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post #21 of 26
Why wouldn't you tell your child to stay away from poison ivy or similar plants? I thought that was pretty basic to do that.

I would definitely tell my dd if I knew she was allergic to something.

SunshineJ- Your relatives are the odd ones IMO.
post #22 of 26
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The outdoor stuff IS tricky! The way it originally came up was that the previous owners of our house had planted some "decorative" weeds that I and my son are highly allergic to, and I was outside with a mask digging the little buggers up. DS had asked what I was doing and I explained that those particular plants were ones that made our allergies much worse. He then asked if there were any other grasses/weeds in the yard that did that and we showed him the ones that can cause us problems. No doubt this was not an inclusive list and didn't account for the combinations, but the ones we showed him do cause a rash as well as respiratory issues for him. He evidentally remembered this on our visit! My in-laws just couldn't grasp why we would teach him such things and proceeded to mock us and make fun of us, warning that ds would use that as an excuse to get out of everything. Needless to say that wasn't the only issue during the visit and the visit was cut short!

This seems totally reasonable and responsible to me! No one has a right to tell you that you should disempower your child for fear they'll become a "cry baby"

I think that keeping kids informed about health issues makes them feel like they've got some control over the situation and also helps them start to take responsibility for their own health. That said, I'm coming at this having been an informed child that maybe got a bit over-zealous at times. I think that was more just my personality though.
post #23 of 26
i haven't read the replies yet but...my son has multiple food sensitivities, allergies, etc. and we keep him informed about all of them. he's been well aware of them for over 2 years now. it's his body, he should know what's safe and unsafe for him to ingest.
post #24 of 26
limabean - i actually know of a potential employee who's mom called and complained about the salary JR was offered. she was quite upset that the company didn't think JR was worth more. imagine how thrilled they were when mom informed them that JR couldn't come to work for that salary!


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Unfortunately it's in the classroom as well. I've had parents want to call or email to tell me about their children's issues with test-taking or to discuss why their child got a certain grade. I would have been humiliated if my mom had done that when I was in college. My mentor actually has started saying clearly at the beginning of classes that she will not talk to parents about classes. If you can't talk to her, then you don't need to be in college.
and also in the dorms. parents frequently call and complain about the behavior of a roommate and want the housing staff to deal with telling the roommate and making it stop instead of the kid actually, you know, talking to the person themselves and trying to work it out.


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Catubodoa...wtf? What if the kids went out to eat? It sounds like these aren't serious food allergies. (The kid would know if he carried an Epi-Pen, right? My 3 yo knows about her Epi-Pen, for Pete's sake.) I'm wondering if it's more "Oh, poor Precious can't sleep well if she has too much chocolate."
i agree that many of the issues were probably more food preferences and intolerances vs actual allergies. however, after i got blindsided by the first phone call, i wouldn't engage in the conversation with the parents so i never really knew how serious things were.


for the OP - i hope all of these replies highlight for you how wonderful it is that you are teaching your child how to think for himself and how to handle things that may be harmful to him but innocuous to others. good job!
post #25 of 26
My DD has a lot of food allergies and one critical environmental one and I've tried to figure out where a generation or two older is coming from with their dismissal of these conditions. Was it only a certain kind of kid that had allergies back in the day? Was this sort of thing just not discussed in polite company? Is it denial that anything could be wrong with their grandkids?
post #26 of 26
If we knew that K was allergic to something, we would totally want him to know about it and being able to identify it so he doesn't come in contact with said item. Seems very much like a no-brainer. The grandparents probably don't view the weed as a huge issue. But what if it were a food (strawberries) and if he ate it he would go into shock and/or die very quickly? Wouldn't they want the child to be able to identify the item and to know that something bad would happen if they ate it? I also don't think it's a big deal to let a child cry. Now, depending on the crying and why it was happening, might vary my response. But I don't tell K to not cry-he just might have to go to his room to finish his crying .
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