tessamami - I appreciate what you are saying - but none of us have given up hope, or thinking positively - but being told to, "you need to just relax and not think about it, and you will get pregnant." discounts anything physical that might be contributing...it put the onus on us for not being "happy" and "relaxed" enough. (I know that isn't what you said.) I for one am as positive as I can get for as long as I can be - check out my senior member title. But when my period shows up for the 19th time in a row...i am a little less positive. I agree that miracles can happen at any time. And I am open to that. I would be thrilled. But that may not be all it takes.
As for people who conceive easily having problems as well - we are all very well aware of that. Being on this board you see your fair share of m/c, and problems. We know that being pregnant is not always a picnic, but we sure would like the chance to try it at least once.
As for being bitter...well, some days you are bitter. Some days you are angry. Some days you cry. Some days you laugh. But for you to come in and tell us that being bitter is not a place we want to stay in for very long, well that is shortsighted on your part, cause you haven't been in my shoes. Sometimes bitter is all I have to hold on to, to keep me from crying or locking myself in the bathroom all day.
Our anger and our bitterness is our own. We aren't saying that anyone is ungrateful for their kids, or anything else. We are saying that WE are upset, angry, bitter, unhappy. It has NOTHING to do with anyone else. It has to do with us. Do not tell us that we shouldn't feel the way we do...especially if you haven't been through it.
I don't want anyone to ever fell guilty about conceiving easily. Ever. That is stupid. I do want them to take the extra five seconds to think about what they are saying before they say it. Or they might get met with some bitterness.
As for people who conceive easily having problems as well - we are all very well aware of that. Being on this board you see your fair share of m/c, and problems. We know that being pregnant is not always a picnic, but we sure would like the chance to try it at least once.
As for being bitter...well, some days you are bitter. Some days you are angry. Some days you cry. Some days you laugh. But for you to come in and tell us that being bitter is not a place we want to stay in for very long, well that is shortsighted on your part, cause you haven't been in my shoes. Sometimes bitter is all I have to hold on to, to keep me from crying or locking myself in the bathroom all day.
Our anger and our bitterness is our own. We aren't saying that anyone is ungrateful for their kids, or anything else. We are saying that WE are upset, angry, bitter, unhappy. It has NOTHING to do with anyone else. It has to do with us. Do not tell us that we shouldn't feel the way we do...especially if you haven't been through it.
I don't want anyone to ever fell guilty about conceiving easily. Ever. That is stupid. I do want them to take the extra five seconds to think about what they are saying before they say it. Or they might get met with some bitterness.
