Miekesmummy got what I meant. CIO is not my idea of good parenting, but it is widely accepted and not considered abuse. SIDS has *nothing* to do with CIO. It is ludicrous to decide that a baby cried itself to death based on 2 sentences of a story that you heard from a friend that was briefly alluded to in a magazine article she read about something else. If more people were able to think critically and would stop jumping to emotional conclusions with no factual basis whatsoever, maybe co-sleeping, bf'ing, cloth diapering and gd would be more mainstream. And if we are at all interested in having those things become mainstream, we had better not jump to emotional conclusions with no factual basis ourselves or we will deserve to be called flakes.
Leonor: You said "Are there right ways and wrong ways to treat children or not? If parents spank their children, do you judge or not? Isn't there any situation you'd consider neglect or aabuse and that the parents should have their children taken away?" @@ Of course there are. I don't judge spankers, though, they are IMO misled but doing what they know. And just because people are terrible/neglectful/abusive parents doesn't mean they are monsters or evil, but their children should be protected from them of course. It's not a judgement, it's simply the way it is.
"I find it hard to believe you don't juge any parent in the world. "
Believe what you want. If there is one thing that I have learned as a parent it is that you don't know what it is like in another's shoes until you've been there. There are so many things I thought I wouldn't do or situations I wouldn't get into that have happened now that I have a hard time judging anyone.