about the move given the circumstances. All of my family and in-laws live in the area too and it's definitely a mixed bag! Yeah, sometimes they are supportive and the free babysitting is great, but sometimes it seems like we all know way too much about each other's business! And my mom has physical and financial issues we are happy to help with but it's a strain and her emotional issues make being so involved with her quite stressful at times. I'm not trying to make this about me, just saying I think I know how you are feeling. I used to really resent being "stuck" here but now am trying to focus on what we love about the area (lots of free kid-friendly activities, strong AP community, low cost of living, some gorgeous weather and lots of great parks and restaurants) since we will likely be here until my mom is gone some day.
I think, as others mentioned, the key for you and really anyone living here is to find the area that is the best match for you. There is such an overwhelming variety of areas in the city and county, each with their own atmosphere and positives and minuses.
As you continue on your journey, I hope you turn to this tribe again. I know many of us would be happy to answer any questions you may have.
Good luck with it all and keep us posted!