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post #21 of 182
My DD won't listen well enough in the store to just follow me. She runs, runs into other people and just creates chaos. She is getting better, but usually she ends up in the cart because of her non-listening. She's almost 3 and at 19 months there is NO way I would have tried to let her follow me. She was even more all over the place, I almost got one of those leash back pack things because she was sooooo fast and would be gone. Her energy level is about a 20 on a scale of 10, so the focus required to follow and do it well aren't quite there. If I have a free hand she is much better, she will now hold hands, which is a marked improvement over last year. I stopped taking her to any public markets or anything like that for the fear of her getting run over because she'd drop my hand and dart.

I guess you are lucky to have a LO that stays by, my DD needs to RUN all. the. time. Some kids are mellow, mine is not.
post #22 of 182
I let them walk only if they can stay right by an adult, otherwise they go in the cart. DD2 is 2.5y and well, she is 2 obviously, and acts like it! I rarely take her for long shopping trips anymore, she doesn't want to ride and wants to run all over the place which I don't allow. Many a time I end up leaving her in the car with DH while I go in with another child or two.
post #23 of 182
It depends on several factors:

1) What kind of store is involved.
2) What kind of shopping trip is it? (Quick, get what we need and go vs. time to browse.)
3) If it's a big store, where in the store are we?

If it's the proverbial china shop, the no, I won't let him run around.

If it's a toy store, I'm more likely to say yes. Especially if there's an area that we can stay put and watch him as he wanders around.

If we just need to pick up one-five things and then get out of there, we'll usually carry him.

If we have time to browse, then we can go at more of a toddler pace.

If it's a big box store, we'll mix it up. DS can wander in the toy section, he can't wander in the chemical's or tools section. One of us monitors him constantly. Often, I'll let him wander around the front of the store while DH is checking out.

When DS is on his feet at the store, we'll usually use his teddy bear leash. Then it's a combination of letting him lead some, and making him stay with us some.
post #24 of 182
I let my kids out within reason. It really is a case by case basis. They run around if there are no people in the area. When people come near I have them stay close or they go in the cart. I figure it is age appropriate to want to burn off some energy. We try to walk a fine line. That being said- I try to get them to stay in the cart as much as possible- makes life so much easier.
post #25 of 182
Mine run sometimes. Not with me, but when a large store is fairly empty (common around here these days), or in the mall, my kids definitely run with my DH or FIL. We use it to get their energy out on bad weather days. Of course we use judgment about safety, the proximity of other people, etc. We've been doing it for four years without anyone complaining to us about it, and no adverse events (knock on wood).
post #26 of 182
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Originally Posted by suebee79 View Post
I'm thinking there are two different trains of t hought going on here. Actual RUNNING around willy-nilly and walking near mama. I'm in the walking near mama camp.
I'm with this.
post #27 of 182
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Originally Posted by erinsmama View Post
I sometimes allow my 19 month old daughter to run around in stores when my husband is with us to watch her. If I am alone shopping with her, she doesn't leave the shopping cart.

I'm wondering if any other parents do this. I don't see many others her age running around & sometimes I wonder if we should allow this. Sometimes she does get a little crazy & runs really fast around the store. If my husband & I are there, she seems to expect to be able to do this.

Another concern I have is that, I feel she needs to learn how to follow me around the store & not the other way around. KWIM? How do I teach her this, or is there some point when she will understand this & actually follow me.

I'm thinking sometime when she wants out of the cart with both of us there, that we should use that as the opportunity to show her that she has to stay close, or put her back in the cart. It may take a while for her to learn & there may be tantrums involved, but do you think that is a good plan? Or do you think she's too young to understand that at this point? Tell me what you think!
It really doesn't sound like you are letting her "run around' in the way I imagined reading your title. I was thinking darting out in front of carts, playing dodge ball with produce, being separated by three aisles from you. My daughter is 2.5 and she knows how to wriggle out of the cart. If I put her down she bolts, takes stuff off shelves, puts random food we weren't planning to buy into the bottom of the cart and acts like a toddler. When the store is not busy I will let her down with the caveat that she walk, stay with mommy, etc. Her incentive is usually that she can look at the lobsters while I get meats. She knows that if she can't see me I can't see her, but she gets to the point where she doesn't care. She goes back in the cart. If she screams, stands up etc. we leave. Much more of a punishment for me than her, but I can't deal with it and that's the best solution. If I had an adult helper I'd give more leeway because dh could follow her around and redirect unacceptable behaviors. But if dh and I were both free to take two kids to the grocery store the easiest thing for everyone is for him to just stay home with them!
post #28 of 182
I prefer that dd ride in the stroller but at this age she tends to pitch a fit and struggle to get down. So I let her wander around. She isn't running around at top speed like a maniac, tripping people and slamming into displays. She toddles around clutching her baby doll and does her own shopping and if she makes any messes I clean them up before we go.
post #29 of 182
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Originally Posted by erinsmama View Post
I sometimes allow my 19 month old daughter to run around in stores when my husband is with us to watch her. If I am alone shopping with her, she doesn't leave the shopping cart.

I'm wondering if any other parents do this. I don't see many others her age running around & sometimes I wonder if we should allow this. Sometimes she does get a little crazy & runs really fast around the store. If my husband & I are there, she seems to expect to be able to do this.

Another concern I have is that, I feel she needs to learn how to follow me around the store & not the other way around. KWIM? How do I teach her this, or is there some point when she will understand this & actually follow me.

I'm thinking sometime when she wants out of the cart with both of us there, that we should use that as the opportunity to show her that she has to stay close, or put her back in the cart. It may take a while for her to learn & there may be tantrums involved, but do you think that is a good plan? Or do you think she's too young to understand that at this point? Tell me what you think!
Don't let her run in the store if you want to teach her to walk with you and/ or stay with the cart. You are giving her conflicting expectations. Consistency is the key. 19 months isn't too young to get that if she wants out of the cart, she must walk with you. If she can't, she goes back in the cart. And it will take time for her to get this as you now have to untrain her from running in the store first. And running in the store is rude behavior from anyone. Not to mention that it's dangerous, not only to her but to the other customers, employees, and the merchandise.
post #30 of 182
I do not let my children run around the store .....Just recently we were out at a store and ds2 was in a stroller and a little girl ran into him...and was running so fast she hit the stroller so hard it tipped over ...thankfully I had a good grip on it at the time and was able to keep him from hitting his head
post #31 of 182
I don't mind them calmly walking next to me rather than being in the cart, but I don't let them run around in stores. dd2 is a darter, and she doesn't pay attention to things around her. She could very easily get hurt or break something.
post #32 of 182
No, mostly because I find it really irritating when I'm shopping to have people's kids zooming and weaving and dodging me while I'm attempting to shop.

I don't say anything, but I find it rather maddening when the parent is just shopping and doing their thing while their kids are all over the place.

It's not very courteous.

My husband once or twice let our youngest do it and I got really angry. All the time I'd spent teaching about "holding a hand" "stay by mommy" went out the window. The store was a race track. Hahaha wheeeee!!!!!!!

I had to educate him.
post #33 of 182
when I read "run around" I don't picture an actually running child. I don't think that's what she meant. I imagined roaming toddler.
post #34 of 182
We do no let ODS run around the store because he behaves in a way that I would find obnoxious if it was someone else's child doing it. I don't want him to be regarded as a nuisance (nor do I want to be "that mom") so he goes in the cart or in the Ergo on my back. He is 20 months and very energetic and curious so he would get into all kinds of mischief if allowed to roam!
post #35 of 182
actual running, no. But walking along with us, even slightly aheah, yes.

I prefer to have my 2 yo in the Ergo or in the front of the shopping cart b/c it's easier for me... But, there are times when he can be out and walking -- especially if I only have him and one other kid, or even better, just him. Most of the time, however, it's the entire family at the store together. With four kids, the more that are contained, the better - especially the younger 2.
post #36 of 182
DS (23 mos) likes to walk next to me and the cart. He does well with staying close by, but he's an observant, slow-to-warm-up child so I do not worry too myc about him darting or running away from me. I'd probably feel differently if he had a different tempermant. I only let him do this on shorter shopping trips. If I'm doing a whole grocery order he stays in the cart, mostly for the sake of time and my sanity.
post #37 of 182
No. People don't always pay attention and a running toddler is bound to get hit with a shopping cart. Or knock a display down on themselves.

My toddler rides it the cart or holds dh's hand if we're all there. My older son walks beside the cart, but the rule for him is to hold onto the cart in the parking lot. It just takes some consistency to teach them, but she may well not like that now that she's been allowed to run.
post #38 of 182
I didn't, but then XH never ever ever went shopping with us when I had to small ones, nor did he ever stay home with them while I went. I don't know how I got so lucky, but my kids didn't realize that "down" was an option in the grocery store until they were about 5.
post #39 of 182
If you literally mean "run" as in running, then no I wouldn't do that. It's dangerous. But I did allow dd to walk around with dh following her to make sure she didn't have or cause trouble when she was a toddler.
post #40 of 182
I didn't really want to set a precedent of ds walking around in stores when he was that age. I felt it was more appropriate (and, I admit, less crazy-making for me) if he rode in the cart. I had the same safety concerns as other posters. And I didn't want a tantrum every time I needed him to ride in the cart.

There were a couple of exceptions: we sometimes visit Ikea just for an outing, not for shopping, and he was free to run around there, since it's not busy during the week and there were no carts to hit him anyway. And there is one grocery store near us that has kid-sized carts, and we used to take him there to buy a few things as an outing, and he would push the cart himself.
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