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post #41 of 182
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Originally Posted by Alyantavid View Post
No. People don't always pay attention and a running toddler is bound to get hit with a shopping cart. Or knock a display down on themselves.
I once saw a child hide inside of a clothing rack and shake it until it fell on top of him. I know that's a little bit different than a child bumping into a display, but it still shows that store displays aren't necessarily the safest things in the world.
post #42 of 182
Depends on the store and whether or not DH is with me.

Also, DS is never really "running" around... he did do that once in a Children's Place because DH was playing some sort of monster game with him, but we won't be doing that again. It's too dangerous and too obnoxious to other customers.

In the grocery store, he walks beside me or "pushes" the cart and helps put whatever item into the cart.

At Target, usually I do the actual shopping while DH and DS wander about. DS isn't really RUNNING, but he does choose where to go and what to look at and we're fine with that. He can entertain himself looking at vacuums for half an hour, so... great. But if he starts running off, we call him back and ask him to slow down or take our hand and show us what he wants to see.
post #43 of 182
We kept the kids in the cart or in a sling up until they were 3 or so. IMO, if you let them out of the cart once, they will very soon be out of the cart for good. LOL There was no in between with us, and the kids couldn't ( and I dont expect them to) understand why I would allow something sometimes but not other times. I think it sends mixed signals. Also, when they were old enough to walk beside me, they were also old enough to know to stay beside me and not go running down the aisles.
post #44 of 182
Haven't read all the replies but my answer is a strong no. I worked at Wal Mart for 2 years and not only did kids running around get lost pretty quickly but they also tended to climb on or under or in things and get hurt or there were times they'd trip up those trying to walk around including the elderly. It's not only a danger to the kids but also to some adults.
post #45 of 182
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Originally Posted by mysticmomma View Post
when I read "run around" I don't picture an actually running child. I don't think that's what she meant. I imagined roaming toddler.

This is exactly what I thought the OP meant, too.
And yes, I do let my dd roam the store at her own pace, be running or walking if her dad is with us and wants to follow her around. It's our consensual agreement that works for us. I have no worries about her tipping over displays or what have you, she just likes to wander around and having her daddy pretend to be chasing her. She could not would not get away from us and my husband would not allow her to get in other people's way any more than anyone else does at the grocery store.
But that said I mostly prefer to leave them both at home!


To the OP, I think you should just do what works for your family and not worry about other's opinion of it, that is if it is working, if it's not then just change it!
post #46 of 182
no not really. i might let dd get down and walk or check something out in an empty aisle or something, but she would definitely go crazy if i just let her run!
post #47 of 182
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Originally Posted by sisteeesmama View Post
This is exactly what I thought the OP meant, too.
And yes, I do let my dd roam the store at her own pace, be running or walking if her dad is with us and wants to follow her around. It's our consensual agreement that works for us. I have no worries about her tipping over displays or what have you, she just likes to wander around and having her daddy pretend to be chasing her. She could not would not get away from us and my husband would not allow her to get in other people's way any more than anyone else does at the grocery store.
But that said I mostly prefer to leave them both at home!


To the OP, I think you should just do what works for your family and not worry about other's opinion of it, that is if it is working, if it's not then just change it!


This is what I was trying to say as well. Running doesn't have to mean irritating or endangering anyone!
post #48 of 182
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Originally Posted by Snuzzmom View Post
Depends on the store and whether or not DH is with me.

Also, DS is never really "running" around... he did do that once in a Children's Place because DH was playing some sort of monster game with him, but we won't be doing that again. It's too dangerous and too obnoxious to other customers.

In the grocery store, he walks beside me or "pushes" the cart and helps put whatever item into the cart.

At Target, usually I do the actual shopping while DH and DS wander about. DS isn't really RUNNING, but he does choose where to go and what to look at and we're fine with that. He can entertain himself looking at vacuums for half an hour, so... great. But if he starts running off, we call him back and ask him to slow down or take our hand and show us what he wants to see.
Yes to all of this!
post #49 of 182
Nope, never let K run around the store. When I was little, I was with my babysitter and another child she babysat (maybe it was her daughter?). The little girl and I were playing/running around. She ran into the corner of one of the tall mirrored square poles department store used to have, sometimes still do. It was pretty bad. I have also hit my arm enough times on various racks to know how much it hurts. So from the getting hurt aspect alone I wouldn't allow it. But also, I don't view the store as a place to run around in. That's why we go to parks. But he can walk around holding our hand or now that he is a bit older, walking next to us.
post #50 of 182
In general I prefer to let my kids be a part of the shopping trip. They stay in the cart for a while, but often they will get out. I don't let them run, but they can walk and stay near me. They love to help and take turns putting things in the cart. My particularly active 5 year old gets a little overstimulated in stores (and then gets hyper) so I generally ask him to carry something heavy. That keeps him 'grounded' and helps prevent him from running. He can't help the need to run/touch everything/spin in circles so it is up to me to come up with ways to prevent that need.

The toddler needs more direction right now so I do spend a lot of time helping her to not run and teaching her to stay close. But that is my job, to TEACH her how to behave in stores so when she gets older (like her 3 older siblings) she will know what good store manners are. I don't allow her to run as it is dangerous with all the carts and people, but she is free to walk and explore as long as she is close by.

That said, I am realistic. I never go to more than 2 stores in a day. I try to make sure everyone is well fed, well rested, and in a frame of mind where they can handle a shopping excursion. I only go to stores with shopping carts (my 8 yo is ASD and gets overwhelmed in stores so he NEEDS to ride in the cart). And if we are having a day where *I* am lacking the patience necessary to shop alone with 4 young kids then I strike a deal with them to stay in the cart (except the 5 year old who needs to keep moving). If we get through the trip well we will have enough time for a really great treat after (or whatever).

Whatever works for a particular family is fine as long as everyone is safe. I often see kids tearing up and down aisles which I don't think is a good idea. My now 5 year old has done that and he did nearly knock down an elderly lady. I felt horrible (as did he). RUNNING isn't a good idea, but walking and exploring is fine
post #51 of 182
My kids are older now, but at that age, if we were in a large, wide-open store without many breakables or product, I would let the kids run around for awhile, but watching them like a hawk. For example, the mattress store, or the furniture outlet. But in the everyday Targets and groceries, no way. First of all, both my kids were (and still are) runners, so I'd spend my time chasing after them instead of shopping. Also, I did worry about disturbing other shoppers. I didn't want them to get hit with a cart or bump into someone. Or God forbid, trip an elderly person as a pp mentioned above.

DH and I own a chain of Health Food Stores, so you can imagine the amount of product on our shelves. Rows and rows and rows of little bottles, some glass. We have parents come in that do let their toddlers walk through the store and honestly, it's maddening. First of all, we have a kid space set up for the little ones. Toys, table/chairs, crayons, pretend cash register, etc. And we have fairly small stores so the area can be seen pretty well from everywhere. But kids often take things off the shelf, sometimes they bump into a shelf and a bottle falls and breaks. Even when the parents are trying to help put things back, they often put the product in the wrong spot (not seeing exactly where is was pulled from) and it reeks havoc on finding things for other customers and then reordering. We also had a toddler try to climb up one of our produce bins and break it. He wasn't hurt thank God, but we had never even considered this a hazard. I'm know the mom didn't "let" her son do it, but he did it when he was out of her sight for just a moment.
post #52 of 182
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Originally Posted by kiwiva View Post
I don't let DD run around. I don't really think it's safe. They can so quickly dart and get into something they shouldn't or have someone crash into them with a cart or whatever.
When my son was a toddler, I was shopping (with him in the cart) when I was turning the corner and a small child, about 2 years old, ran right into the side/corner of the cart. Her Mother cussed me out for "running over her baby" and I watched the child's forhead develope a giant, brused know on it. And I was being careful, moving the cart slowly, very aware that there were children running around in the store. It's simply not safe. Accidents happen in a blink of an eye,
post #53 of 182
No, I don't let DS run around. I know he would be getting into everything he shouldn't be and getting in other people's way. He is allowed out of the cart if he stays next to me and walks nicely. If he runs off, he goes back into the cart. He likes to stay out of the cart so he is learning that he needs to stay by me in order to do so.
post #54 of 182
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Originally Posted by sisteeesmama View Post
And yes, I do let my dd roam the store at her own pace, be running or walking if her dad is with us and wants to follow her around. It's our consensual agreement that works for us. I have no worries about her tipping over displays or what have you, she just likes to wander around and having her daddy pretend to be chasing her.

See, I can appreciate your view here, totally. But from my experience, even the kids being closely watched can cause accidents or get hurt. What if dad was chasing her, she turned around to look at him, wasn't watching where she was going, and ran into a display, or got hit in the head by someone's cart? Again, I appreciate the consensual agreement you have with her () but as a retail store owner, I've seen bad things happen to kids who were being closely supervised.
post #55 of 182
You know, I do let my daughter run wild in stores. We go to the same stores all the time and people know us. Our bookstore for example, I used to let her crawl around there, a few paces behind her, let her go around corners & peek at me, shriek & giggle. Once I let her take every bottle of elmer's glue off a shelf at a party & craft store, she lined them all up on the floor, then we put them back. But, when we seem to be bothering people, or things are getting too much for me to keep up with, I scoop her up and carry her. If she won't be carried nicely, I sometimes end up shopping quickly with a tantruming kid under my arm. (I do this as cheerfully as possible while pretending everything is perfectly normal.)
post #56 of 182
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Originally Posted by mamatoablessing View Post
See, I can appreciate your view here, totally. But from my experience, even the kids being closely watched can cause accidents or get hurt. What if dad was chasing her, she turned around to look at him, wasn't watching where she was going, and ran into a display, or got hit in the head by someone's cart? Again, I appreciate the consensual agreement you have with her () but as a retail store owner, I've seen bad things happen to kids who were being closely supervised.
But haven't you also seen accidents involving adults? I know I've walked into stuff before by just looking in another direction. (What can I say? I'm clumsy )
post #57 of 182
I don't let either of my children run around the store (they're almost 6 and 3). I feel that it's a danger to others as well as themselves. They're pretty fast, especially if I'm preoccupied with picking out apples or what have you and it wouldn't take them long to be out of eyesight and at the mercy of whoever they happen across. And while they're both pretty tall for their ages they are still short and many people don't see them until they've practically tripped over them. I personally don't like tripping over other people's kids who are running around a store willy nilly so I don't think others should have to put up with that with mine. Especially since we often go shopping in the morning when it seems that older people are generally at the store and they aren't as agile. Even if my DH was with us they still would not be allowed to run all over the place, I don't feel it's fair to them to have different rules for different people. If they want to walk they can but if they can't stay by me or the cart then they need to get back into the cart. A store is not a play place and I will not let them treat it as such. If they need to run and explore then they can do it at the park or another place that is more geared to that.
post #58 of 182
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Originally Posted by mamatoablessing View Post
See, I can appreciate your view here, totally. But from my experience, even the kids being closely watched can cause accidents or get hurt. What if dad was chasing her, she turned around to look at him, wasn't watching where she was going, and ran into a display, or got hit in the head by someone's cart? Again, I appreciate the consensual agreement you have with her () but as a retail store owner, I've seen bad things happen to kids who were being closely supervised.


Furthermore even just allowing them to roam can be an issue as when people are shopping they really aren't paying attention to the littles around.

For us shopping is a time we use our indoor voices and stay close to mom and/or dad. There are other places to roam and run around and after working in a huge store shopping just isn't the time or the place, IMO.
post #59 of 182
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Originally Posted by suebee79 View Post
But haven't you also seen accidents involving adults? I know I've walked into stuff before by just looking in another direction. (What can I say? I'm clumsy )
Actually, no. I guess I'd never thought of it that way though. So from that perspective, you're right. It could happen to anyone. But I have definitely seen accidents (and destruction of my products) involving little ones. See my previous post about the toddler scaling one of my produce bins.
post #60 of 182
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Originally Posted by suebee79 View Post
But haven't you also seen accidents involving adults? I know I've walked into stuff before by just looking in another direction. (What can I say? I'm clumsy )
All the more reason to keep your kids close by. Adults often times just aren't paying attention while shopping.
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