How/When are you telling people you are pg?

[SuzyLee]

With DS it was a suprise aka accident, so we kept it quiet for awhile and honestly I had trouble getting excited at first.

This time I am bursting to tell people! I am so excited!

We are telling my fam over 4th of July weekend. I got a "I love my G'pa" picture frame and put 2 pics side by side. One pic of DS, and then a blank peice of paper that says "Due Date March 3rd 2010". I will be 5.5 weeks when we tell but I can't wait!

DH will call his parents since they live far away.

How about you?

[1babysmom]

We won't be telling until at least 10-12 weeks, most likely (if for some reason it slips before that it'll just be to immediate family and they'll be required to keep quiet). We've had multiple miscarriages in the past and had to do the "un-telling" thing, AND we didn't get as much support as I would've expected (you know the whole "I'll tell people because I'll want support if we miscarry" thing...that's a lot harder in a family who's never experienced miscarriages before!). It is just more stressful to me to know that people know than it is for me to keep it to myself.

Also, I don't want to deal with any negative comments...I'm sure certain people out there will make those comments about how we're too young for #3, it's too soon after #2, how are we going to afford another, blah blah blah. DH and I consider every child a perfect gift from God, but it seems like my family prefers we meet some sort of checklist before each child.

Anyway...gosh, my reply is kind of a downer! I am THRILLED about this baby though (as is DH! not to mention he's pretty proud of himself... ...we had to try for a year and a half for each of the girls, so this pregnancy coming so easily was encouraging! ). We'll probably wait a while to tell my oldest DD since otherwise she'd blab, but she's going to be thrilled! She was too young to really be in the "little mommy" stage when DD2 was born, but she's been VERY much into babies lately!!

[SuzyLee]

Having never experienced a m/c I don't have that worry- but I can definitely see why you would want to keep quiet about it until you are farther along.

The first thing DH said when I told him I was pg (first cycle trying) was "I guess we don't get to have lots of sex anymore". He was kind of hoping it would take awhile I think

[sarahr]

We're telling almost everyone right away.

Before I conceived our DD, we suffered an early miscarriage. I hadn't told anyone we were pregnant, but I ended up telling people that I miscarried, because I wanted support. Then, when we conceived DD, we didn't tell anyone for while because I was nervous, but that took away from my excitement.

So I've decided that being excited about this pregnancy won't do anything to change the outcome -- for good or for bad -- and I don't mind telling people if I miscarry, so I'm going to enjoy shouting it from the rooftops!

[2sweetgrrls]

We waited until 23 (!!!) weeks to tell anyone with our first, mostly because I was really nervous after losing one at almost 11 weeks a year earlier and wasn't completely reassured even after multiple ultrasounds. With my second, we waited until we saw a heartbeat around 7 weeks and then told.

This time around is a little different; we told my husband's parents because my MIL is going in for heart surgery at the end of this week to replace three valves and they're not very hopeful she'll come through it. So it was very, very important to us that we tell them right away just in case, and I am so, so glad we did--the rest of the night, MIL couldn't stop talking about it and when we went to leave at bedtime, she took me aside and told me it was the best birthday present she's ever gotten in her entire life.

Outside of them, though, we're only telling friends we mostly just see online until I can hear the heartbeat, then we'll spill the beans to everyone else--though I may make an exception to tell my mommy. The only reason we're not telling the girls yet is 36 weeks is a really, really long wait and I just think it'll be easier if we wait a month or two and cut a little bit of time off the wait for them. Like 1babysmom's daughter, my girls are waaaay into the little mommy stage right now and ADORE babies (and have been making comments for months now about wanting a little brother) and I think they're going to be really excited.

[lincap]

I have told 2 IRL friends and 1 of my mama friends from my DS2 DDC.

So other than posting here, we are keeping quiet. I am thinking of waiting a few more weeks until telling family. July 11 for DHs mom and dad because we will see them then. This is our 3rd child and my older sister has had many miscarriages so telling her and my family is just tough.. I get mixed reviews from the fam. Some happy others mad.

My friends and homeschool co-op will find out maybe 10-12 weeks (unless I barf in front of anyone!! LOL!)

[Eco_Ma]

You guys are the first people I have told!! was going to wait for the 3 month part but to be honest I dont know if i can wait !!!

[cocoanib]

Good thread!

I figured 2 months, but DH said he can't wait that long. I compromised with 4 weeks.
Las night he was talking about telling his family this weekend over 4th of July. I'm pretty against it, but if he is bursting so bad he wants to tell, then so be it.

I'll probably wait to tell my peeps at 2 months.
I don't know when I will tell work.

[staceychev]

As I said on the symptoms thread, I've got blabber-itis. DH wanted to wait until the end of the summer, but I agreed to the end of July. That being said, I couldn't keep it from my mom. So I told her. And then, in the interest of parity, I told all the other g-parents. And, I was talking to a neighbor about the "next one" and she said "Are you pregnant?" I couldn't lie, could I? Then, I told a friend. Then my cousin was making comments, and I couldn't keep it from her either.

So yeah. Good intentions. Ha!

[catchthewind]

With our last we told our families around 6 weeks and everyone else around 7-8 weeks, though I kept it from work until about 13 weeks. With this one, we will probably wait until 6-7 weeks to tell families and after that if it slips out it slips, but I won't be shouting it from the rooftops or posting it on Facebook likely until after we first hear the heartbeat, so I guess around 11-12 weeks. I'm not overly concerned about miscarriage or anything, but it's kind of nice having my little secret too. There is one irl friend who knows and because she knows my husband wants to tell another good friend of ours too, but other than them no one else knows.

[whozeyermamma]

This is what complicates it for me: I'd tell everyone and anyone right now - but if something does go wrong I don't want my kid to have to deal with it.

I know many people (a good friend included) told their older kids because they figured if something happened the kid's gonna know something's up ... it just makes me feel uncomfortable ... I don't know why. It really doesn't make sense b/c she's not a hyper-emotional kind of kid. :

I'm sure it has to do with MY worrying about her, not her worrying!

All that said, I'm going to tell my folks tonight. They'd be upset if I didn't. It will come out very soon with our neighbors I'm sure b/c we're all super tight and everyone knows everyone else's bidness. (And one of them is due in Oct. and knows we're trying.)

I'll be telling a group of gf's later this week b/c we set up a time to meet for drinks before I got my BFP and now they will all totally notice when I order seltzer instead of wine!!!

[HippieChristianMum]

The first person I told other than DH was my best friend. We had our youngest boys one month apart, and the morning of the day that I took my test she told me that she is pregnant again. I took my test that afternoon and, after the shock wore off for me and DH, I called her and said, "Guess what?" So here we are, doing it again! Neither of us knew we were pregnant this time, so it was a total shock for both of us, but a good kind of shock.

I have told immediate family members and close friends, but I figure it will just trickle down through to everyone else (church, neighbors, etc.). We did wait a few days before we told my in-laws, because they tend to not be very excited when we tell them we are pregnant. But they feigned excitement at least for our sakes. I know they will be over the moon when the baby comes.

I had a MC 5 weeks before I got pregnant with Hudson. I think it would probably be considered a chemical pregnancy, because I found out I was pregnant and lost the baby in the same week. I was definitely cautious during my pregnancy with Hudson, though we still told people. I am still cautious this time, but we are excited and so is everyone else (except the in-laws).

[brightskye]

Yesterday when my dh got home from work I was waiting for him, laying on the bed with my shirt partially open and miniature pink roses resting on my tummy, and white rose petals all over the bed. His eyes lit up and I said, "this might be the last time I ever get to tell you this, I'm pregnant."

But then I swore him to secrecy because my bfp was sooo faint, I don't want to tell anyone for at least another few weeks, when I feel more comfy that it won't end up being a chemical.

[BelovedK]

I am a blabbermouth I want to tell everyone!!

When I had a CP in Feb, I was very upset, but so many people hadn't known I was pregnant that there were hardly any people to share my pain with. I did tell some people that I had been pregnant and had lost it

[SuzyLee]

We told my family yesterday.

We gave my dad "a late Fathers day present". It was a I Love G'PA Picture frame. On the inside I put a pic of DS on one side and on the other side I wrote "Due Date March 3rd, 2010". My dad opened it and stared at it with a puzzled look. Then he read the due date out loud, still confused.

My mom's face lit up and she said "you're pregnant" and my dad is like "what! what is this! " So I told him it was the due date of his next grandbaby. It was really cute.

My brother and sister both screamed. I think they were just totally shocked. Everyone is excited.

[BelovedK]

I am dying to tell my parents!!! I can't do it though until DH decides to tell his family I hope it is soon.

[DoulaVallere]

With our first, we waited until we had heard the heartbeat to tell (and my mom said "Oh I knew weeks ago when you said you didn't feel well) : SO much for a surprise! (I had handed her a half empty box of tampons and said "Here mom, I won't be needing these for a while so you can have em."...*I* thought it was clever )

With DS2 we told people right away.

This time, we've told friends, but not family. We're waiting till after my first mw appt on the 25th. My mom's b'day is Aug 10, so we figgure we'll give her an early b'day pressent....one of my tests wrapped up. For DH's mom, I think we are going to put DS2 in an "I'm the Big Brother" shirt and just go visit and see how long it takes her to notice.

I HAD to tell someone, though, so I told my 3 best friends, one of which found out she was pregnant 2 days after me...we're so excited to be pregnant together. Of the other two friends, one will be my doula (she's my doula buisness partner) and the other has a 3wk old DD who I was the doula for. I'm hoping all three can attend the birth (though maybe not the one due 2 days before me...we'll have to play that by ear), so I wanted them to be on the journey with me from the beginning.

We'll probably announce at church during praise/prayer request time after we tell our folks.

[cocoanib]

Originally Posted by cocoanib

Good thread!

I figured 2 months, but DH said he can't wait that long. I compromised with 4 weeks.
Las night he was talking about telling his family this weekend over 4th of July. I'm pretty against it, but if he is bursting so bad he wants to tell, then so be it.

I'll probably wait to tell my peeps at 2 months.
I don't know when I will tell work.

Well, yesterday I met with a friend for breakfast and she asked when DH and I were going to start a family. So, I told her a brownie was in the oven already. It felt good to share it with someone. She was so excited for us!

DH absolutely could not wait to tell his fam, so we were going to do it together today. Turns out he's working today, so he went over to visit them last night. His idea was to tell them to look at all the stuff we bought and have a bag of the baby clothes I've been buying here and there(even before being preg).
Instead, I surprised him by bringing him a "Grandma loves me bib" and some baby chuck taylors(his fav shoes to wear) by his job, so he could take those over to show them.

They called me that evening all crying and excited! He filmed the whole thing, so I'll be abke to see their reactions when he get's back.

I didn't know it could be so much fun telling people :

[catchthewind]

Oh I forgot to tell how we are telling people. The day I got my bfp my husband was at work. I went and bought Meredith a shirt that says "Big Sis" and put her in it before her nap. When she woke up, I told my husband to go get her. Of course, he didn't notice the shirt. I finally pointed it out to him and he read it out loud, then asked "Why would you put her in a shirt like that? She's not a big sister yet." I just gave him a look and he got it finally.

Our families are all long distance from us. My FIL is coming in two weeks, and we may put Meredith in the shirt and see if he notices. For the rest of the family we'll likely just tell them over the phone. Once we decide to tell everyone else I will put a picture of Meredith in her shirt on Facebook and see how long it takes people to notice.

[zonapellucida]

Oh I have no clue--I am just going to hear AGAIN??????