Originally Posted by mtiger
Personally, I find your reference to this friend as DH's "little friend" much more offensive than the term "exotic". The latter means unique and rare. The former? Is simply demeaning.
I actually read that before I posted and considered taking it out, but he's a good friend of ours, and they kind of have that relationship -- my dh is 42, friend is 25. In his defense, he said he meant exotic as "special, unique" but like others have pointed out here, that's not really what it means, if you go by the dictionary definition.
Originally Posted by Sarah W
We're all interesting to someone!
We are all interesting, and different, and a novelty somewhere, but that is very different than what the word "exotic" means. I found it interesting that most people who replied were blonde/white, and had tales of being found an oddity in other places. That is very true -- in cultures where there aren't a lot of blondes, people are fascinated by blonde hair, and white people in general -- BUT!!! I would argue that the actual term "exotic" would not be used, nor would the word used about the white person be an equivalent to the word "exotic". In parts of Africa, the words used to describe people who are not from there are more equivalent to "traveler" or simply "white person". Here is an interesting blog post I found from a Nigerian woman on the topic...
SilverWillow sums it up for me in her first post -- if you look at the actual definition of the word exotic, it is basically defined as "other", and why are white people "normal" and everyone else is "other"? it's funny, MCatLvrMom2A&X, because after I posted I did think of the fact that white women with sharp features are sometimes called exotic looking -- what does that really mean, though? the first thing that popped into my head was that they almost look alien or animal, with their very striking features -- not "normal" like everyone else, right? The term exotic, though, is often applied to women (not men, for the most part -- I've never heard it applied to men) of color who are also lovely to look at. Almost universally, I would bet that if you asked "pretty" women of color if they've ever been called 'exotic', the answer would be yes. there are models on the runways who are of all different races who are a little on the odd looking side, and they're there because their particular beauty is considered "exotic" whereas the odd looking white girls are called "unique" -- it's a double standard that I'm not comfortable with, and I know there are many others who aren't either, so I would choose not to use it.
Essentially, for me, "exotic" is a loaded term, and I don't think it should be applied to people. Plants, animals, locations, sure, but it's really objectifying and imperialistic to call a person exotic, imho.