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post #21 of 31
Good luck in all of this, like the PPs have said it will probably take quite a bit for the court to take your son. Just hang in there and keep doing what is right for your son and family.
post #22 of 31
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Okay I just re-read your responses. Did your ex file a complaint and you have 4 days to answer or 4 days before mediation. If you have four days to answer then you should have your lawyer file for an extension which is pretty simple and if you can't get ahold of your lawyer in that time period you should be able to go to the courthouse and do it pretty easily yourself. Good Luck
4 days to answer

I have a lawyer who will be responding Mon. He thinks we are in a good place. Now I just have to finish coming up with a HUGE amount of money

: for a miracle.
post #23 of 31
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I can't believe that this man is that far behind on CS in MN! DH was *not* behind, but since the county was not taking it out of his paycheck (he writes DSD's mom a check each month), they nearly started garnishing his wages when DSD's mom applied for MN Care last fall. It took a ridiculous amount of effort to stop them.

Good luck!
As long as he makes some kind of payment every 3 months, they will not touch him.

One time he paid a little over 5.00

They say "he is making effort". :Puke
post #24 of 31
He just makes me ill! i could say so many UA violations its not even funny! UGH... i will pray for you... how can i help?
post #25 of 31
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4 days to answer

I have a lawyer who will be responding Mon. He thinks we are in a good place. Now I just have to finish coming up with a HUGE amount of money

: for a miracle.
You don't need a miracle, just a judge who dislikes, erm, people like your ex-husband. IME, most judges intensely dislike people who think that they can talk the judge around to their way of thinking.
post #26 of 31
Oh my gosh, sister; didn't know my X had a twin!

In my state (FL), 50/50 splits are not ordered unless agreed upon, because they are presumed to be against the child's best interest unless the parents can cooperate fully. Also, watch out for your X trying to get substantial timesharing (in FL, 40% or more of the overnights) with the sole intent of reducing his child support obligation. There is social science evidence to suggest this is a growing trend that is ultimately detrimental to custodial moms. If he doesn't exercise the time (mine didn't), it will be very difficult to get the order changed (and child support adjusted to what it should be), especially if he tries to blame it on you (mine did).

Emotionally abusive, manipulative men lie about many things. Expect his "mind changing" to continue, get everything in writing, and don't sign anything until it's right for you and your son. Also, don't be afraid to include something in the mediated agreement you (or your son) may want in the future (like passports), no matter how small it may seem now.

It seems to me that you are in a strong position, especially in terms of your history of homeschooling--don't give in on this. It has probably taken on res judicata status in your case (which means it cannot be changed unless there is a substantial change in circumstances), especially if you were doing it before the dissolution. Chances are, even if you can agree on some things in mediation, you'll still have to go to court for the rest. If he was emotionally abusive during the marriage, be sure the judge knows so that whatever he orders will have your safety in mind. My prayers are with you.
post #27 of 31
Any updates yet?
post #28 of 31
Wow- i'm keeping you and your family in my thoughts. Please update when you can Stay Strong momma, and stand in your truth. You know you are doing the best and your lawyer will fight, let's hope you get a judge that sees through all the lies and BS that your X is going to spew. Hugs momma.
post #29 of 31
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Any updates yet?
Working to make retainer payment. Yeah....4,000 with another 1,000 due asap

Contacted his lawyer briefly to let him know we are and have always been game for mediation. Also let him know my lawyer would contact him as soon as I could retain one.

Will keep updating as info comes.

Keep praying!
post #30 of 31
Oh AngleBee- I wish I could help you raise that money
post #31 of 31
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Oh AngleBee- I wish I could help you raise that money
thanks
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