Older Mommy Tribe

[Jyotsna]

Hey there mamas,

I'm always in a very unique situation wherever I go. My children are 8, 8 and 12. I'm 44, nearly 45. Most of the mothers who's children are friends of my children, are much, much younger. Some in their late 20's, but most in their early 30's. I always enjoy the company of my younger mama friends, but I feel like a fifth wheel, when the conversations turn away from the kids. I am older, and that is a fact. Where are the mama's who are my age? So far, most of my highschool friends are grandmothers now!

So older mommies, lets chat!

[almadianna]

I am moving this to parenting, there are a few older moms threads here.

[CatsCradle]

Hi Mama! I'll be 46 this year and my DD is almost three. I don't have a lot of friends who are younger but DD has a lot of friends at school who have younger parents. Everyone is always very friendly but I do feel disconnected in a lot of ways. I think part of it is that even though you share one common thing (children), interests perhaps change has one gets older. There were a lot of things that I was passionate about when I was younger, but those interests have shifted to other things. A bigger challenge for DH and I is that for years, we had many close friends who also did not have children. Then, when DD came along, those friendships sort of waned. Not anyone's fault, but we simply can't do a lot of the things that we used to do with our friends who do not have children. In the same breath, I'm not sure if they really want to hang out with a highly active youngster.

There is a tribe here right on the Parenting forum for 40ish-something moms, but I can't find it right now. Try to check it out if you can...there are a lot of us!

[SandraS]

I'll be 42 this year with four children, ranging from 15 years to 18 months old.

And I am not sure I'm done yet.

We're not social butterflies here, for some of the reasons you mentioned, and for others that are more personal - frankly, people in real life annoy me. LOL! I am not into tupperware parties and don't want invited to 10 children's birthday parties a year, so I avoid mother's groups like the plague (of course, they all discuss how wonderful CIO and beating a kid is too, so that's another reason why)... we have a small circle of friends that we see on occasion, otherwise we like just being together as a family.

Sometimes it is very difficult to talk to moms with children the same age as ours, when they are half the age of us! I don't diss their ability to be good moms, but 20 years of life experience is a lot of growth, and I'm always glad to talk to another Geriatric Mama!

[Evan&Anna's_Mom]

I'm here. 46 years old, kids are 9 and 6. Luckily for me there are many older moms around me -- both at church and at the kid's school, so I have a few mommy friends. But there are times when I find myself feeling very old around some of the younger moms out there!

unny story -- DS's first preschool teacher was just barely 21 and I was already over 40. I could easily have been her mother. I about laughed in her face when she insisted that I needed to call her "Miss Lastname" while she called me "Rebecca". Um, no. I have no problem with Miss Lastname for teachers and was happy to set an example for the kids. But at that point, I'm Mrs. Lastname.

[claras_mom]

I'm here, too! 45 next week. I have a 4-1/2 yo daughter and a baby daughter (3 months next week). Here's a link to the thread someone referenced. There are quite a lot of older moms here, with littles as well as older kids.

http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1087199

I about laughed in her face when she insisted that I needed to call her "Miss Lastname" while she called me "Rebecca". Um, no. I have no problem with Miss Lastname for teachers and was happy to set an example for the kids. But at that point, I'm Mrs. Lastname.

No kidding!

[sewchris2642]

Count me in. I have both grown children (31, 28, 24) with children of their own (4, 2, 7 mos, 5 mos) and my youngest is 11. I was 45 when Dylan was born. All three girls have been mistaken for Dylan's mom and I've been refered to as Dylan's grandma. Most of his teachers are younger than I am. Even his dr is younger than me. Dylan introduces me as his "real" mom, not his grandma.