really helps me, also 'getting things done' is a great book. once you've got some routines in order, things just function so much better. when i started parenting i was utterly routinelss
and things are so much easier now. flylady's decluttering has been critical for me, my house is so much easier to handle when it is ruthlessly 'thinned'. none of us our happy with a lot of objects, though we have a lot of attachments to those objects!!
my favourite tool is really the timer, because i get overwhelmed easily and cannot even begin. i usually find something i've spent weeks avoiding will take me less than 10 minutes. i also find that once i reach a certain state of clean and organised, i'm more likely to maintain it than to give up...once i drop below that level, i'll just give up and stop putting things away, and then it spins out of control. i also find that a new responsibility or routine (starting new classes, deciding to start doing yoga daily) will throw me and i need to be very conscious about how to reorganise our routines.